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LOL Smithie. That reminds me of when my husband was filling out one of the sheets, and he checked off that I was "moody". I said "What the heck, I am NOT moody!" He says "To be fair you are being moody right now."


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Mountainmama: I'm glad the second visit went better!

 

AFU: Our first visit, the "safety check," is this week. Or next week. We really don't know yet. It will be some time after this Tuesday. That's all we know. I'm about to go insane cleaning and scrubbing this house to within an inch of its life.

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MountainMama:  Did you get your approval yet?

 

rs11:  I think the safety check is just that.  Did you get a checklist of all the things you need to complete?   Friends of ours who went through one gave us the advice to overthink everything on the list.   They have an antique stone fireplace and the licensing analyst wanted them to screw their fireplace screen into the stone!  Instead they had their fireplace decommissioned.  Do you know the person who is doing the check?  

 

AFM - our first inspection is finally scheduled - October 10th.   Considering it was supposed to be done 4 months ago, I am excited that we are finally moving forward.   DH and I said if they hadn't visited by November 1st we were going to start over with an agency rather than DCFS.   Luckily, it seems like we don't have to start over. 


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PUH: Congrats on getting it scheduled! According to the inspector, we don't have to have ANYTHING done before he comes out; he's supposedly going to give us a checklist of things to have done before the second visit. It seems a little strange to me, and we are trying to get child safety latches and so forth on before he comes regardless.


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PUH: Yay for a date! Our SW is not done the report yet. We figure by October sometime. 


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We passed our safety inspection!!!!!!! joy.gif

 

Now we have six weeks to get the room ready and do a few small tasks before the next (and final) inspection.

 

MMGC: Good luck! I hope she gets it done soon.


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October 10th seemed so far off a couple weeks ago.  Now hubby is super busy (working with the Biebs - but that is another story!)  and I have been struggling with a cold that turned to pneumonia.   I think that I am going to have to invite all my friends over for a house cleaning party on October 9th.  Nothing seems to be getting done around here. 


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October 10th seemed so far off a couple weeks ago.  Now hubby is super busy (working with the Biebs - but that is another story!)  and I have been struggling with a cold that turned to pneumonia.   I think that I am going to have to invite all my friends over for a house cleaning party on October 9th.  Nothing seems to be getting done around here. 

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QueenJane - I can let you know some of the details after Saturday night's performance - the first of his tour.  As for now, it is a secret.   wink1.gif


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QueenJane - I can let you know some of the details after Saturday night's performance - the first of his tour.  As for now, it is a secret.   wink1.gif

 

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Well, we didn't pass our safety inspection.  We need a second crib, window screens for the very old windows in our 1920s house, to fix the walls and ceiling in the bathroom which were at one point damaged by a leak.  My doc was not specific enough on my physical so I need to get them to fill out another form.  Luckily, we get one more chance and now we have a specific set of things that we need to fix.    The next appointment is on Oct 25th which doesn't give us much time to get the things done that need to be done.

 

Argggh.   I am so frustrated with this process.   


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PUH, it seems south of the border they focus more on the actual home, and up here they focus more on our personal lives. Good luck for the next one. 

 

Our homestudy got caught up when my FIL said my MIL was bipolar. She didnt handle the divorce too well, but she is not bipolar. I dont even know what compelled him to say that. So we are just waiting to sort that one out. Its not a big deal that she would be bipolar, but she is not. 


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LOL! about the bipolar comment.   I say those sorts of things off the cuff all the time so I understand what your FIL was implying.   We do have the personal side of things to do as well.  Here they split up the safety side that is done by the state and the personal stuff that is done by the county.  The state takes so long to do their thing so the county places a hold on your application until that is all done.  Most people wait at most 2 months for the state.  For us, it has been 6 months.   Our state analyst took a long leave of absence so that held up things on that front.  We found out today that it was because her husband died.   I guess that is like my job- if I take a leave of absence, it means nothing gets done and I just have more work to do when I get back.  So I felt some sympathy for her.  

 

In the meantime, we just spent $150 on supplies to make window screens for all of our old, janky windows.  


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Yay for home repairs. We just finished our basement this summer. We turned it into a suite with bathroom and kitchenette to generate some income to pay it off. I forgot to add that one of my good friends is pregnant, due in May and offered to be a milk donor. I told her I would buy her a pump to use at home. What a precious gift!! I am so happy about that. I have another friend that may be pregnant soon as well and she is also going to donate milk. I have a deep freezer to keep it so thats good. 


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Hello, hello, hello! It feels so good to have a reason to be back on MDC. I've been here before, a long time ago, when I was TTC#1. After a couple cycles of donor insemination using different donors. I decided to take a break and reevaluate my priorities. I certainly wanted to be pregnant and experience the joys and the challenges but I wanted to parent a child more than anything so I decided to adopt. I'd always thought I would eventually adopt anyway, it just didn't happen they way I thought. After interviewing a couple of non-profit adoption agencies I chose one that places children from foster care into adoptive homes. I've completed the orientation and the interview and now I am in the stage of training, applications, and background checks. I hope to matched by this time next year.

 

I've been reading the archives and I feel like I'm learning so much. Thank you all for your open and honest posts.
 


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Welcome to the TTAdopt Journey Newbian Mama!  I think there are a few of us who went from TTC#1 to here on MDC.  I think filling out paperwork is more fun then trips to the fertility clinic ending in disappointment - but that is why I chose this route over ART.  I'd love to hear more about your reproductive journey as well, if you feel like sharing.   

 

MountainMama - hooray for breastmilk donations!  My MIL insists that I should buy breastmilk from a milk bank if I get an infant placement.  However, there are a ton of hoops to jump through on that as well.    So do you have renters living in your basement now?   I've thought for a while about renting a room through Air BnB...  I am just a little scared of strangers in the house.

 

AFM - The house repairs saga has gotten crazy.  We had walls damaged by a leak that we thought we fixed.   Well, it rained in LA on Thursday.  This is the first time it has rained in 5 months or so.  Our leak came back or a new leak started, we are not sure.  So DH decided to replace that part of the roof entirely.   The roof came off that part of the house.  Then we found old termite damage.  (No active termites which is lucky.)  So some spackle and paint turned into a new roof, replacing the roof framing and overlayment and then we can fix the drywall in the bathroom.    Home ownership can really suck.   


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In Canada all pregnant women are screened for Hep and HIV.  She doesnt take medication other than the occasional advil. I have known my friend for years, so its a bit better than finding a donor off the internet. However you can heat breastmilk to kill pathogens. Its still easy to digest although some of the antibodies may get killed. 


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PUH - those repairs do not sound fun at all. Of course now that they're complete you don't have to worry about the roof for the next 30 years. It still sucks now though.

Thanks for welcoming me as well. I've been away for so long that I don't see any names I recognize except for a couple and they're not in this thread. I don't really have a reproductive journey, per se. I'm single, then and now, so I chose to become pregnant by anonymous sperm donation. I inseminated less than a dozen times over six years, stopping and starting due to various reasons. Back in 2010 when I decided to inseminate every month for at least a year no matter what my cycles went haywire and I stopped ovulating. I think it was all the stress because I'm quite regular now. All that lead me to the realization that I wasn't going to get pregnant using frozen sperm so I switched my plan to private domestic adoption. After months of searching I finally found literally one agency that I could consciously use and I started saving money toward the $15k for the adoption. Just last month my aunt mentioned a local non-profit that placed children from foster care into adoptive homes. It took me all of 4 hours to contemplate, consider, then choose that route. I went to an orientation for that agency and another I'd found through a search. I liked both agencies very much and it was tiny little things which elevated one agency over the other. I chose that agency and learned last week that they accepted me into their program. So that's where I am now. Okay, I guess I did have a bit of a journey smile.gif

I'm in N. CA by the way. Does your county place kids from counties down there only or from all over CA? I know lots of agencies don't want to work across our "borders" so to speak. Fresno seems to be the cutoff point for those agencies. I haven't read all your previous posts but it seems that you and your husband are going diercly through the county? Have you had to specify the age range and identify the challenges you can handle yet? Every time I think I've made that decision I change my mind! Also are you adopting one child or a sibling group?

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Newbian Mama, congrats on pursuing adoption as a single parent. I've adopted three kids via foster care adoption (plus i have one bio who is off at college now!) and will probably pursue the adoption of 1 or 2 more next year.
 


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Thank you so much. I may be coming to you for help and advice since you've BTDT! It's funny that my agency assured me they worked with singles and were fine with my status; I never even considered it would be an issue. That was until I was browsing the Interwebs and saw some counties still advise for a two-parent home and even one county, (San Bernardino) which stated a baby or toddler must have a SAHM! I guess it does matter to some. I remember reading your posts some time ago and I can't believe your eldest is already in college! That's awesome. When you adopted your kids from foster care did you go through the county/state or an agency? What was the process like, if you don't mind sharing.
I'll receive my application and paperwork requests sometime next week then it's on to fingerprints, CPR, and digging out my birth certificate.

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Welcome to the thread Newbian Mama. I found that moving from TTC to adoption took a lot of pressure off me. It can be stressful too, but its a different stress. I am so much happier now. 


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Thank you so much. I may be coming to you for help and advice since you've BTDT! It's funny that my agency assured me they worked with singles and were fine with my status; I never even considered it would be an issue. That was until I was browsing the Interwebs and saw some counties still advise for a two-parent home and even one county, (San Bernardino) which stated a baby or toddler must have a SAHM! I guess it does matter to some. I remember reading your posts some time ago and I can't believe your eldest is already in college! That's awesome. When you adopted your kids from foster care did you go through the county/state or an agency? What was the process like, if you don't mind sharing.
I'll receive my application and paperwork requests sometime next week then it's on to fingerprints, CPR, and digging out my birth certificate.

 

My oldest is going to a residential early college for kids skipping the last two years of high school. Its kind of crazy to think about, since he's not even 16 until the end of the month!

 

My kids came to me via fostering. If you search my posts you can probably find my whole big long story but i was initially trying to adopt (not foster) a school age boy (started the process when my oldest was 9) but it took forever. My agency sucked. So i switched agencies and got a foster license instead, since i was told that where i live most available kids are adopted by foster parents or relatives (like, over 90 percent!) Unlike my first agency which homestudied me very quickly, my next agency took forever to even start the foster licensing process. I think my initial class was in the spring, and it wasnt until the following Jan that i got my license. But within a month of getting it, i was placed with my first adopted son, who was three weeks at the time. That was a dream placement in that it went to adoption very quickly and i finalized before he was 11 months old. Then...i got no more calls. Finally i inquired with the agency and it turns out i was "on hold" in error with them. Once i fixed that, i got a call for a baby girl who stayed two months (i knew it would be temporary), then a month after she left, i got the call for what was to be my second adopted son. I thought HE would be temporary but the goal changed to adoption shortly after he arrived, and rights were terminated seven months after he was placed with me. It was more than a YEAR after that however that we could finalize (because the second agency turned out to suck too. Looong crazy story.) In that time his older half-sister (who had been with relatives, then in a foster home) was placed with my as a foster but with the goal of adoption. We've been finalized for for almost 1.5 years now. I am hoping to start the process again soon (dreading it though) because i'd like at least one, maybe two, kids (probably boys) younger than my youngest ones. I REALLY really really dont want to foster again though, unless its one of those cases where its going almost straight to adoption.

 

Where i live most people work through private agencies that place state children. I'm trying to decide who i will go with this time. Each agency has its own caseload of kids (which are ultimately supervised by the county), so its likely i'd adopt from that agency's "pool" of children but once i have an actual approved homestudy (mine is too old now to use) i could adopt any available child even one from another state. Right now there is a sib set of three boys on my state photolisting (3 yr old and his twin 1 yr old brothers) that im dying for, but its not going to happen. I'm sure they will be matched quickly and im probably crazy to even think adding THREE more right now is a good idea but a houseful of boys sounds like so much fun.

 

What ages are you thinking about adopting? I've had some issues with my 10 yr old, and am not keen on adopting an "older" child again any time soon. (She was 8 at placement.)


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Hello, hello, hello! It feels so good to have a reason to be back on MDC. I've been here before, a long time ago, when I was TTC#1. After a couple cycles of donor insemination using different donors. I decided to take a break and reevaluate my priorities. I certainly wanted to be pregnant and experience the joys and the challenges but I wanted to parent a child more than anything so I decided to adopt. I'd always thought I would eventually adopt anyway, it just didn't happen they way I thought. After interviewing a couple of non-profit adoption agencies I chose one that places children from foster care into adoptive homes. I've completed the orientation and the interview and now I am in the stage of training, applications, and background checks. I hope to matched by this time next year.

 

I've been reading the archives and I feel like I'm learning so much. Thank you all for your open and honest posts.
 

Hi!  My parents adopted my 2 sisters and brother in AND I adoopted my two oldest daughters from foster care in 2005.  Then a good friend of mine adopted from foster care as a single mom in 2010.  Just be ready for times that are NOT easy, but it is worth it.  Adopting our girls was one of the best things we have ever done.  Be prepared to ask LOTS of questions and stay on top of the state/agency.  Feel free to ask any questions...  I have been through this process once for myself and then 3 times with other people... :)  Good luck!!!


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Newbian Mama - I am so glad you are in California as well.  I'd love to compare notes with how it is working through your agency.    As far as receiving placements across borders, when working with DCFS, we only will receive local placements.   The reason for this is that when working from foster care, prior to adoption, you will still be required to take the children for visits with their parents or extended family depending on what the courts say.   

 

That being said, I'd go through an agency if I had to do it again.   Originally, we thought, what's the difference? it's just a cheaper means to the same end.  The local agencies have some fees for homestudies and other legal things that we won't have to pay.  However, you get what you pay for and there is a complete lack of communication on our end.    If we email our caseworker, it is unlikely that we get a response.  The only way we have found we can communicate is if we keep calling her office number until we luck out and connect with her on a day she is in the office. 

 

Friends of mine who went through a FFA was placed with a baby a week after their final approvals (and it was their second call, they turned the first down!).  Technically we've already been on the waiting list for 6 months.  Your name gets added to that list when you start MAPP class, not when you finish your paperwork and get final approvals.   In fact, we've been told that people will sometimes get calls before they finish with the licensing.  There is a steep fine for letting kids get dropped off at your house ($200 a day - I think) before you get your license though.    They have the most inefficient system for tracking all of this.   I am sure that it will get better as they adopt new technology.  Or so I can dream.   I think at a FFA they manage their cases better.   Or maybe it just seems that way in a "grass is greener" kind of way.

 

I know that in LA County, being a single parent is fine.  I don't think there is any preference given to couples over singles.  What age group are you thinking about?   In California, if you work somewhere that is required to give maternity leave, you also get paid family leave for foster kids who you are planning to adopt.  Apparently there is some complicated paperwork for this for your caseworker but I don't know of all the details.   DH and I both work full time and if either of us has to be "stay at home" it will be him.  I work for the state so they have to follow all the rules which means they can steal two weeks of my vacation, there is a 7 day waiting period and the maximum time off for PFL is 6 weeks.    So it is not much but this is true for each placement whether they stay or not.  I think PFL pay is about 55% of your gross pay and not taxed.  DH is self employed so he makes his own rules but doesn't get PFL because he doesn't have to pay CA SDI.

 

I don't know if the T.I.E.S program is local to LA County or not, but you should check out whether similar things exist in your county.  www.tiesforadoption.ucla.edu/  


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That being said, I'd go through an agency if I had to do it again.   Originally, we thought, what's the difference? it's just a cheaper means to the same end.  The local agencies have some fees for homestudies and other legal things that we won't have to pay.  However, you get what you pay for and there is a complete lack of communication on our end. 

 

People should also be aware that in most states there is something called "reimbursement for nonrecurring adoption expenses"...the amount varies but i believe its usually in the $1500-2000/max range. I believe that you would be able to get a homestudy fee reimbursed after you finalize an adoption. (There is of course also the adoption tax credit and the cost of the homestudy or other associated adoption costs could reduce your tax liability.) My homestudy was at no cost to me, however there were court costs which were around $200 for each child, and those were reimbursed for the last two children (i guess since my first adopted child was not classified as special needs/did not get a subsidy we didnt qualify.)

 

 

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In California, if you work somewhere that is required to give maternity leave, you also get paid family leave for foster kids who you are planning to adopt.  Apparently there is some complicated paperwork for this for your caseworker but I don't know of all the details.   DH and I both work full time and if either of us has to be "stay at home" it will be him.  I work for the state so they have to follow all the rules which means they can steal two weeks of my vacation, there is a 7 day waiting period and the maximum time off for PFL is 6 weeks.    So it is not much but this is true for each placement whether they stay or not.  I think PFL pay is about 55% of your gross pay and not taxed.  DH is self employed so he makes his own rules but doesn't get PFL because he doesn't have to pay CA SDI.

 

I'm not really up on current law but i also do think that all foster children (whether being adopted or not) should qualify you for federal family leave, if you would otherwise qualify.


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Queenjane - I know all foster children qualify for FMLA, but there is some difference for California's paid family leave (PFL) program.  The state pays you through the disability insurance program so you have to have a job that you pay into the short term disability insurance plan.  My social worker told me you have to make a case for it so I am not sure exactly when they will pay/not pay.  I know that if you are adopting it is covered under "bonding" but short term placements are not generally covered. Who knows what they count as "short term".  I think that it is determined on a case by case basis.  I guess I will find out how much paperwork/red tape there is when the time comes. I just started a new job last month so I won't be eligible until next September anyway.   

 

As far as the foster family agencies around here, I only have information from one set of friends but they had about $2000 in unrefundable expenses and they also take a percentage of their monthly stipend which for them is about $80 a month until their child is 18.    My accountant also told me they are phasing out the adoption tax credit so by the time we adopt (prob in 2014) there most likely won't be any tax credit.   The reimbursement for the non recurring expenses in CA is also only $400.  Going through the county, I was also eligibly for the TIES program at UCLA which gives a ton of extra support and counseling for people going through the process of adopting from foster care. Basically -  this was the information I had when I decided to go with the county.   Since then, I keep hearing stories of people finishing up their homestudies and getting placements in less than a month through the FFAs.  I am jealous.   I am debating starting all over again with a FFA.   I am not sure how it works in other states but here you have to forfeit your license from the state in order to go with the FFA.   


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Just waiting for everything to get signed off. Our report is complete. The 3rd party social worker signed it and approved us to adopt. Now the 2 social workers at the agency have to sign off, and then we get to sign it and mail it back. This can take a couple more weeks. Sigh. Soooo close. This wait is killing me. I just want to be on the list already. 


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MountainMamaGC - Thank you for the warm welcome. I'm glad you mentioned the stress thing. When I was TTC my cycles were perfectly normal and predictable as long as I was in the monitoring stage. As soon as I started to count days to ovulation my cycle would go insane. I didn't think I was stressed but apparently by body was. Perfomance anxiety maybe? :)

 

QueenJane - Okay that explains things with your son. I knew I had been gone for a couple of years but not long enough for him to hit grown man status lol. MDC has a new look, I think I left right around the time of the switchover, and I haven't yet discovered how to search by username. When I do I'll definitely look at your old posts. Thank you so much for the overview of your adoptions. It sounds like a lot of "hurry up and wait" so to speak. You're bold and brave to want more, especially littles, and especially after the challenges you've had with your daughter.

 

I initially wanted a baby, less than 3 months then I opened up to a toddler, then school-age and now my age range is 0-9. It's not in stone until I complete the application which I'll get this week. I've only filled out the interest form so far and they assured me I wouldn't be held to the ages or gender (I chose either). I can see myself parenting each age but it definitely depends on the child's backstory and challenges. I kind of feel like since I'd be a new, first-time mother that I should start with a baby but then 6 and up means they're already in school and I don't have to worry about the high cost of daycare. What types of issues have you had with your 10y/o? If you've already shared and don't feel like typing again, I can search the archives. DId you feel pressured by the social workers to parent her because you already had your son? Based on your experience would you recommend a "cut-off" age or a certain number of moves/placements?

 

The agency I'm using has fost-adopt and concurrent planning programs. I am not interested in becoming a foster parent at all though so plan to only accept a child who is already legally free (which I've heard is rare here) or one who is almost there. My family fostered for all of my adolescent and teenage years and I'm not interested in going through that again! 

 

Mnmoore3 - Cute profile pic! That's great that you have an entire circle of friends and family who've adopted from foster care. The first piece of advice I've gotten from most people is usually to stay on top of the social workers! I'm good at following up but I'm not so agressive... we'll see how much that changes in the next year or so :) How old were your siblings when they came home? How old were your girls and are they bio siblings? I'm deathly afraid (!) of adopting more than one this first time although I know there are a lot of sibling sets available. Oh, and welcome to MDC!

 

PUH - That makes sense about staying local so the kids can still have first family visits, appts, etc, I'll have to ask my agency how they handle that since they place kids in about 20 counties. Does the county do concurrent planning? If so there's a really good podcast (fosterpdcast.com) that talks about concurrent planning and placements form a first person POV. The couple who created the podcast are very religious,Christian but I can't think of the sect, maybe Evangelist. I'm far from either of those and it didn't bother me. I learned a lot from them and it was nice to hear a real-world point of view. While I'm on the subject, another great podcast is Creating a Family (creatingafamily.org). The host bugs to no end (I'll spare you the details) but she has terrific guests who speak about attachement, adopting from foster care, transracial adoption (unfortunately always White families adopting minorty children), and adoptees. It's quite interesting and I always learn something or end up buying a book they discuss. And I fast forward when the host speaks :)

 

The amount the agency's charge seem to vary here from free to about $800. I think the FFA have less social workers on staff but also less clients. I know for my agency I had to meet with the social worker for 2 hours then be approved by committee to even move on to the next step of application and background checks. I'm sorry you're having such a hard time with your social worker. Can you request a new one? I don't know if that would help but I know compatibility helps in any relationship.

 

The first agency I spoke with said there is a high likelihood that parents could get matched with a child before all paperwork is finished. The child can't come live with you yet but you'll already have a child and can start visiting. That's crazy to me (in a good way!) and I'll bet it happens through the county too. I know when my mom did fostercare a long time ago (not fost/adopt) she started getting calls on her way home from the final visit with the social worker. Yes, the system is ineffieicent, broken, slow but that's why they need more awesome people like all of us! You'll get your kiddo and you'll look back at this time period like it flew by. What are the age ranges you're requesting. I've heard that can have an impact on waiting times as well as the kind of challenges you're willing to accept. A social worker at my agency told me they simply don't have a lot of children available now which is a great thing for kids although I thought there were lots of kids all the time.

 

I'll check out the T.I.E.S. program after I get some work done :) I'm not sure when I'll take leave (when the child first comes home, after finialization?) but I'm happy for CA's partially-paid leave. My empolyer requires us to use 2 weeks of vacation time first too which is fine because it gets me through the first week of non-paid waiting time. As far as the federal adoption credit is concerened, no one know which way it is going. There's currently a lobby pushing to have it permanent and refundable to all families. If the current credit is allowed to sunset, it returns to a $6000 (ish) credit for the adoption of children classified as special needs which is what it was orignially created for; it does not go away completely. Eighty dollars seems really low for a monthly stipened. How old was the child at finalization?

 

If you start over at an FFA does your homestudy port or do you have to complete another one from scratch? That may be something to consider.


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Just waiting for everything to get signed off. Our report is complete. The 3rd party social worker signed it and approved us to adopt. Now the 2 social workers at the agency have to sign off, and then we get to sign it and mail it back. This can take a couple more weeks. Sigh. Soooo close. This wait is killing me. I just want to be on the list already. 

 

Congratulations on your approval! I hope you have the report in the mail by the end of the month.


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