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#1 of 4 Old 04-16-2013, 09:03 AM - Thread Starter
 
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Hi, My husband is adopting my soon to be 6 year old. Quick run down, my ex husband hasn't seen nor spoke with her since she was between 18-24 months old. She has no idea that he even exists. My husband has been Daddy since she was 18 months. We are all finished with paper work now. My ex even signed over his parental rights, or rather signed the "consent to adopt" form. We have our home study scheduled for the 29th of April. I am just kind of curious as to what questions they will ask my daughter. I'm more frightened that they will ask about her relationship with her 'sperm donor', as there isn't one, and I don't want to shatter her image of my husband being her only daddy, just yet. We will tell her later in life when we think she is ready. Anyhow, If anyone can help with this question, I would appreciate it. 

 

What questions or type of questions will they ask my daughter during her home study interview?

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I've never been your situation but I am highly against that type of secrecy in adoption. I think you should tell her. She has a right to know and it will be way easier to tell her while she's young than it will be later.
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Agree with Polliwog. It will more likely shatter her latter in life than it would to just talk about it now. I have yet to see any research on adoption that recommends waiting until a child is older to tell them. Everything I've read says to always tell your child the truth of their origins in age appropriate ways.

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Honesty is a good policy! Almost every situation I can think of in which information was kept from adopted children (even when it was meant to 'protect' them) turned out less well than was hoped. :(
 


 
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