She could very well decide to parent, which is great, but she is unemployed and living with family who have made it clear they are not interested in that being a long term situation. Her mother is not interested in raising a second one of her grandchildren. We are certainly not pressuring her at all, and our names were only mentioned to her after she said she was considering adoption. I just want to be prepared In Case that ends up being the situation since time is limited for DH and I to do any prep work.
So, has anyone done a relative adoption in NC? I think I read online that home studies are not required for relative adoption in NC. Can anyone confirm that? What is the process? What do I need to know? We are happy to have an open adoption if that is what she chooses. I'm sorry for the choppy post!
Vallere - Daugher of YHWH, Wife to Dr. Adventure, and Mama to DS(5), DS(3), DD & DD(1)
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Are you in New Zealand? It seems like the distance might be the biggest barrier to the process. If she has lost another child, do you know if CPS is already keeping an eye on her in NC? In some situations, CPS meets moms at the hospital ready to place the baby into foster care if there is a long history, particularly of drug abuse. If you were in the states I would say to contact the local CPS office in the area your cousin lives to let them know of your availability. If she is going private though, I'm not clear on the process. I'm sure one of the more experienced mamas will show up to chime in!
Your best bet would probably be to consult an adoption lawyer in NC who is familiar with the process. They should be able to tell you what you need to do.