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#1 of 4 Old 09-17-2013, 05:36 PM - Thread Starter
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So I've moved on from being a single parent, and now we've gotten to the point where my ex is going to sign off his rights so that my DH can adopt DD.  Any advice right now would be incredibly welcome.  Right now we're waiting to schedule our home study, and ex is harassing me to cancel the child support order even before he signs the consent to adopt.  Incredibly frustrating, and I'm 38 weeks pregnant as well. 


Can anyone share their stories?

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Wow that sounds both painful and hopeful all at once. I hope this transition goes well, and also your birth. I'm sure others will be along to share their stories!

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I hope this works out for you, it sounds like it will. I would be tempted to just tell XH that you were advised that a judge won't sign off on cancelling child support until the adoption is underway. Is he worried that you'll be able to continue to collect from him even after the adoption goes through?


I'm interested to hear how this has worked for others, my husband and I started the process, unfortunately it just motivated my ex to push his way back into the kids' lives, which he sees them reliably for a few months and then dumps them for a few months, so it's a perpetual roller coaster for them... so much for stability :(

~Teresa, raising DS (Jan. 02) and DD1 (Jun. 04) and DD2 (Dec. 11) with DH.

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Mummoth - he's not worried about that (though I'm *tempted* to keep collecting on the back support), he just doesn't want to pay anymore at all.  He keeps saying "I KNOW you can just sign off, so do it, and stop being a power hungry *#@("


I will keep you updated on the process.  No news for today.

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