There are worse things than having your wife leave you, and you are signing on for one of them. You have no idea how bad your marriage can get. You can spend years doing what you're setting out to do now - being horrible to your wife, and letting her and any children placed with you down, repeatedly - and in the end, you may still be married, but you'll hate your wife, your entire life, and yourself.
We are not licensed yet, but I am a parent, and I know that doing right by a child requires the full engagement of everyone signed on to care for that child. Of course I don't know the details of your situation, and can't speak to whether your wife is being reasonable or not by demanding this of you, but an ultimatum designed to force one half of a couple into taking on the care of child (bio or otherwise) that they have no interest in caring for isn't fair to the child. It seems to me that that needs to be the first consideration.
I agree with the other posters. If you are going to get involved in taking in foster children, both adults in the home should be licensed, trained, etc. If you're not on the same page, it needs to wait.
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