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I grew up in foster care/orphanage and have adopted/process of adopting/wanting to adopt 1 1.11%
I was adopted and I have adopted/process of adopting/wanting to adopt 11 12.22%
Was neither adopted and/or/fostered - but have always wanted to adopted/have/process of 66 73.33%
My partner grew up in foster care/orphanage and has always wanted to adopt/has/process of 0 0%
My partner was adopted and has adopted/process of adopting/wanting to adopt 0 0%
Other 12 13.33%
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#1 of 26 Old 11-13-2007, 04:48 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Just out of curiosity as I have noticed that quite a few on here who have adopted are are in the process of adopting, were adopted themselves as children!

So a loverly poll hehe :

I myself was in foster care for a lot of my life starting at the age of 3 and was adopted. I have always wanted to adopt - probably because of this reason.

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my "sisters" dad and uncle were adoted

I worked as a foster mom for 9 years, and in a shleter.

My Aunt has 2 adopted kids

i have 3 freinds with 5 adopted kids amoung them ... (IRL, I have tons more on-line)

just seems common place to me



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I put that I was adopted and have adopted but my dh was adopted by his father as well.
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I wasn't adopted or fostered, and am in the process of adopting.

For me, I know my interest comes from having several adopted friends (who all had positive experiences), having adoption in my family (though not immediate), and being very involved in international social justice issues.

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I was adopted and have adopted twice. I grew up with MANY friends who were adopted.
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I'm in a same sex relationship and always knew I'd be a mom. Never really wanted to be pg and always assumed I would adopt and/or use a sperm bank. Wanted to adopt first, but was discouraged by the $ tag and tried IUI's/IVF (wasn't thrilled about the thought of being pg). When IUI's/IVF wasn't working, we luckily discovered the foster care system and have adopted 3 little girls all from birth. We have remaining embies for FET's, but not sure how I feel about using them at this point.

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Neither DH nor I were adopted or ever spent time in fostercare. But, we both have adopted siblings and experience with foster parenting in our homes growing up--if that counts for anything.
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I voted other. I always imagined having my first child be a biological and than adopting after that. I didn't intend to only adopt.

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Other. Neither my DH nor I were adopted, and our first two children were biological (the second one is deceased). Our third child is adopted, and we will probably adopt 2 more (both likely from Vietnam or another Asian country).

~Brandon Michael (11/23/03), Jocelyn Lily Nữ (2/4/07, adopted 5/28/07 from Vietnam), Amelia Rylie (1/14/09), & Ryland Josef William (9/7/05-9/7/05 @ 41 wks). 
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We adopted our daughter. As a child my family fostered my brother till he "aged out" at 18 (10 years total).

It's not on the list, but I consider it relevant.
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I was not adopted but I was a "surprise" (my mom had an IUD in) and she found out she was a few months pregnant with me while they were in the late stages of adopting a baby from Vietnam in 1974.
I have always know I wanted to adopt. We adopted our older son from foster care and gave birth to our younger son last year.

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I put "other"

I am adopted, and I really REALLY want to foster pregnant teens many years down the road. I don't know about adopting, though...if I foster a child who WANTS to be adopted, I would certainly do it, but I doubt I'll actually go out looking to adopt.

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I voted other because I wasn't technically in "foster care", but my grandparents had legal guardianship of me from 12-18. It was something I wanted and my grandparents and mom all agreed to it. (So no one took me from my mom.) We are in the process of becoming foster parents and we're open as far as adoption is concerned.

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I have to add that a few of my cousins were adopted as well.

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Neither DH nor I were adopted but we adopted DS 6 years ago
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I have to add that a few of my cousins were adopted as well.
That's a good point. I have 2 adopted first cousins.

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Wow. There is absolutely no adoption in either dh's or my family. We both saw family friends adopt when we were in our early teens, but that's about it. But, we both wanted to adopt before we met each other, married, or knew that dh couldn't have biologial children.

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(who is overwhelmed at the four single typed pages of questions we need to answer before our first homestudy visit!)

For greater things are yet to come...

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Those pages of questions are intimidating, aren't they?

Have "fun" with it though...I think it's incredibly rare that we sit down and answer so many personal questions about our thoughts, our lives, and our histories. Make sure you make a couple copies of your answers and put them somewhere where your kids will be able to have them someday. It's quite a document when you're finally done with it.

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I voted "other"

My mother was adopted, but it was not a good situation.
I had a Fosterbrother for awhile as a kid, that didn't work out well because we moved and could not take him with us.

I'm trying to be approved for adopting through Fostercare and am willing to become a Fosterparent as well.

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Those pages of questions are intimidating, aren't they?

Have "fun" with it though...I think it's incredibly rare that we sit down and answer so many personal questions about our thoughts, our lives, and our histories. Make sure you make a couple copies of your answers and put them somewhere where your kids will be able to have them someday. It's quite a document when you're finally done with it.
Yes you will be amazed -- save them for the kids.

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I was adopted and I have a ds who was adopted at birth.
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I voted other.
Neither Dh or I were in foster care or adopted.
We are foster parents and adopted our Dd. we have had her in our home since she was 7 mths old. She's just turned three.
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My Husband is in the proccess of adopting my son (from a previous relationship), so I lurk in here every once in a while.

I pray for the day Family Court recognizes that CHILDREN have rights, parents only have PRIVILEGES.  Only then, will I know my child is safe.
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Neither DH or I were adopted or foster children, but my aunt was a foster mom who adopted - fostering just felt like the right thing to you. You grow up, get married and become a foster parent We adopted our boys thru fostercare in September
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I lurk but I voted other.

I have given a child up for adoption.
Shoot... maybe that was have adopted one?

Mom to '97, '07, '09 and birth mom '00 and wife to my BFF
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I nearly went into foster care but was raised by my grandparents. We have been a foster family for three years. 15 infants and adopted our first placement.

Christine. Unschooling mom to Hollis, Zobey, Zeda, Anna, and Wednesday. We have a lot invested in this whole family thing with marriage kids and a mortgage. You don't just give up on the whole deal when it gets difficult.
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