I used two people from my son's homeschool group..i didnt know them *that* well, but had known each for about a year, and saw them occasionally. And i tracked down a guy i was good friends in high school, that i would see occasionally when i would pop into the restaurant her worked at, and he was happy to fill out the sheet (in both agencies i used i was given the reference forms, had them filled out, then gave them back.) They all asked basically "what do you want me to write?"
I, too, have the same situation where i spend ALOT of time with family, not so much with friends. And i work taking care of my mom, so i dont even have coworkers at this point. But you dont want them to think you ONLY hang with family, they may see that as an issue, yknow? So if you truly have no one you talk to besides family (that you would feel comfortable asking for a reference) you might want to start cultivating those people now. Do you have a playgroup you take your child to? what about the mom of your kid's friend. Really, they just want someone who knows you to say they've seen you with kids and think you'll make a good parent. I got the distinct feeling from both agencies i used (placing state kids) that they just wanted to be able to cross off "references received" on their checklist...i'm not even sure they read them, and they certainly didnt call anyone. But all agencies work differently and some really take references seriously.
Katherine, single homeschooling mom to Boy Genius (17) Thing One (6) and Thing Two (6) and one outgoing Girl (12) and hoping for more through foster care and adoption