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Old 04-30-2011, 07:15 PM - Thread Starter
 
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mdcblog5.gif   Liz mama to DS 10, DSS 9, DD 6, DS 3, DD 2 , Aquila- dec 19th 2009 died at my homebirth, and....welcome Willow born 9-16-10 (9 weeks early)  nut.gif
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Old 04-30-2011, 08:28 PM
 
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Liz, I want you to know that your sweet, sweet baby is not forgotten. Lots of hugs to you, mama.


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i think about your baby and your story a lot Liz.  i have posted on here and others threads related to it. but i still think about it a lot.  I am so sorry that you and your family and your sweet baby have suffered with this tragedy.

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I happened to find this site tonight by following a completely unrelated thread.  Once here, I found a group of mothers who think and mother much like me so I became a member.  I've switched from a conventional "FDA believer" to a more natural approach since the birth of my last child 3 1/2 years ago.  I'm currently pregnant and my previous 2 children were born by c-section.  The first was breech and the second a c-section because we don't have many doctors who'll perform v-backs in NV.  Since switching everything from diet to healing over to a more natural approach, I've had friends approach me about home birthing this one.  I've heard similar stories, although never on such a first-hand account so my fears have prevented me from exploring that avenue.  I've also been wary because my last child had the cord wrapped around his neck 3x and at that moment I was so grateful for that c-section!  I know there are many successful home-births performed every day but as a mother I can't help but have that worry of, "but what it?"  After reading your linked blog, my heart breaks for you and your family!  I've had a few miscarriages which have truly made me appreciate my loving Heavenly Father who takes these sweet sprits home again and knows what trials will make us stronger.  I daresay, you're destined for sainthood for making it through with a positive attitude in this one.  Please know that your story has helped me greatly!  I admire and respect all home-birth mothers for their strength and determination and those midwives who perform their duties with diligence and integrity and I'm sorry you had such a bad experience in the latter regard.  Thank you for posting this and helping me make my decision.  My thoughts are with you and your family.

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Oh Liz, there are tears streaming down my face right now for you and your family. There are no words for this injustice!! I know your little angel is waiting for you in Heaven one day, and I know that for me that would not even bring me peace knowing that the "penalty" was so insignificant for the midwife. I am praying for you and your family. This story truly hurts my heart. What a strong mama you are.

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This is absolutely devastating and makes me cry.  Makes me appreciate my son despite a difficult labor.  Thank you for sharing your story.  You are so brave.

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I'm so sorry. 

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Hope you're doing alright Liz. hug2.gif Just wanted you to know that I think of you, Aquila and your family often.


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There's nothing I can say that will even remotely touch the emotion you must feel, but I want to thank you for sharing your story. May God bless your life continually...


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Old 08-17-2011, 11:01 AM - Thread Starter
 
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thank you mamaecho


mdcblog5.gif   Liz mama to DS 10, DSS 9, DD 6, DS 3, DD 2 , Aquila- dec 19th 2009 died at my homebirth, and....welcome Willow born 9-16-10 (9 weeks early)  nut.gif
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born dec 19th 2009
birth story with pictures

http://ecmama.blogspot.com/2009/12/a...rth-story.html

and here is the more detailed one

http://ecmama.blogspot.com/2010/06/w...aquila_21.html
I am sorry to be connecting over something so sad. I realize your loss was a few years ago but I know you will hold Aquila close always. I will always hold my little girl close too. 😪 I would very much like to read your story and I was not able to access it. I would also quite likely like to possibly be in contact with you but I'm not sure I can ask that. It's so hard when I'm the only Homebirth/death in my baby loss group. And the only one that didn't know my baby would never take a breath. Thank you.
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Hugs

Vivi's mama, I am so very sorry for your loss. You can also read Aquila's story here: http://hurtbyhomebirth.blogspot.com/...las-story.html
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This is a horrifying story. Obviously the midwife was not at all competent, but sometimes that's impossible to know until it's too late. I'm so sorry for your loss.

Unfortunately, I found the story on "Hurt by Homebirth" which I found to be rather disturbing. This precious life was lost because of the the midwife's incompetence not necessarily the home birth. I work in a hospital and volunteer in the NICU, there have been many many babies hurt by hospital birth as well.

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Thank you for your share. My thoughs reach out to you, I'm really sorry about this.
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