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#1 of 98 Old 08-25-2010, 05:06 PM - Thread Starter
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I no longer feel safe sharing details of my birth on MDC, with the climate what it is right now.

 

I no longer feel supported or safe in this community.

 

I am extremely thankful for all of the wonderful and sincere support I have received, and it is a shame that a few bad apples can ruin the entire barrel.


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Oh no, Laura... I am so so so sorry for your loss.

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You are a really great writer. Thank you for sharing your birth story. I am so sorry for you and your families loss.

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Hugs, mama. You are one strong woman.
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Words can't describe the sadness I feel for your loss. I'm so sorry mama. Thank you for sharing your story.

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Mama, I am so sorry. I've lost a child, too. He was five. Be so, so, so gentle with yourself and with your partner. Whatever you feel is okay. Whatever you need to do is okay. Take each day one at a time, and the moments of grace will slowly come back. There is happiness and joy again, but it takes some time. My heart goes out to you.

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I am so incredibly sorry that you had to go through that. I pray that you are able to heal and process it all.

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I am so, so sorry mama.

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I am so sorry.

I have lost a child as well.

Be very gentle with yourself, mama. The next few days and weeks will be all over the place, but allow yourself to go through this process. Everything you are feeling is NORMAL. It's okay. Do what feels right.

The loss board here and http://www.misschildren.org/forums/
were incredibly healing places to be. Lots of other women who've btdt.

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Oh mama, I'm so so sorry for your pain. My heart goes out to you and your family.

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I couldn't read this without responding. I am so sorry for your loss.
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I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for eloquently sharing your story. You are a very strong woman, and I hope the hospital scene will soon be behind you, although the grief and mourning will take longer.

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I'm so so sorry Mama.
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I'm so sorry for your loss, and your treatment afterwards. I know it can't feel that way, but you sound very together about it. Thank you for sharing your story. Blessings to you and your family.
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I am so sorry.

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So very sorry for your loss and angry for the way you were treated at the hospital.

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oh hunny im so sorry. (((hugs))) will be praying for you're family.

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I'm so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing with us.

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I'm so sorry for your loss

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Words cannot adequately express my thoughts so a simple "I'm sorry" will have to suffice.

You have my deepest and sincerest sympathy.
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Many warm, loving thoughts for you, your family, and your son. I'm so very, very sorry, Laura.

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I'm so sorry for your loss, Laura. Thanks for sharing your story, the part about your DH sobbing had me in tears.

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I'm sorry for your loss.

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I'm so, so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

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wow you are a very strong mama. hang in there

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I am so sorry.

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Oh Laura, I am so very sorry. Many, many healing thoughts are going to you during this horrible time.

So much love going to you, Heatherly

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I am so very sorry for you loss, mama.

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I am so sorry for your loss and how the hospital treated you. Many warm, healing thoughts for you and your family. Take care of yourself.

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