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This is the story of my daughter, Zena's birth, photographed by our Doula.  All 3 of Zena's brothers were born unassisted, but this time I was called in a different direction to birthing in the hospital for the first time.  In the end it turned out very similar to my UC experiences. Only my husband and doula were present to witness the birth!

 

http://liajoy83.blogspot.com/2012/07/self-directed-birth-of-zena-joy.html#!/2012/07/self-directed-birth-of-zena-joy.html


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Congratulations on your little girl!  Beautiful birth story--thanks for sharing!


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Congrats and what wonderful experiences your births must have been. Just reading and watching.
 


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Congratulations! I'm amazed at how smoothly your birth went!


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congratulations on your new baby!  And what a beautiful story of her entrance to the world.  :)


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Lovely story and what an amazing hospital birth!


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Wow; lovely story and truly gorgeous photos. You're a beautiful birther. :) Congratulations!


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 "Feeling like my butt was going to turn inside out was one of the most memorable sensations from when Logan was born, too." ROTFLMAO.gif I know that sensation all too well, too!!

 

 I'm wondering after reading your beautiful story if you wish you had given birth at home?  You say that following your instincts about being there was the right call, but nothing that needed medical attention actually happened.  I'm not trying to be snarky or rude or whatever, I'm simply curious.  

 

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What a beautiful story! I'm really struggling with the decision to birth in a hospital, and your story has given me hope that it can be OK :)


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thanks for sharing! beautiful, inspiring story!

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Such an amazing birth story! Thank you for sharing!


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@Linnaea, I'm still processing/reflecting... despite how beautifully it went, I do have a bit of sadness that we probably could have had her at home & didn't, but I wouldn't say I wish anything different.  I don't feel that any part of Zena's experience was sacreficed, which is key. I knew one way or another I'd value the experience but my biggest fear was that her first moments would be lacking the intimacy & honor every baby deserves...Home to her is in my arms & she got that. The only thing different for her (than what her brothers had) was the car ride from the hospital, which she slept peacefully through... So in wieghing the unassisted birth I wanted against the experience I had I'm really just thinking about what the birth meant to me. I think the growth & learning outwiegh anything I missed out on by going to the hospital.  I gained a lot through the whole process -- the decision making, planning & being pushed outside my comfort zone like I was. That little bit of sadness (attachment to UC) is nothing in comparison to what I gained.  That said, if I were to have another child, I'd plan another UC unless I felt that baby needed something different.


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@Linnaea, I'm still processing/reflecting... despite how beautifully it went, I do have a bit of sadness that we probably could have had her at home & didn't, but I wouldn't say I wish anything different.  I don't feel that any part of Zena's experience was sacreficed, which is key. I knew one way or another I'd value the experience but my biggest fear was that her first moments would be lacking the intimacy & honor every baby deserves...Home to her is in my arms & she got that. The only thing different for her (than what her brothers had) was the car ride from the hospital, which she slept peacefully through... So in wieghing the unassisted birth I wanted against the experience I had I'm really just thinking about what the birth meant to me. I think the growth & learning outwiegh anything I missed out on by going to the hospital.  I gained a lot through the whole process -- the decision making, planning & being pushed outside my comfort zone like I was. That little bit of sadness (attachment to UC) is nothing in comparison to what I gained.  That said, if I were to have another child, I'd plan another UC unless I felt that baby needed something different.

 

Wow, thank you for your beautiful, thoughtful response.  I understand why you'd look at it in terms of sacrifice, I would, too.  I'm a UCer, too, so your story got me thinking.  If I had a hospital birth or a home birth, midwife experience like yours then I doubt there would be much I'd feel negatively about.  I love stories that go against the norm and yours certainly does.  Thank you so much for sharing, enjoy your little miracle.

 

Also, I love your quote about womanhood, makes me feel warm and fuzzy love.gif

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I read your birth story last night and have been processing it. I wonder if you needed to give birth in the hospital was to help enlighten the care providers more than it was a need for you. Perhaps you were in the right place and had the confidence needed to show them. Maybe that's why you felt led to birth there. Sometimes it's not what we need from others, but what others need from us. 

 

It was a beautiful story and the pictures were beautiful. Congrats on a wonderful birth. :) 

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I am writing a book on this subject, so if nothing else, the whole experience was a lot of great material for my writing!! :)

 

Just finished editing the video, so thought I'd share:

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QB_-uRGZ74c&feature=youtube_gdata


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Thank you so much for sharing your experience and your story and the pictures and video. My last baby was a homebirth and peaceful by outside accounts, but it didn't feel empowering while it was happening. You and your story will serve as a role model for how to be empowered in a birthing situation. Sincere appreciation to you! Thank you for your sisterhood!
 



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