I am so sorry! I also had a VERY traumatic birth. I was having a homebirth and ended up going pretty overdue, as well. When I finally did go into labor (I didn't even realize I was in labor
!) - and called my midwife, I my contractions were already 90 seconds apart - no kidding) To make a LONG story short.....the cord was short and wrapped twice around my babe's neck, causing his heartrate to go dangerously down. The ambulance was called and I was transported to the hospital on my hands and knees, strapped to a kitchen chair w/ my midwife's arm inside - doing something to keep the cord from being squished. Later I found out that I have some sort of condition where I go into an extended contraction as opposed to multiple contractions so there is never a chance to catch your breath.
My baby was born in the emergency room about a half hour later by vacuum. The c-section team had gone home already and they were on the way back but the baby couldn't have waited that long. When he was born, he was immediately sent by another ambulance to a hospital an hour away that had a nicu and he spent 4 days there.
Anyway, he is perfect now, bigger than average and very healthy - so no noticeable repricutions.
The $%#* ing nurse in the nicu said something to me about how that's why homebirths are stupid - because things like this can happen. Then she tried to force formula on him, wanted to circumsize & tried to vaccinate him w/o my permission.
But, I did want to just share that traumatic births do happen
The midwife at the hospital was awesome and I do think that she saved my child's life. My other homebirth midwives did know that we were in an emergency situation and had the common sense to get me to the e-room!
You, on the other hand, sound like you could have a huge lawsuit on your hands! I am so sorry that happened to you! I hope that your baby is doing great and that you deal with this all in a way that makes you feel whole again.
Good thought sent your way!