How did it differ from your first two? Was it more like your first or your second birth? What set it apart from the others?
nicole , mom to 3 boys here on earth 9, 7 and 4.5 and 2 girl's 2.5 and 10/16/11. Always remembering my babies in heaven: Sam (9/7/05) at 12.5 wks , Morgan (2/13/06) at 6 wks , Emeric (8/9/10 at 17 wks) and Pepper (11/26/10) at 8wks.
Makes me want to have 10 more: (except for the ensuing laundry)
Happy mama to three DD's age 13, age 10.5 , age 8and DS, born January 6
#1 - 34 weeks. SROM, Hospital birth, 6 hours from when I figured out something was going on until birth. Thought I was prepared, but had no idea what was going on. Pushed into epidural at 7 cm by Nurse Nasty who told me "It's just gonna get a lot worse", but pushed baby out before meds took effect. Three day back ache due to that awful needle. :
#2 - 39w 6d, SROM, Hospital birth, 2.5 hours. Unmed, after getting rid of Nurse Drug Pusher.
Became doula, learned a heck of a lot about pregnancy and birth! Then,
#3 - 41w 1d, SROM, Home birth, 10.5 hours. BUT, I stayed in bed for 4.5 hours after SROM, keeping the contractions easy, in order to keep from disturbing the family's good nights' sleep. If I had gotten up and active, he probably would have been born a LOT sooner. I didn't have the urge to push until about two hours after I was probably completely dilated (no VEs, so no real idea, just guessing based on other physical/emotional cues).
If we were going for another one, I'd definitely get the birth pool and probably have the baby in the water , and I would guess closer to the 2 hour labor than the 10 hour one.
It was nothing like my previous two births and he is very different from my older two children, but in a really wonderful way.
|I think a lot of mamas finally figure out how to get the birth they want around their third pregnancy. I certainly did. After 2 hospital births, for my third I hired a team of nice, hands-off direct-entry midwives for a home birth.|
We are going to start tryin to make a baby this comming summer and hopefully my story ends in a BEAUTIFUL home birth of my dreams:
Keep up the stories these are just what I was looking for!
1st was an induced hosp. birth. Very painful once the pit kicked in. 5 hours from 1st contract to delivery.
2nd was mw homebirth. Great start to labor though long not painful until AROM. Transition for 3 hours then pushed for about 10 minutes.
3rd was UC. Easy labor all the way. No pain until pushing when I tore as I pushed her out in 3 pushes, 2nd degree tear. Active labor about 5 hours from start to delivery. The best labor I bet I will ever have.
4th will be happening soon!
My first was born at home. 4.5 hrs of hard labor about 14 hrs of warm up labor that was no big deal. She was born in 14 min of pushing with a nuchal hand.
Second was at a hospital. We were active duty military. I transfered to the practice at 34 wks. 2 CNMs. Seemed nice. I had preterm labor since 18 wks and by the time 40 weeks rolled around I was 7cms. The CNM broke my water and 3.5 hrs later ds was born. The CNM was horrible and the hospital was not pleasant, but the labor/birth weren't bad at all.
Third was at the same hospital, different CNM. I had about 6 hrs of labor. Went to the hospital, was 3 cms. They sent me home. 1.5 hrs later I was back and 6+cms. They admitted me and called my dh who was 1.5 hrs away in the field. (He couldn't come home until I was admitted.) The contractions never got to where I couldn't handle them. I sat on a birth ball and chatted with the CNM and my sister. We didn't have any vaginal checks during the 90 min we waited for dh. I would have gotten into the shower, but didn't want to speed things up. My dh came in. I had a few contractions. Went pee. Got on the bed. CNM checked me, I was 9+ with a lip. 20 min after dh arrived, ds2 was born. His labor was by far my easiest. His actual birth was my second painful. He came out in a weird position (I never asked the CNM what it was exactly) and it really hurt. The plus was dh got to help catch. The negative was being in the hospital in the first place, and that I couldn't squat well enough on the bed with the squat bar. Things were moving too fast to try some other position, so I was laying back with my knees spread out to the side. Definately not ideal! I think I pushed for about 7 min. or so.
I haven't torn with any of my 4 babies. I'll spare you my 4th since you only asked about third!
Best wishes for your upcoming birth!
I think a lot of mamas finally figure out how to get the birth they want around their third pregnancy.
With my second, I was still not ready to have another baby and went into labor so very unprepared.
By my third I'd got it down. Best delivery of the three, very empowering, confident that I could do it b/c I already had twice before.
Back labor all three times. :
Mmmm, my third. It's like I came into who I was as a birther. Each birth, I learned a little more about what worked for me and what didn't. I've only had homebirths, but I've gone from MW/asst/lots of female relatives present to my 3rd with just DH & I upstairs (MW downstairs). It was so wonderful.
By far my fastest labor:
1st - 18 hours (2 hours PAIN! Posterior, Compound presentation, hypnobirthing)
2nd - 4 1/2 hours (Different hypno program, no pain, www.spinningbabies.com )
3rd - 1 hour, 40 minutes (same hypno as #2 & no pain & www.spinningbabies.com )
My birth stories are all in this forum. Here's a link to my 3rd though - http://www.mothering.com/discussions...ight=josephine
Enjoy your end of pregnancy!
wife - mother - midwife
The more you know, the worse it gets.
I have found that the old wives tales that say 1st is the hardest/longest second is tha fastest and third "you never know"! Thats the way it was for me anyway. I wonder what the 4th will bring ( if I can get one out of my husband!)
#3 was the most awesome experience EVER!!!!! I had my first Natural birth!!!!:
4 hours of "easy " labor"
I don't really consider that I was in "pain"... it just felt like my body was working
And #3 is the most wonderful baby ever (but #1 and #2 were awesome too!)
I just thought that #3 was a duplicate of a boy or a girl that I already had...
I WAS WRONG!!!!!!!!!
#3 is his own super special person!
Now, I have a glimpse of what moms of many might know...
they are each so special!!!!!!!1
Enjoy the rest of your pregnacy !!!!
My 3rd was also my biggest baby, and came with no tears (but that is thanks to the skill of the midwife). It was the quietest and most peaceful, I did not call anyone except the MW...just me and hubby and her (and her teeneged daughter, who I had invited to take pix).
What set it apart from the other was the prodromal labor -- I was up nights for over a week before she was finally born -- with regular contrax. It was exhausting but worth it. It was also not as short as I had expected, but much milder -- maybe I was experienced, or maybe I was relaxed being at home.
Did everyone's babies get progressively bigger?
stay at home mom to 2 girls 11/20/03,3/09/07 and 2 boys 2/28/05 and 11/16/10 and one on the way 1/13/12
7/12 (Friday night!)
I had a water birth at home Friday night and he was my biggest baby. I didn't scream or cry, I birthed mostly alone because it happened so fast. Midwife arrived after I birthed his head. Kids were in bed. Husband was scurrying around the house making preparations and waiting for midwife to arrive.
I can't wait to see what this baby will weigh! I have been measuring so far ahead this time from my uterus having been stretched so much, baby has plenty of extra room to grow!
#1 - 7 lb. 3 oz.
#2 - 9 lb. 13 oz.
#3 - 8 lb.
Contrary to popular assumption, #2, the biggest, was born in a few pushes - so fast the doctor didn't get into the room in time, and a nurse caught him.
Very very different (fast, no hand tucked, unassisted).
Mama to 4 amazing little people, another little expected 3/6/12!
Avid Unassisted Birth supporter/Mama
As for size:
If baby #4 should choose to come my way I am hoping to go into the pregnancy expecting a long labor instead of a short one!