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#91 of 98 Old 07-16-2007, 05:33 PM
 
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jrose, im so sorry that happened to your parents...i know what your father felt,,,my husband was overwhelmed, they thought they were gonna lose me...and have to raise my son and a new baby along with planning for a funeral. please do make sure no one ever messes with your placenta and let any pg friends know aswell.

having IV access would have helped get fluids into me fast, all MW's should carry an IV kit..i just assumed they did...assuming was my fault...

alegna,obviously a hep-lock is intrusive, but if you have no problem with it, why not rely on the safe side? its not like it hurts or has side effects...it was just an idea..and every birth is "normal" until something happens...and nothing seems "necessary" until we need it. hindsight is 20/20 i guess.

i still have a longing for that "beautiful birth", maybe the 3rd time will be the charm..either that or it will kill me!


I will refuse an IV or a heplock or anything like that iwth my next birth. They don't necessarily hurt but they are execeptionally distracting. My MW convinced me to have one with my last, saying that she was very good at it and I would nto even notice it.


I fixated on it my entire labor.

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OMG! I cannot believe she did that to you!!! And they can't admit your baby without your consent, no matter what they say. But they could have called CPS I suppose, and I've been there and wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy! You did well, and all you could! But I don't believe that MW! She shouldn't be licensed, and you should have known she'd never attended a birth before. Never came up?! )
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thanks Nicole! I appreciate it and eeveryone who has supported me....


and to the others...i am in no way downing MW's..im as crunchy as they come!

i think if were all educated enough..maybe as a society whole...we wont even need MW's...We'll deliver our own babies!
UC'ers DO deliver their own babies! Although I don't know many who call it delivering--catching, or not calling it anythin but having the baby is more common, at least that's what I've seen. Anyway, I caught my own baby, and I agree that if we're educated enough and don't let society's expectations and fears affect us, we can take control of our own pregnancies and births. And we should.
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There is another option besides a hospital birth, CNM type midwife who uses the same interventions as a doctor, a medicalized or fearful homebirth midwife, or a UC, its called a CPM, certified professional midwife. You still have to interview them like anyone else, but they are typically not associated with a hospital or doctor practice and specialize in home births and are trained in the art of using herbs and homeopathics and the natural art of birthing. There are also DEM's, Direct Entry Midwives. You still have to interview them, but there your chances of uninterfered with birth are higher than with a CNM.
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Wow, Bestbirths, I hope you're not saying all CNMs are "medicalized or fearful homebirth midwives who use the same interventions as a doctor." That is a huge and incorrect overgeneralization. My CNM with my second dd was as hands-off as you can get and totally respected my decisions on what tests to have and how to do them. She didn't touch me ONCE during my labor and delivery -- my labor was totally, 100% uninterfered with.

For this pregnancy I'm seeing two CNMs who are very similar. I know a lot of women who have homebirthed with them and have had nothing but good things to say.

I hope I'm misunderstanding you because it's just simply not true that all CNMs are like you describe. Certainly some of them are IME and I had a crappy birth center birth with a CNM. But you can't tar them all with the same brush.

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FTR, I gave birth in Florida with a DEM as well. They can give IV's, they should have them with them. My MW could even give me IV antibiotics for GBS if I so chose, and I am almost certain she had some pitocin just in case as well. Her MW's should have had these supplies, and for SURE her doppler should have been in working order.

I'm so sorry this happened to you! And what is even more appalling, than the original actions on your placenta itself, are their actions afterward and minimizing the urgency of your condition.

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If a midwife in Florida or elsewhere cannot carry the proper equipment to safely handle complications because of licensing laws, that is indeed very very troubling : That needs to change.
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FTR, I gave birth in Florida with a DEM as well. They can give IV's, they should have them with them. My MW could even give me IV antibiotics for GBS if I so chose, and I am almost certain she had some pitocin just in case as well. Her MW's should have had these supplies, and for SURE her doppler should have been in working order.

I'm so sorry this happened to you! And what is even more appalling, than the original actions on your placenta itself, are their actions afterward and minimizing the urgency of your condition.
Yes, Midwives in FL can and should carry pitocin & iv's. There are, last I looked, 5 pharmaceuticals that FL midwives have easy access to.

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um? Synchro? the original post is over a year old. why bring it back?

OP if you are still around, blessings to you and your future.

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