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I will come and type out my thoughts on this later, but have been wanting to post this since yesterday.

 

What are your plans? Is your husband/SO in agreement with you?

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I think we'll probably just use condoms until he comes to his senses and agrees with me that we're done, or I sustain brain damage and decide it's a good idea to keep going! 


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DH got a vasectomy last week.

 

Although we were officially "done" after two, we waffled about on what to do for a more permanent solution for a long time...long enough to accidentally get pregnant again with #3.  DH was adamantly against getting a vasectomy about a year ago--funny what an unplanned pregnancy will do to change your mind.

 

But we are definitely done now and both in total agreement about that.

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Prolly condoms for a while until I decide if I really want another kid or not. Then he's gonna get a vas.


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Vasectomy here.  The sooner the better in my opinion.  We have that 6 weeks of possibly no sex after baby comes, so maybe it'll happen then.  Our insurance sucks, so we have to pay $450.  I'll have to save up for that.


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Oh yeah... when we DO agree we're done, we'll do something permanent. He says he'll go for a vasectomy, I say I'll go for Essure... we'll talk it over when the time comes. I'm hoping he'll agree to me having the Essure. I don't want anything to change with him, he's perfect. 

 

The doctor basically shamed XH into getting one after I'd gone in and got a referral for Essure (he cautioned me against it because it was still pretty new then) XH had a really horrible recovery so I don't know if that was the cause or if it... but he wasn't really the same after that. Things had gotten really nasty, though... when I told him I was done, his response was that he wasn't, he was having more kids. I asked how he planned on doing that without me and he said to use my imagination. I made my appointment and went on strike at that point (I wasn't interested in taking chances) There was a big wait to see the specialist, and XH's doc worked his magic in the meantime. Anyway, maybe the difference was just that things were falling apart, or that he was getting older and I only noticed because it had practically been half a year since the time before. Anyway, I'm glad things worked out that way now, because I've got Blobby.


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Dh says he is done and will get a vasectomy.  I would be willing to consider having another at some point, but am ok with being done also.  So I guess we'll see if he goes through with it...he's been "done" since I was pg with dd2 :)

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I'm having my tubes tied, burnt, etc.

My husband would get a vasectomy but his insurance sucks and mine covers the tubal.

We are very sure we are done after this baby. :)


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DH getting a vas too, my In-laws paved the way and made it easy for me. My MIL had hb's so there was no convincing needed for that, and FIL had a vas, so no need to convince DH that that's what he needed to do.


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I'm for a hysterectomy too...but I read that it makes you go thru menopause sooner...so more hot flashes and stuff, plus vaginal dryness. Doesn't sound too fun to me...but then again, not really looking forward to pointless periods for the next 20 years either!!


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This is our last baby and dh is scheduled for a vas.  Dh is in total agreement.  Four kids and our family feels complete.  


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I don't believe in any surgical or hormonal birth control - thankfully neither does dh.

 

I will say I am *done* having kids when I am in menopause. Until then, I pay attention to my cycle when we are actively trying not to conceive.

 

I'm planning on at least 2 years between this birth and next conception.

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I'm back and forth on what we want to do for BC. We talked about me just charting once AF starts up again but I'd be worried about getting pregnant again before we're ready for another baby. I might go back on NuvaRing but I'm worried about how the hormones will affect me. I had Mirena for awhile, but it had such a horrible effect on me. DH originally said he didn't want any more almost immediately after we got a BFP but he had a little bit of a Freudian slip one day. I was telling him about a friend of ours who had her last baby unassisted at home and he said, "I could see us doing that next time." I was so glad he wasn't ready to be done because I don't feel like this is our last one either. Maybe I'll change my mind after this one is out and we actually have to deal with 2 kids at once, but right now I feel like this isn't my last pregnancy.


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We also do not believe in hormonal or perminant BC...so not too many options...we were kinda unsure what we believe in the past and I went on the Mirena and it made me feel pregnant the whole time I want on it..yuck...and I also think it contributed to weight gain and low milk supply...but it was one of very few options for a mom with a history of PPD who was breastfeeding..anyway, then once I got it out my cycles just would not go back to normal - I have since heard they may never go back to normal...we feel "done" but just don't want to make that final...maybe something will change..so I have no idea...we were using condems...but of course in 9 months we skipped using a condem twice and the second time we concieved LOL so who knows...I would like to have my body back for a while.

 

I did find that with breastfeeding DS1, even though I was getting a period (though not very regular) that we had to actively try to concieve DS2 - we had to use the strips and everything, so I would like to think if breastfeeding works out this time (did not for DS2) that will help too...

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We're not sure.  I highly doubt either of us will ever do anything permanent, and I have not/will not do anything hormonal.  If we decide we are done or need a larger break between children we will do a combo of NFP and condoms (BTW KIMONO brand condoms are thin, strong, and AWESOME - Amazon, Whole Foods Market).  It worked for us the first 5 yrs before children (and I didn't even have any real training regarding NFP - never charted or took temps - just used condoms unless I had just finished my period or past ovulation window).  Figuring I still have at least 10 more good fertile years ahead of me, we are fully expecting to be blessed with another (our 4th) even if we try not to conceive...very fertile over here.  Each baby we have conceived has been "first try" or not trying (caught first egg post postpartum w/o having a period warning after 2nd baby).  So we'll see!  I'd like to be open to as many children as possible, but I don't know that my mind and body can handle that...  


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I always read these threads hoping to find the perfect solution to this question.....and I never do, lol. I don't think SO would really want a vasectomy although he has mentioned it before. I can't do anything hormonal and I'm not comfortable with the IUD. We both hate condoms and suck at using them (it's bad enough that we have to DTD in pitch black and perfect silence because of the newest baby still cosleeping somewhere nearby!) and I'm very fertile, and we are low income, and I feel that unless something changes in the near future it would be irresponsible for us to have more children until we're financially a little better off. So I guess NFP, but we will have to be dedicated to it, and we are such disorganized people.....it worries me.


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I have more thoughts, but I am EXHAUSTED. This is on my mind a lot and I don't think hubby ever even gives it any thought.... he is busy, working his bootie off for our family, etc. I think about what we'll do after this baby every day and when I brought it up to him, he brushed it off. 

 

When I visited hubby last weekend, he brought up more babies twice in two days!

I have been thinking that this might be the last one. I am not doing pregnancy well, feel guilty that I am not meeting my other children's "needs" well enough (which my hubby told me was a "mother's worry", as in I will always worry about that regardless of how many babies we have, he is not concerned about it at all) I would like to have my body back for a while, etc.

 

But, when we laughed about my boobs being smaller this time, I said something like "well, its good for after" and he said "for the next baby?" and I said "no, since I will lose the weight all over anyway, boobs will just have less weight to lose" or something like that...

 

Then another time last weekend he said "Honey, I love your body, even when there's another person in it" then I said "I cannot wait to get him out, so I can work my way down to being skinny again." He said "yeah, but then you'll just get pregnant again." But he said it so nonchalantly, like that is just what we do and we'll keep doing it...

 

I don't think he'll get a vas, ever. Don't think we really want him to, anyway. I will not do hormonal or anything permanent, just not for us. I want to be open to life and at any time, I know each one of our children is such an amazing blessing.... but I am soooo tired. I want to go with hubby's flow, I guess. I wasn't necessarily "ready" to conceive this baby, but we were trying to time it around his military schedule and it worked. (I charted for one month.) And I know I can do that again once I get my PPAF. I didn't get it last time until DS was 16 months and it was awesome to have such a long break! Youngest DS was 19 months old when I got pregnant and I think I'd like more time between these next two if hubby does want to try for more or not try and not prevent....

 

Anyway, like I said, I am tired, seriously need sleep.

 

But thanks for sharing your thoughts, I am enjoying this thread!

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Sounds like we'll have interest in a NFP thread in the social group. We can share our charts and see how others are making it work. ;)

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I can't use hormonal BC anymore because my OB thinks I may have a clotting disorder and they can't test for all of them.  The IUD completely freaks me out.  Condoms don't seem reliable and I'm allergic to latex (know there are alternatives).  I was 100% sure that I was ready for DH to have a vasectomy and as far as I know, he is ready still.  This pregnancy has been terrible and I'm so fearful that I'll go into preterm labor even earlier if we go for a third.  I just don't think I can do it to my family or myself again.  But, now I'm having real reservations about the V...feeling like maybe I am really not done despite everything.  So, I think for a while we will go with charting along with withdrawal (supposedly only 4% risk of pregnancy in a year if used correctly).  It does make me a little nervous though because I have super unreliable cycles, O all over the place, and this baby was conceived in one night. 

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Oooh that would be great! My only true concern with NFP is that I won't be consistent with it. I was when we were TTC but I had a specific goal and I knew it was for a finite period of time. If we had a thread where we could all chat about it, I might be more likely to keep up with it!


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We also use withdrawal before I get my first PPAF. We have had success with it and it seems like the method my hubby prefers most...

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An NFP thread would be great, I'll probably chart because otherwise I'm just worrying constantly that I might be pregnant.


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We also use withdrawal before I get my first PPAF. We have had success with it and it seems like the method my hubby prefers most...



That was what we did between DS and this baby and it worked for almost three years perfectly.  The difference is that we were sure we wanted more, so an oops wouldn't have been a big deal, but this time I'm fairly certain I don't want more but just don't want to close the door totally.  I guess though that really even a vasectomy isn't totally foolproof.  I know someone who had a baby after the big V even though it had taken them 7 years to conceive their second.  I think NFP plus withdrawal has to be pretty close to other methods. 

 

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We won't so anything permanent or hormonal, definitely not yet. I can see down the road DH getting a V perhaps, but I want at least 2 children, so one more, and I'd really prefer two more. I don't feel ready to restrict the number of children we have. I think I struggle between the mindset of being quiverful, and the reality of the financial ramifications of that. And DH would go insane. He (right now) would be completely happy with this baby being our only. 

 

BCP have not worked in my family- my mother got pregnant on them four times, and my aunt got pregnant with fraternal twins on them. So even if I was ok with  taking them, I won't. And I have several concerns with the pill, so it's a moot point. I don't want an IUD, or a patch, or anything like that either, so we'll be back to a combination of charting, withdrawal and condoms. I'm theoretically ok with a baby anytime after about 8 months pp, (although again, DH is not...) so I'm ok with the method being a little bit unreliable while I'm nursing. 


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We haven't really talked about it. We both definitely want more, probably several more. I just don't want to find out I'm pregnant again like 4 months PP. :) We haven't tried NFP (or anything else) because we knew we wanted kids right away after we got married. I know it's something we should talk about. I'm just hoping I follow my mom's pattern of having a baby every 2-3 years with no BC other than breastfeeding. Wouldn't that be nice?

 

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We haven't really talked about it. We both definitely want more, probably several more. I just don't want to find out I'm pregnant again like 4 months PP. :) We haven't tried NFP (or anything else) because we knew we wanted kids right away after we got married. I know it's something we should talk about. I'm just hoping I follow my mom's pattern of having a baby every 2-3 years with no BC other than breastfeeding. Wouldn't that be nice?

 

There is no perfect solution... because it's a system that's designed to work. ;)



Yes, babies every 2 years with only breastfeeding as birth control is wonderful.... until you are on number 5 in 8 years and feeling worn down a bit, LOL! I am almost 32 and should have several more fertile years. We'll see what DH wants to do. Being a wife and mama is all I have ever wanted to do. I am so blessed and feel grateful everyday for my family and this life I am living. I do not complain to people around me IRL about feeling tired, done, etc, but I feel comfortable being very real here in this DDC. ;)

 

Yes, it is definitely a system that's designed to work! I love that! ;) :)

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We also use withdrawal before I get my first PPAF. We have had success with it and it seems like the method my hubby prefers most...


We used withdrawal pretty much exclusively and successfully for 4 years.  My cycles are fairly regular though so NFP was kind of always going on in the background (though not always "respected").  I think it's the preferred method for both of us.  Though this baby was an "accident", it wasn't accidental in the biological sense.  It failed due to user error.  wink1.gif    

 

The funny thing is that I'm not considering sterilization for either of us.  I never wanted kids.  Never, ever, ever.  And now, before this one is even here and I know what it's like, while I'm ready to be done with pregnancy and don't want to go through it ever again (even as easy as it's been for me), while I would be older than I'd like next time around, I'm leaving the door open to a 2nd.  

 

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DH is getting a vas when baby is a few months old.

 

We were 90% we were done after #3, but thought maybe in 4-5 years we'd want one more so we didn't want to do anything permanent- especially since we are still pretty young. I won't do hormonal again (did before #2), NFP did NOT work for us when I was nursing (hence, #3 coming much sooner than planned) and I had a Paraguard IUD still perfectly in place when I got pregnant with this one- plus was nursing (a toddler, granted) and DH was away for two weeks on two weeks off. :rolleyes: So, there isn't much left other than something permanent at this point.

 

Oh, and we are thrilled to be having #4 even though it was a total surprise when I found out at 10 weeks, but we both feel totally completely done now.

 

 If we had another one and we would have to get TWO new vehicles, pay out of pocket again (like all but #1, but before we planned on it even if not exactly the timeing. This time it has been tough!), and honestly, I'm ready to move on to doing big kid stuff once this baby grows up. I am glad we ended up with a surprise now rather than 6 years from now. LOL. That would have been really exciting.


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I was on the Mirena before, and loved it. I'll probably opt for another one after the delivery, as we're hoping for about 3 years before the next baby. But we'll be done after two, and DH will get a vas then... though I may stick to the Mirena anyway, I like not having the periods. >.>


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I had a Paragard (copper) IUD for the 3 1/2 years before I got pregnant, and it worked incredibly well--I conceived this baby two days after I had it removed! It was the first time either of us had birth-control-free sex, and poof, baby. So we're feeling pretty darn good about our combined fertility and the effectiveness of contraceptives.

I'm feeling like I'd like to have something like 4 children, but I definitely want to see how life is with one first, and there are a lot of life changes we want to make before #2 (move out of the city, start our farm, resolve some legal issues, get DH's company started), and I can't bear the thought of sharing my body with another baby any time soon. I'd like to wait at least 18 months. So we've talked about getting another IUD after this one is born, but I'm also feeling like I'd like to have at least one period without the IUD or being pregnant. I feel like my body needs that purge. Maybe we can do NFP for a bit, but I doubt DH will go for that, because he's VERY careful about birth control, and I'd also be so nervous about conceiving before AF returned.

 

How do you do this with NFP? You can't chart an ovulation you don't know you've had, and it could be 6 weeks to a year before AF returns!

 

By the way, I'm also really against hormonal BC for myself, and I hate the feel and unreliability of condoms long term. The copper IUD was a great, totally effort-free alternative for me. I know some people have negative experiences with them, but from my own, I'd totally recommend it.


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