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#31 of 50 Old 05-14-2011, 12:21 PM
 
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After 5 hospital births (some positive and some negative aspects) I am sooooooo redy for a home birth and would love to have it in water. :) This has been my dream for years but circumstances always hindered it. (not pregnancy related,more living situations, etc) Its going to be UC as well.

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My son was born via emergency c-section. It wasn't what I had planned(a natural birth in a German hospital with midwives), but it was necessary. I would love a HBAC this time around. The dream I had that prompted me to test was of me laboring and delivering a baby girl on the floor in our living room. I have some midwives lined up who are willing to come on-post( Army wife). If not, I think a hospital or birth center would suffice as long as they have midwives. I really liked having them with my son.  

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I had the first three in the hospital; all were induced, and two of the inductions, I had the epidural before the Pit was started.

 

We're aiming for a homebirth this time - it'll be my first homebirth and my first natural birth.  Scary but exciting at the same time.

 

There are a grand total of three homebirth midwives that service our area.  We are interviewing two of the three in the next couple of weeks, and hopefully that will be that.  I'm not covered by DF's insurance until after we get married, but we do want to be able to "hold" our spot with one ahead of time just in case.


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I'm preg with #4 and I'm hoping this will be my 2nd HB. DD1 was a hospital birth, DS2 was a HB, DS3 was a UC that I transferred to the hospital. Hoping DC4 will be a MW attended HB... Just waiting on the test to come back to see if I am RH sensitized, since I did not have rhogam after DS3.  If the test is negative we are good to move on with the HB plans!



Wow! Our birthing experiences are eerily similar... aside from the RH issue. I am also preg with #4 and hoping for a 2nd HB. DS1 was an uninformed, induced hospital birth (what can I say, I was 18! I'm just glad we didn't do all of the vax and I knew enough to BF, co-sleep and wear him in a sling), it wasn't a terrible experience, but it also wasn't the best one either. DD2 was a MW attended HB and was amazing. I couldn't have asked for a better experience... then when I surprisingly got preg with DS3, I started out wanting UC because my MW had retired and I wasn't in love with any of the MW's in the area, so I went to a great OB with plans to do UC and then transfer to his care if necessary, but then around 26 weeks I met an amazing MW who was a little further out and decided to go with her. I went into labor early after a foot rub and after more than 24 hours and not really having much progress past like 6-7 cm, she transferred me to a rural hospital (of all places) that was familiar with the area MW's and who were incredibly tolerant and patient. No one judged me for being transferred and they even let me bend the rules (not monitoring as often, walking around, drinking freely, I think they even said I could eat if i wanted). I had a great OB there, even tho my MW was still with me. I even said that if I ever had to do it again, I would go back, but then we moved last fall from Arkansas to Arizona. I'm having to start all over again. I'm so nervous to interview midwives and worry about all of this again. I haven't even had any checkups since we moved here, so I am not even familiar with any OB's if I needed one. We really don't know anyone here at all, to be honest.... so if anyone is familiar with the Phoenix area and can give me any recommendations, that would be greatly appreciated!!!!

 

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I'm soooo excited because I have a birth center within 7 minutes of my house!  I took a tour yesterday and I'm very happy with it.  So that's the route we're going (assuming everything stays healthy) with this kid.  I had a really good birth experience with my DD at a hospital, so it's not going to break my heart if we have to go back there.  My only issues with the hospital was the no food/drink policy and the fact I had to be monitored at all times (even though I had no epidural and no other issues), so I couldn't walk around - and the only reason this wasn't a bigger issue was because I went so fast, I was nearly paralyzed by the contractions and couldn't walk anyway.

 

But I'm very happy to not have to have a "birth plan" in the sense of the one-page plea to the staff to treat you like a person and not a number.

 

And I'm very excited about the birth center!


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I am planning an HBAC as well and I'm in the Monterey Bay area so we're practically neighbors!  LOL  
 

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I am planning a homebirth vbac. It's a really politically sensitive topic in CA so there aren't many midwives who will do it, but the ones who do are very experienced. My DD's birth was an unscheduled csection because she was in distress (the cord was wrapped around her neck twice and I was only around 5-6cm dilated so they wouldn't let me continue to labor). I did not have a great time in the hospital and really want to avoid it this time around.



 


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I have had 3 unmedicated hospital births and am planning the same for this babe. I've considered a homebirth for the last two but I've worked with the nurses and midwives on my unit for years and feel like they are more "family" and supportive of me than a new midwife I haven't met before would be. smile.gif


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What are you doing for backup care? The midwives I have talked to seem to think it is important to have a backup in case you have to transport (to avoid any issues at the hospital - eg, punitive care), but they say you cant tell the dr you want to homebirth or they won't take you for insurance reasons. There is only 1 dr in the peninsula that will backup homebirths and he won't do vbacs. I don't like the idea of not telling my dr I want to have a homebirth. But I also don't want to transport without a backup dr that I trust.

 

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I am going for a HBAC just north of you in Marin :)

 

Have a few meet n greets with local midwives set up this week.

 

Had a terrible experience with the birth of my first. Hoping for anything other than that.

 

YAY!! Best wishes to everyone :) 

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I had a natural hospital birth the day after a failed cervidil induction and very annoying first stay at the birth center.  The actual birth day and the following stay was great and I'd do it all over again in a heartbeat.  My doula was a rock star, I had super supportive nurses, no one pressured me into interventions, I got to hold my son literally right after he came out, they have very knowledgeable LCs on staff who come to your room to help you figure out nursing, and on and on... the birth day was really great.

 

I'd even be willing to go through an attempt at cervidil induction again (the insert fell out last time after like 2 hrs, not the 12 it is supposed to stay in, so who knows if it would have worked) but I absolutely don't want to go through the run-around I had during that first hospital stay.  There was a horrible midwife on call who tried to give me pitocin and taunted me (!!!) when I said I didn't want to start with that and wanted to stick to the plan I had formulated with my doctor.

 

This time I'd really like to not even futz about with any kind of induction, but last time there was an issue with DS's placenta that made it seem relevant.  This time I'm hoping to go into labor naturally and labor at home a lot longer before going in.  Other than that, wouldn't change a thing!  I'm the rare bird who doesn't actually want a homebirth. 

 


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I am planning a HB.  This is DC #3, and both sons were natural hospital births.  I have an appt with my midwife next week.


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This one will be either a homebirth, or due to the crazy issues going on in NC right now, if my midwife can't practice in the state I will go just over the border to SC and rent a hotel room.  Not ideal, but I won't go to a hospital unless there is a true need.  My first was a pretty rough vaginal hospital birth, and our second was a wonderful homebirth.  I'm not a very happy preggy person, so I'm just excited about getting to birth again!!


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I have no clue.  My desire is a home birth, and I have many reasons why this is the best choice.  THe problem is we would have to pay out of pocket for a traveling midwife, and I am not sure we can afford it.  I really need to find out what it is like to birth at the hospital here before I decide.  I have had three births without any pain meds, but only one without any real interventions.  I want a gentle, intervention free birth.  Where that happens isn't as important, but man birthing at home would be great!  My daughters both came rather quickly once labor started for real.  Less than 4 hours total.  So, being we live about 40 mins form the hospital on good roads, and it will be icy then, I worry.  I don't want the baby born in the car when it is -40F!!!!


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My last three births were HBAC, and of course I plan on having another homebirth this time!  Birth is my favorite part, I'm really excited I am blessed enough to do it again!

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Birth is my favorite part...


Yay!  I'm glad there's someone else out there that thinks that way!!!  My last pregnancy was rough, but the birth made up for it, tenfold!

 

 


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I honestly don't know where to ask this question, so I apologize if this is in the wrong place.  And honestly, I don't even know if I'm asking the right question, or if it's a question at all...

 

So they say the labor for the 2nd kid is generally faster.  With my first, I went from 0 to complete in 45 minutes, then pushed for 15 minutes.  So in all, my labor was an hour.

 

The concern I have is technically, I don't know if what I felt was a natural progression, or if I only went that fast because they had inserted a cervix softener.  I never had pitocin or any other drugs.

 

My other concern is I only had 2 contractions before pushing, where I couldn't talk through them (Or move at all, really).  The earlier contractions felt less than what I get on a monthly basis with menstrual cramps, so I wrote them off, I guess?

 

I guess, for those with multip kids...  should I be prepared for a quicker birth or is it more of an old wives tale?  I know everyone is different, etc.  I'm not concerned that they'll suggest I get induced at 39 weeks, just to avoid an emergency, because I'm at a birth center that doesn't induce.  Do I tell them anyway that my first birth was fast or do you think it was all due to medication and I'm really not that awesome?  Do I head to the birth center at the first twinge of a cramp, or do I wait until the usual sign of not being able to talk through a contraction before I go?

 

The birth center, in good traffic, is 7 minutes away.  I should hope that I wouldn't having a kid on the side of the road within 7 minutes, but I did tell my DH that he should be prepared.  We took Bradley classes for our 1st, so DH is ready to catch a baby, should we end up with a surprise unassisted HB (though I really don't want to clean up after one).

 

I know it's super early to be talking about this, but it is something that's been on my mind.


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I guess, for those with multip kids...  should I be prepared for a quicker birth or is it more of an old wives tale? 



My last few labors did not go faster at all, nor did the pushing part.  The labors/ births that were quicker seemed to be the ones where baby was just in a great position.  My "worst" labor/birth was due to a little guy that had his head in an odd way, and refused to get into a good position.  My last labor, baby 7, we had some position issues and again, was not one of the more smooth births. 

 

 

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I'd love to give birth at our local birth center, but I don't think it will happen.  The first time, I had a c-section because I had a large baby and low fluid.  With a good midwife, I probably could have birthed her without complications.  I wasn't as concerned about a natural birth then as I am now.  I was not happy with the hospital experience.  My daughter had trouble transitioning, and was taken to the NICU for an hour, give or take.  I had the shakes BAD from the morphine and ended up very drugged up.  I gave birth the same day the hospital somehow had 10 sets of twins, and it was packed.  My roommate brought in stinky food and ate before she was supposed to, so she was hogging the bathroom while she was sick.  (Meanwhile, I got chastised for waiting too long to pee by the nurses.)  I ended up bawling the next day because I didn't sleep that night because of the roommate, or the night before  because of nerves. The nurse sent a social worker assuming that I was depressed, and I had explain that I was just freaking exhausted.  I ended up having an autoimmune reaction and stayed for five days.

 

This time around, I'd really love to do a VBAC.  I have a muscle condition that causes rigidity and spasms of the voluntary muscles, though, and the recommendation is a c-section.  I checked with my doctors prior to trying, and nobody had any real concerns aside from the medication.   Right now, I'm stepping off the medication and it's rough.  I'm switching OB's, too, so I asked for a recommendation from my neurologist.  That being said, I am going to explore my options as much as possible this time.  I will be delivering at a smaller, newer hospital with individual rooms.  God willing, I'll be able to nurse asap.  I also would like to postpone the antibiotic eye goop until after I hold and look into my baby's eyes. 


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I honestly don't know where to ask this question, so I apologize if this is in the wrong place.  And honestly, I don't even know if I'm asking the right question, or if it's a question at all...

 

So they say the labor for the 2nd kid is generally faster.  With my first, I went from 0 to complete in 45 minutes, then pushed for 15 minutes.  So in all, my labor was an hour.

 

The concern I have is technically, I don't know if what I felt was a natural progression, or if I only went that fast because they had inserted a cervix softener.  I never had pitocin or any other drugs.

 

My other concern is I only had 2 contractions before pushing, where I couldn't talk through them (Or move at all, really).  The earlier contractions felt less than what I get on a monthly basis with menstrual cramps, so I wrote them off, I guess?

 

I guess, for those with multip kids...  should I be prepared for a quicker birth or is it more of an old wives tale?  I know everyone is different, etc.  I'm not concerned that they'll suggest I get induced at 39 weeks, just to avoid an emergency, because I'm at a birth center that doesn't induce.  Do I tell them anyway that my first birth was fast or do you think it was all due to medication and I'm really not that awesome?  Do I head to the birth center at the first twinge of a cramp, or do I wait until the usual sign of not being able to talk through a contraction before I go?

 

The birth center, in good traffic, is 7 minutes away.  I should hope that I wouldn't having a kid on the side of the road within 7 minutes, but I did tell my DH that he should be prepared.  We took Bradley classes for our 1st, so DH is ready to catch a baby, should we end up with a surprise unassisted HB (though I really don't want to clean up after one).

 

I know it's super early to be talking about this, but it is something that's been on my mind.


My first was an accidental home birth. It wasn't as scary as I was of it. Really, we all ended just fine. The whole experience of being taken to the hospital and basically being ignored for all of my opinions is what made me decide to have a planned home birth this time. Anyway, my point is that if you do accidentally birth at home, then I'd say don't let them take you to the hospital. We were treated like an emergency. Like my house was a sewer. If I would have known I could, I would have told them to go away and called a home birth midwife and asked her to come help me. 

 


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My first was an accidental home birth. It wasn't as scary as I was of it. Really, we all ended just fine. The whole experience of being taken to the hospital and basically being ignored for all of my opinions is what made me decide to have a planned home birth this time. Anyway, my point is that if you do accidentally birth at home, then I'd say don't let them take you to the hospital. We were treated like an emergency. Like my house was a sewer. If I would have known I could, I would have told them to go away and called a home birth midwife and asked her to come help me. 

 



Thank you!!!!  That actually made it clear as to what question I need to ask my midwife about the situation - Ask her what their policy is, should I end up with an unplanned home birth!  Thank you!


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