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Old 09-23-2011, 12:59 AM
 
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I actually don't know which of these two comments compliment me whenever I am asked how far along I am being pregnant and I answered 5 months.

1. " Why it seems small? " (Do I look undernourished?)

2. " Why is it big?" (Should I diet?)

I actually don't know how to answer both question and which one to believe (small or big)  or maybe it is in the way it's being delivered since I encounter having both comments from two different person that sounds rude :)

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Old 09-23-2011, 07:41 AM
 
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I work with a LOT of customers, some of which are pregnant..not unusual..and I really try hard to refrain from saying anything "oh you're so __" I usually just say something like oh my gosh you look so cute!! When are you due? (: lol. And then we talk about our baby bumps. 


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OK, I've got a good one.  We are at a soccer game this morning and my in-laws are talking to a friend of theirs.  My FIL mentions the baby and out of nowhere dd1 pops up and says "Mom likes the names Fiona Meadow and Penelope Snow for the baby", then the lady says "Well, I'm not sure if Penelope would appreciate you when she's an adult".  I then turn to dd1 and nicely say "honey, we don't mention our possible name choice to people, b/c they may say rude things and we really don't appreciate that."  (Loud enough that she could hear me of course) Then I walked away.  rolleyes.gif


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^^^ Which is why I *never* speak the name to anybody but my partner before the child is born and named. People are just asses!

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Yeah, I never talk about it IRL except for to my kids, dh and my mom.
 

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^^^ Which is why I *never* speak the name to anybody but my partner before the child is born and named. People are just asses!


 


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OK, I've got a good one.  We are at a soccer game this morning and my in-laws are talking to a friend of theirs.  My FIL mentions the baby and out of nowhere dd1 pops up and says "Mom likes the names Fiona Meadow and Penelope Snow for the baby", then the lady says "Well, I'm not sure if Penelope would appreciate you when she's an adult".  I then turn to dd1 and nicely say "honey, we don't mention our possible name choice to people, b/c they may say rude things and we really don't appreciate that."  (Loud enough that she could hear me of course) Then I walked away.  rolleyes.gif



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I had to bump this up..

 

Twice now at work I've been asked if I'm having twins. TWINS! My belly really is not that big..I'm measuring pretty spot on. The first time I was asked was a while ago but on Wednesday a woman says "Oh my you're HUGE! Are you having twins?" Her daughter (adult) was there to say "No mom! She's freakin' due!" Like really? The ONLY time it is EVER appropriate to ask a woman if she's having twins is if she's in labor and pushing out the second child. Just totally not OK. How about "oh congrats" or "good luck" or "when are you due?" People. 

 

Then of course, throughout the semester/pregnancy I've had people tell me how I should raise my child (involving her father, etc) and I just LOVE the questions: are you with the father? why aren't you with the father? what happened? what did he do? do you talk to him still? And it goes on and on and on..why does anyone think that's appropriate? I don't openly share any of that information. Some of you on here if you've followed my 'story' are..and my some very close friends and family. But not even all of my family knows what happened. They don't need to. I just don't see how people think it's alright to ask those kind of questions. 

 

/Rant over. (:


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