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#1 of 47 Old 08-04-2011, 08:04 AM - Thread Starter
 
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It is with great sadness in my heart that I must share our terrible news. We went to the Midwife yesterday for a routine visit and she was not able to find a heartbeat. They sent us over to perinatology where the u/s confirmed that our baby had passed away a few days ago.

We will be going to the hospital today so I can deliver her via induction. We want to know what was wrong with her and to be able to hold her before we let her go.

 

I don't know what to do with myself and I dread going into L&D to have this done, though I know I must.

 

My heart is absolutely broken.


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I am so sorry for you loss.  


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So very sorry for your loss. candle.gif


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Mama, I'm so saddened to hear this news.

 

All my love.


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So very sorry to hear this.  :(


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my heart is hurting so badly for you.  i am so sorry.

 

good luck tomorrow, i will be thinking of you.

 

do you have some support with you right now?

 

again, so very sorry.  :(


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So sorry for your loss. :(


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I am so sorry

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I'm so sorry for your loss, mama. It is so unfair. Take pictures, hold her as long as you want, do foot and hand prints. I'm so sorry, mama.


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Lots of hugs and love to you. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. hug2.gif


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I am so sorry for your loss.  Be gentle with yourself.


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I'm so, so sorry... I'm sending thoughts of healing for your body and heart.

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Oh mama, I'm so sorry to hear about your loss and the pain you are going through.  It's a terrible thing.  Please feel free to PM me if you have any questions or just want to chat.  We also have a few threads going over in Pregnancy and Birth Loss that may help you if you have any questions about what to expect from the induction and birth.

 

Please be gentle with yourself during this difficult and painful time.  Far too many of us have experienced something similar.  We're here for you when and if you need us. hug.gif


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Oh no!  How horrible!  I'm so very sorry for your loss.  hug2.gif  

 

I'm wishing you a gentle birth and healing during this time.  Hang in there. 

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Oh mama, I am so, so sorry. I will be thinking of you tomorrow.
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So sorry for you loss.  Take good care of yourself.

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I am so sorry for your loss.


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I'm so so so very sorry ): That is so scary and upsetting. Goodness...how awful.


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I am so sorry!!!

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I'm so sorry to hear about your loss, music.mama.


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Oh musicmama, I am so saddened to hear this. I am sending you loving and healing thoughts.


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I am so sorry!  This seems to be happening to a lot of mamas on here...so unexpected.

 

Hopefully you can get the answers you are looking for with the delivery and are able to say your proper goodbyes.


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Oh no. I'm so sad to hear this. I'm so sorry for your loss. hug2.gif Wishing you comfort and relief during this time. Please know we're there for you in spirit. 


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I am so sorry. It is a pain that no family should have to go through. I pray that you find the peace and comfort that you need hug2.gif

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thought of you today.

 

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I'm so sorry! I can't believe all these early losses in our DDC. :( I'm sorry.candle.gif


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So so sorry to hear of your loss.  May you find the peace and healing you need. Hugs.


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I am so sorry hun. *hugs*


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I am deeply sorry for your loss. Take good care of yourself mama. candle.gif


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I am adding my thoughts of peace and comfort to all of those that are being sent your way...I hope that in some way that we can reach you and your familly...

 

 

 

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