they both started out on the bottom, and at ages 6 and 7, they usually sneak into the bottom bunk together every night, but they technically use both beds now. (we put a second mattress at the bottom of the frame- without a boxspring, there's room.) i like the bed because it has a small footprint, and the upper bunk is really short, such that i don't worry (anymore) about them jumping off of it- it's not very tall. (granted, they're 6 and 7...) in the long run, if you're aiming for your son to be up top, you could use the bottom space for storage/dressers, or a small table. it's not tall enough for a grownup to hang out underneath very comfortably, but it makes for a fantastic playspace -they're always hanging their comforters over the top bunk and playing "camping".
i have been following the convos here and wish to say more, but i've been out all day and i've got to get the kids to bed.
feel better, devaskyla! for reals, woman. feel better.
HCM- gentle, all-natural, unconditional mama to three boys (8,6,4) and new baby girl!
sweet bee, i don't know if there's an ikea close to you, but we got this bed for my oldest 2 kids when we learned we were pregnant with number 3: http://www.ikea.com/us/en/catalog/products/10123996/
I have this same bed for my two oldest - the 7 year old is on top and the 4 year old on the bottom. The top bunk is really very low, and we have the tent that goes over the top of it. We have one of these as a stair case:
My 2 year old can climb up and down on that just fine, but I wouldn't want him to sleep up there at this age.