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#1 of 6 Old 12-29-2011, 12:15 AM - Thread Starter
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Talking with both mil and my mom today, and found out BOTH not only "didn't know" they were in labor with any of their children (seriously - my mom said she went to the doctor at the end of her pregnancy who informed her she was in labor - she truly had nearly painless early contractions and thought they were just more braxton hicks)


Once things actually were confirmed both birthed within four hours of confirming active labor with four children between them! (My own mother specifically seems to go from 1-10cm in a matter of hours). My maternal grandmother was the same with all three of her children (she had to "hold the last one in" and apparently the doctor was mad that she birthed so fast apparently...)


I will say it *kind of* made me nervous! (And excited at the same time). For mamas who've btdt... are you anything like your mother in terms of labor patterns?

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My mom had 5 long slow labors stretched out over several days.  I've been meaning to ask her for more details-- I am guessing that maybe her water didn't break until close to the end with most (all?) of us.  My early labor stretched on for a long time but as soon as my water was broken for me, I dilated from ~2 to 10 in about 3 hours, pushed for an hour and a half and had a baby.  The OB who broke my water and who caught my son (and who was surprised to be the on-call for both events) noted that I had a very very tough sac and wondered aloud about when it would have broken on its own-- which has caused me to wonder as well over the intervening years.



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Not at all. My mom had cesereans each time. She doesn't know what a contraction even feels like. In doula and childbirth education conferences it has been brought up more than once that a woman is more inclined to birth like her sisters than she is her mother. I've ben the quickest birther between my sisters and I, but all of us have been fairly quick and all of our waters either didn't break until crowning or were artificially ruptured.

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From info I've been able to gather (my mother doesn't have the best memory), both me and my younger sister came early, by a week, but had 24+ hours of labor with each.  I had my DD at 40+5 (induced) and my labor was an hour.  So I'd say my labors are exactly the opposite of my mother's.

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my mother had three (first, second and fourth) relatively easy, uncomplicated natural labors and one (her third) tricky one probably because the dr. decided that since she was 4 cm dilated she was ready to give birth and broke her water while my sister was backwards so she had horrible back labor. My brother and I (her first two) were both two weeks post-due dates and with me (second) she wasn't even convinced she was in real labor when she arrived at the hospital fully dilated!


I was induced at 41 wks with my first due to high bp but then had a relatively easy, uncomplicated labor (aside from skyrocketing bp) and she was born less than 12 hours after induction. My contractions were almost completely painless until late in labor but the situation was way too different to really compare to my moms. My bp is under control with this pregnancy and my ob is unconcerned about dates so I'll refuse induction as long as they'll let I guess we'll see with this one :)


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Originally Posted by GreenMamma View Post

 it has been brought up more than once that a woman is more inclined to birth like her sisters than she is her mother.

i was actually wondering that, if we birth more like our sisters' than our mothers - that is really interesting. my mom had three uncomplicated natural labors under 10 hours, with me, her last,  she had back labor due to me being posterior, and i came out that way as well. might have something to do with her being in a hospital bed on her back the whole time! my sister had about a 7 hour natural labor. this is my first so we'll see!

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