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I'm wondering if there are any birth professionals who dress modestly in everyday life who can tell me what you wear to births? I'm hoping to find something modest, comfy and professional looking.

I need something more practical than skirts but more loose than yoga pants or jeans.

Sometimes I wear pants that are kind of like culottes, and something like that might work, but I'd love to hear other ideas.

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I actually like to wear skirts to births, but I get the sense that it isn't the pants themselves that you have a problem with, but rather loose-fitting around the midsection/rear. One of my midwife friends wears aprons at her births -- she prefers skirts to pants and likes having a covering to keep her clothing clean but also something with pockets, which not all skirts/dresses have. I might suggest that you wear your street clothes, but adopt some kind of apron that covers front and back as your workwear. Something like a sleeveless tunic with pockets.

The one thing I have a problem with at births with modest families is covering my arms. I do so many waterbirths that not being able to pull up my sleeves would be a hardship. Thankfully, even though some of the women I serve cover their arms regardless of weather, no one has minded my having short or 3/4 length sleeves.

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Lands End has some knit pants
long cotton skirts that are loose and nicer then sweats and (my modestly dressing friend wears this in her house because of the comfort). She got them at Lands End with nice long cotton tunic blouse.

I bought some pull on cotton knit pants like this at Talbot's and love them.
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I'm not a birth professional, but I hope you don't mind me answering. Perhaps a salwar kameez would work for you? The salwar pants are very loose and pleated (unlike tight churidar pants), and you can get longer kameez that are still very easy to wear because of the side slits.
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I actually like wearing scrubs. They're loose fitting in the legs and you can adjust the waist band to your needs. The shirts are also designed to be a bit loose fitting as well. Plus the pockets are great and I don't have to worry about getting my regular clothes bloody and I know I will always have clothes ready to go for a birth. I have a couple of pairs and wear one and leave an extra in one of my bags. You can get them in so many colors and styles nowadays (cute pictures, etc) they don't even seem very clinical and haven't bothered my clients that don't want a reminder of hospital staff.
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I wear skirts/dresses every day and have worn skirts to every birth I've attended. I have some longish (mid calf length) loose skirts with pockets. I can squat easily in them, and they are plenty loose enough (and long enough) that I can sit spread legged on a birth ball to demonstrate positions without showing off my undies. I think pockets make them practicle, but I'm considdering just wearing an apron over some of my skirts that don't have pockets to help with giving me more options.

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I'm not a birth professional, but I hope you don't mind me answering.
Not at all, any input is great.

I sometimes feel like I have too much fabric around my legs so maybe the knit pants with a long top, or the apron idea might be nice.

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I would second the what ever you regularly wear and add aprons with pockets- My grandmothers always had some aprons to keep their clothes clean - cobbler's aprons or full bib- some were sleeveless smock style all made out of calico
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I wear khakis or cargo pants and a comfortable t-shirt, with neither being tight fitting. My conservative clients/Amish don't seem to mind at all.

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I'm not a modest dresser, exactly although I always dress modestly. If that makes sense?
I like to wear linen pants that are full of pockets. Or jeans. Or, actually, my favorite summer wear is men's shorts - they are nice and baggy and go down past my knees.
I usually wear an undershirt that's really long to tuck in to avoid gapping when bending. Then a short sleeve shirt (Target, $5) with a reasonable neckline. Then a long sleeve knit shirt. Sometimes I wear an apron. Anyway, I prefer the long sleeves. But, if the baby is going to be born underwater, I peel off the outer shirt and catch wearing the short sleeve shirt.

www.eshakti.com has great customizable sets that you could make quite modest.

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As a doula and a henna artist, I would warn you about wearing skirts with elastic waistbands. It's too easy for very embarrassing mishaps to occur after you have been squatting down. Ask me how I know...
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As a doula and a henna artist, I would warn you about wearing skirts with elastic waistbands. It's too easy for very embarrassing mishaps to occur after you have been squatting down. Ask me how I know...
That is the reason I will never wear a skirt to a birth again. It wasn't modest at all

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That is the reason I will never wear a skirt to a birth again. It wasn't modest at all
Oh yes, I always wear skirts with drawstring or button waistbands...never elastic...all that up and down and up and down...I step on my hems enough just chasing my kids, I couldn't imagine how many times I'd flash folks at a birth!

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Thank you, I'll keep that in mind. I hadn't thought about that.

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I primarily attend births in the hospital setting so I layer up like crazy! I wear yoga pants, 2 shirts, a lightweight hoodie and always closed toe shoes. I would rather be able to take off then not have anything to put on

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As a doula and a henna artist, I would warn you about wearing skirts with elastic waistbands. It's too easy for very embarrassing mishaps to occur after you have been squatting down. Ask me how I know...
ooooh, been there!
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Lol I'm glad I'm not the only one whose flashed a dr.
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I don't think I'd be comfortable in a skirt--I like to be pretty mobile and wouldn't want to worry about getting it tangled in wires (in the hospital) or in any number of things at a homebirth. I've worn jeans and looser fitting yoga pants, and just bought a pair of Thai Fisherman pants that I'm sure will get some good use as well. Target and Old Navy sell jersey material gaucho pants with elastic waists, and I'm thinking of picking up a few more pairs of those as well.

As far as on top I keep it simple with a t-shirt, but always bring a jacket/shawl /scarf if I need to cover up a bit more.
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I love the Target gaucho pants. Unfortunately, I have accidentally removed my pants (and my underwear, somehow!) by catching my shoe on them while getting out of a bench. I still wear them, but I make sure to not wear my crocs, which are practically like velcro on that material, LOL. I hope others can learn from my experience :P

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I wear skirts to prenatals when I go visit my Amish or Mennonite ladies, but when I attend births I wear scrubs. They are not tight fitting and are made to repel stains if they happen. You can also get scrub dresses, if you'd prefer a skirt type of thing without the possibility of losing your skirt, lol.

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I love the Target gaucho pants. Unfortunately, I have accidentally removed my pants (and my underwear, somehow!) by catching my shoe on them while getting out of a bench. I still wear them, but I make sure to not wear my crocs, which are practically like velcro on that material, LOL. I hope others can learn from my experience :P
Oh no!!! I am glad there are many of us who have lost our pants at one birth or another..... it makes me actually feel better about stepping on my skirt and having my green shamrock undies make an unplanned appearance in the birth room.

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skirts to prenatals and scrubs to births.

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Oh no!!! I am glad there are many of us who have lost our pants at one birth or another..... it makes me actually feel better about stepping on my skirt and having my green shamrock undies make an unplanned appearance in the birth room.
LOL, well consider yourself lucky that your pants AND your underwear weren't around your knees!

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for years I only wore long skirts and it wasn't a problem- they were zip up though or else full jumpers/dresses if I were worried i would wear stretch shorts under- any more I just wear what ever I have around- that is sitting clean- I personally really hate scrubs- they don't fit well and rarely are they all cotton-
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LOL, well consider yourself lucky that your pants AND your underwear weren't around your knees!
Actually, I am going to consider the mom and dad I was working with lucky It was embarrassing, but I was glad I had my cute undies with fairly full coverage on.

The problem was really that I am not usually a skirt wearing person, so I am not very graceful in them. I had made this skirt myself and it was very long and I was down on the floor and stood up.... apparently keeping most of my elastic-waisted skirt under my shoe. It has been slacks since then for me!

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I had no idea so many birth professionals doubled as flashers!
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I like LA Rose flare scrub pants from www.lydiasuniforms.com.

I wear them with old navy perfect fit Ts or with 100% cotton scrub tops that don't have that boxy look to them. If it weren't for the v-neck, the tops would be perfectly modest. I think I'm going to start wearing a cami or a high-neck tank under them just to be sure.

You really have to be careful with scrub pants, though, because I had some that were low-rise type with an elastic waist and they were WAY too low. I would sit on the end of the bed (or anywhere with someone who might be behind me) and think "can I move w/o showing my crack?" I finally just gave them away...there was no comfortable and modest way for them to work.

Scrubs may not be the "best choice" in other people's opinions, but I can definitely say I've never lost my pants (or shirt) at a birth! I also like that I can get an entire half of my scrub top wet at a water birth and it doesn't turn into a clingy wet t-shirt contest. It's just a scrub top that's a little wet.

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Looks like Lydia's has scrub tops with a square neckline and you can cinch the waist a bit too (on some styles). A square neckline is something I would definitely prefer over the typical v-neck, and being able to have it a teeny bit more form fitting so it doesn't hang around me would be nice as well. Thanks for the link!
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