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#1 of 4 Old 09-16-2010, 11:21 AM - Thread Starter
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What do you say? I've emailed two...I was thinking email might be better than phone since I don't want to put anyone on the spot...and talking on the phone makes me want to puke (I realize I HAVE to get over that, but it's going to take some baby steps). Neither have emailed me back though and it's been 2w for one of them and 1w for the other. I didn't say "hey can I apprentice with you" or anything, but I figured I'd get some sort of response back. So I guess before I try contacting any others I thought I'd get advice on what to say.

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I've met most of the midwives in my town by setting up a time to visit via email. I don't do the phone unless absolutely necessary because it can be difficult for me to hear. I did end up with an apprenticeship with one by initially contacting her via email.

I think it totally depends on who you are trying to get into contact with. Some people are more phone people, or would rather text or email. Frankly, it kind of turns me off when someone won't get back to me even just to say "thanks, but no thanks". Just rubs me the wrong way somehow. What if I was a pregnant woman looking for a midwife, would she then not bother to get back to me? Luckily I've really not had this happen. They've all been pretty quick to respond.

Which makes me think, what kind of email account do you have? If you've got yahoo or hotmail or something like that it could be getting lost in her spam box.

Oh, and to answer your question more specifically, I'd let her know I was a student looking for local opportunities to apprentice. Does she know of anyone who might be looking for an assistant? Ask if she has any openings in her schedule to meet with you, you would love the opportunity to meet with her and get to know her a little bit, ask advice, etc.

Where are you in Idaho? There is a week long skills workshop coming up in October in Boise with Vicki Penwell. That might be an opportunity for you.


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On the other side of the coin, I am a new midwife and I have had several wannabe's email me to pick my brain and then not even thank me for the reply I spent 15 minutes working on.

If I've had this many just in the last year, I can't even imagine how annoying that gets for midwives of 10, 15 and 20+ years.

I am probably just going to end up with a generic response* I can copy and paste to such emails because I am taking away time from my family and clients to answer them.

*telling them to call me at such and such time to discuss it further if I have any potential openings or just directing them to the state mw assoc.
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Originally Posted by busybusymomma View Post
On the other side of the coin, I am a new midwife and I have had several wannabe's email me to pick my brain and then not even thank me for the reply I spent 15 minutes working on.
Oh my goodness, yes! I get tons of emails either from people looking for an apprenticeship or asking me about schooling or wanting to shadow or whatever. About 90% of the time, after I write a good response, I never even get a 'thank you'. So, I can see why midwives may finally just get tired of responding at all, unless they actually have a space they are looking to fill.

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