Originally Posted by agnieszkaj
Not the OP, but I was wondering how one goes about finding a competent postpartum therapist? My crunchy mw sent me to one that is *supposed* to be good - and my mw believed the hype - but actually the therapist was *not* good, especially for a crunchy mom. I need to find one who is not going to judge me for co-sleeping and who actually understands that my amazing and natural birth brought with it some issues.
First I would call all the therapists in your area from the list http://postpartum.net/local-support/
Also ask in your tribal area for recommendations. You have to click with the therapist. So talk to all of them on the phone and meet in person for a consultations with the one or two you click with on the phone, don't give up until you meet someone and like them.
A good therapist for you and who can help you does not necessarily need to live her life like you (it's nice, but not necessary). She just needs to be professional enough to respect you, understand you and be supportive and non judgemental. kindness and able to give you ideas to help you examine your life and feel better is the key.
It is not a bad idea for you to be asked to examine your ideas about parenting, that is all part of it, if it is healthy for you it will stand up to examaniation. You do not want to be too rigid if that is an issue for you, everything gets examined and you then have an opportunity to discard what i s not working in your life. Many of us parent in over *reaction* to how our own parents treated us, and it is a burden to live that way and be a parent. We do things we don't understand, that get in our way.
It is unlikely a therapist will ever tell you how she lives and raises her family. I can tell you that most good ones raise their kids from a basic human development point of view which is not labeled "AP" but is not very far off from how most of us raise our kids. Very attentive, nurturing and kindhearted and they breastfeed and have natural births.
In my area that is the norm for many!