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#1 of 8 Old 05-27-2008, 12:19 PM - Thread Starter
 
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I gave birth to my second son almost four months ago. I tore, and the vaginal opening has been stitched way too tight. Sex is not fun at all because the opening is so small. I am so, so unhappy, and extremely angry. It also seems like there's scarring. I had a 4th degree tear with my first son and didn't experience any issues at all after the first 8 weeks. Can the opening be made larger? Am I stuck with this for life? Is there any hope? I'm going to see another doctor in the practice, but I want to know what my options are.

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i dont understand how the opening could actually be made smaller. it just doesnt work like that. you can only close and the damaged tissue can only heal together. the original opening would not heal itsself together. that to me is like stitching together two fingers and expecting them to grow together.

what is most likely happening is, the scaring is preventing the tissues from stretching the way they used to. i would suggest rubbing evening primrose oil on the scar daily. you can have your partner help you with this. do it daily and it will help soften the scar tissue.

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i dont understand how the opening could actually be made smaller. it just doesnt work like that. you can only close and the damaged tissue can only heal together..

It works that way if a doctor is a jerk and gives you an extra stitch to make your vaginal opening a bit smaller under the misinformed belief that the sex is more enjoyable for your husband. It's a disgusting abusive practice that is not that popular anymore!

It can also happen accidentally (it only takes one stitch to might it too tight, or a lot of scar tissue ) from when repairing is done.

It can be corrected.
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The outer opening is definetely smaller. Also, the last time I looked at it, it looked like Dr. Frankenstein worked on it, which was so depressing I'm afraid to look again. Is an oil massage the only way to fix it? Honestly, I'd be willing to go through the pain of being cut a little just to improve the situation for the future.
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I can't see any reason why you shouldn't be able to get a COMPETENT practitioner to re-cut and re-stitch you. Or possibly even cut and NOT stitch. I think maybe often they stitch when no stitching was really needed. I often wish I had not had my 2nd degree tear stitched. It didn't heal particularly tight, just a little wonky and weird. I don't think it needed stitching. I've heard this from other mamas as well.
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A Gynecologist can restore your comfort with minor surgery. There is no reason for you to look like "Frankenstein", they can also restore it to look better.

A lot of GYN's do restorative repairs, ask around to find one you trust and like.

If you are near NYC Dr Gae Rodke is a good source.
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I felt "too tight" after a very minor tear was stitched following DS1's birth. Not dramatically, and certainly not with ill-intent on my midwife's part.

But it was part of my decision NOT to stitch a very minor tear following DS2's birth. I thought, if I tore the same way in the same place twice, maybe that's just how it's supposed to be - and let it heal by itself. I didn't have the same issues of feeling "tight" afterwards.

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My dr stitched mine tight too, it was sore until ds2 was born. I hated sex since it reminded me of splinters in that spot. I asked the dr later and she told me I just needed more lube and to wait longer. After ds2 was born I was so nervous to even try sex since I tore in the same spot, but without the stitches involved it didn't hurt.

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