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#1 of 11 Old 04-20-2011, 03:08 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Would you reccomend some reading? Give some sage advice?


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Can you be a little more specific in what you're looking for?  I'd love to be able to help you.  :)


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I'm a birth and postpartum doula - can you elaborate a little?  I'd love to help too!

 

 

I took my certification course for both birth and postpartum doula through childbirth international


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When I posted, I was looking for book suggestions. I have since found a few, and now I'm more confused. What do I actually do? Get water? Provide phone numbers for helplines?

 

 I'm reading Nuturing the Family by Jacqueline Kelleher. It seems to be more of a list of dont's than do's.

 

I'm also doing my training through CBI. I'm a single mama, so hoping to do pp work while I do my cbe and bfe. When dc are older, I'd like to birth doula.


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The way I like to view postpartum doula work is that we are doing those things that a loving "mother/grandmother" might come in and do for her daughter while she is recovering from her birth and bonding with her baby.  So providing opportunities for mom to take care of herself - allow her to nap, make sure she eats properly, make sure she has plenty of time with the baby and/or time with older siblings if there are any, make sure she has time to take care of her needs like showering, etc.  Perhaps do some light housekeeping so she doesn't feel like she has to get up and wash dishes or stuff like that.  Teach and model baby care - pass on that wisdom that a mother would normally pass to her daughter when her daughter gives birth.  We are there to Mother the Mother through this period where she is learning, bonding, and resting.  

 

I am sure I am missing lots, but that kind of the idea of what I do as a postpartum doula.

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To me, the role of a postpartum doula is not so much in the operations (housekeeping, babysitting etc) but on the emotional support and assistance of the mother during the crisis that the ppperiod is. Finding her true voice as a mother, reorganization of the family, helping the mom to voice her requests in a concrete way (to her partner/ family/children). Help her navigate the emotions and sensations that come after giving birth, processing the birth and assitance with breastfeeding.

An excellent book is Maternity:coming face to face with your own shadow by Laura Gutman

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Here are some details about what I tell or write to clients who request about my services as a postpartum doula. 

 

I have extensive training and experience in mother and infant care, lactation support, infant massage, infant development, care of multiples, postpartum mood disorder, and family transitions.

 

I'm there to teach and assist with breastfeeding, maternal postnatal and newborn care and helping you and your partner learn to read your baby’s cues for feeding. Teach bathing, diapering, and umbilical cord care, soothing techniques and learning to pump if needed.

 

 Helpful around the house taking care of any necessary tasks for the family such as laundry, errands, tidying up and I'm a very good healthy cooks! 

 

All my services are individually tailored to meet the unique needs of each family. The tasks and focus of care provided by me each day will depend on the priorities requested or needed by your family.

 

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The way I like to view postpartum doula work is that we are doing those things that a loving "mother/grandmother" might come in and do for her daughter while she is recovering from her birth and bonding with her baby.  So providing opportunities for mom to take care of herself - allow her to nap, make sure she eats properly, make sure she has plenty of time with the baby and/or time with older siblings if there are any, make sure she has time to take care of her needs like showering, etc.  Perhaps do some light housekeeping so she doesn't feel like she has to get up and wash dishes or stuff like that.  Teach and model baby care - pass on that wisdom that a mother would normally pass to her daughter when her daughter gives birth.  We are there to Mother the Mother through this period where she is learning, bonding, and resting.  

 

I am sure I am missing lots, but that kind of the idea of what I do as a postpartum doula.



Absolutely!  In a perfect world no woman would ever NEED a PPDoula because she would have a loving, caring, mother/sister/friend in her life - who didnt work full time/ live three time zones away /knew nothing about breastfeeding...etc....  I find myself adapting to every mom differently, some Moms NEED to sit and talk and process the birth, some really dont feel comfortable doing that with me.  Breastfeeding going well is key, once that is going well i turn my attention to ALL the other stuff that she would be doing herself if she wasnt busy sitting on the couch breastfeeding!   I read - "Mothering the Mother" - by Penny Simkin (i think!)  and anything by Sheila Kitzinger is a good choice!

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I agree with everything all these ladies have said. Every postpartum mama/situation is different and will have different needs. I've had mamas who needed a lot of emotional support - so I spent most of my time talking with them, helping them process their birth experiences and postpartum feelings. Some mamas are not as needy emotionally and really just need a lot of practical support. For them, I accompanied them to doctors visits/ errands, prepared nutritious meals, did laundry, dishes, and nursery maintenance. There are also special circumstances such as a mom recovering from a cesarean birth, who I did pretty much everything for in the first few days, or a mom of multiples, who needed help with time management and organization. 

 

Usually it is a combination of everything - the emotional and practical support, breastfeeding tips, referrals to community resources. It is so very rewarding!! I am excited for you as you embark on this wonderful journey. 

 

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I was going to come ask the same question. Great advice, ladies!


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On the business side, find out how much baby nurses charge in your area, and charge more. We are not a comparable service, so why charge the same?

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