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Old 05-30-2011, 12:13 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Just Wondering what other doulas say if they see pregnant women while out and about.  Do you not say anything unless you start a conversation about something else and if the topic comes around to pregnancy do you then offer your services?    Do you aproach them and maybe give them your card?  Is it rude to approach someone?  I see a lot of pregnant women and just wondering what other doulas do. 


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I would say it is rude.  After all, how would you feel if you were driving an old car and a salesperson came up to you and offered their services of finding a car for you, or what if your hair looked messy and a hair dresser came up and handed you a business card?  

 

I see approaching pregnant women as the same way.  If someone approached me while I was out and about and handed me their card I would probably tell them they were rude and unless I asked for their services then they shouldn't offer them.  I know my feelings on this are very strong and some might not agree.  One other thing to consider is - what if the woman isn't pregnant?  I have known several women who look very pregnant for months and months after they have given birth.  I have a good friend who cried and became so depressed when she was out and someone asked her when she was due and she had her baby five months earlier.  


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I don't approach pregnant moms, unless I'm at Borders in the pregnancy/parenting sections and there's a pregnant mom looking at birth books.  I usually give them recommendations on books and feel the water.  Then *maybe* I'll give my business card.


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A girl in my certification class was talking about how she approached someone who was obviously pregnant and how she was discussing doulas with her.  I find that since I'm a new doula I'm super enthusiastic and want to just spread my love for birth to everone.  But when I actually think about doing this I never feel like it's appropriate.  Just thought I would clarify why I was asking the question.


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The only time I've ever done this  is when a pregnant woman has approached me- once when I was buying nettles in a health food store, and she asked what they were for- I explained I was a doula and I was going to give them to a client- she was really excited and asked for a card (which I didn't have at the time!) and another time a pregnant woman approached me to ask about the stroller I had my son in- I was close to my house and after my husband begged me to, I ran back home to get a brochure from DONA about doula care and wrote my contact information on the back to hand to her. I think that when someone approaches you and shares they are pregnant, it's ok to talk about how wonderful doula care is and offer your card, but I can't imagine approaching a pregnant woman unsolicited to hand her my business card. Pregnant woman are already treated like a public commodity. I doubt seriously anyone would want to be solicited in that way. Word of mouth from happy clients is the easiest way to go!

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Just Wondering what other doulas say if they see pregnant women while out and about.  Do you not say anything unless you start a conversation about something else and if the topic comes around to pregnancy do you then offer your services?    Do you aproach them and maybe give them your card?  Is it rude to approach someone?  I see a lot of pregnant women and just wondering what other doulas do. 

 

I have actually had someone come up to me and offer me a haircut.  He had a diagonal shoulder sash full of hairstylist tools and a drape in his pocket.  I wasn't in the market for a cut, and we were waiting for a bus that was arriving at that time.  Also, yard maintenance and home maintenance people canvass our neighborhood all the time and say, "I notice that your bushes/trees/fence could use some work, can I give you my business card and I'll give you 15% off etc."

 

Having said that, I figure that my business will grow just because I soapbox about birth topics all the time.  Well, for CBE classes, which is what I'll be starting in the fall.
 

 



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I would say it is rude.  After all, how would you feel if you were driving an old car and a salesperson came up to you and offered their services of finding a car for you, or what if your hair looked messy and a hair dresser came up and handed you a business card?  

 

I see approaching pregnant women as the same way.  If someone approached me while I was out and about and handed me their card I would probably tell them they were rude and unless I asked for their services then they shouldn't offer them.  I know my feelings on this are very strong and some might not agree.  One other thing to consider is - what if the woman isn't pregnant?  I have known several women who look very pregnant for months and months after they have given birth.  I have a good friend who cried and became so depressed when she was out and someone asked her when she was due and she had her baby five months earlier.  



 

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I test the waters with pregnant women I have the opportunity speaking with.  Start general conversation - ask them where they are birthing, ect.  If she seems open, I might ASK her if I can give her a card.  It's always worked well for me - nobody has been offended that I could tell - and I've gotten 3 clients that way.


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I feel uncomfortable approaching pregnant mamas, like I am trying to sell myself to them. If I happen to be in line next to one, sometimes I will comment on how cute she is or ask a question, but even then I rarely mention I am a doula unless the conversation develops that way. :) 

 

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A pregnant mama that saw me reading a doula book at the gym was my second client.

 

If I've heard moms mention being pregnant, I have handed out business cards.


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