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#1 of 15 Old 01-03-2012, 08:46 AM - Thread Starter
 
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I am interviewing a couple of doulas in coffee shops, and I am wondering if the etiquette is that I am supposed to buy their drinks and/or snacks?  Or would we typically go Dutch?

As a nanny, I have done interviews in coffee shops, and the Mom (the interviewer) usually offers to treat me (the interviewee), though often I have already gotten my drink when she arrives.  Another doula is coming to my home, and I will obviously have drinks available to offer her in that setting.

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I'd go Dutch. If you feel a special connection to her pre-interview perhaps get a snack to split. 


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I think I treated my doula

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I would treat.


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I would pay for my own and expect her to as well.

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I always pay for my own, since I usually arrive early.

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I always arrive early and pay for my own.

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add me to the "arrive early and pay for my own" for interviews...

 

the only time i would treat is if i'm meeting up with a former client for a catch up session...

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Me too, "arrive early, pay for my own"


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I also always pay for my own, as do they. No other option has ever occurred to me.
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I have always paid for my own and usually arrive first. Usually.

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I'd pay for my own.


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I'm a doula.  I arrive early and pay for my own.  I don't assume that my client (pregnant mom) will even want anything.


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I think each should pay for their own drink. It's a job interview, after all. The doulas can also deduct the cost of their drinks from their taxes.


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I buy my own. 


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