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#1 of 37 Old 10-19-2011, 08:54 AM - Thread Starter
 
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come on, mamas... this is getting boring!  what's happening?


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lol, I was just thinking of starting a new chat thread!

 

I had a prenatal checkup yesterday and confirmed that my blood pressure is a tad low.  No big deal except that I get lightheaded sometimes and yesterday while I was on my way to school I nearly passed out on public transit because I had to stand for the whole ride on a squished train.  I ended up having to get off before my stop, so I could sit down immediately on the platform.  I felt silly sitting there but almost passing out was kind of scary. 

I keep hoping one day that someone will offer me a seat on public transit but I don't think anybody cares.  A few weeks ago some middle aged woman actually pushed me out of the way to get the last seat before me.  If I feel faint again I'm just going to ask for a seat instead of waiting for someone to be nice. 

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 A few weeks ago some middle aged woman actually pushed me out of the way to get the last seat before me.  If I feel faint again I'm just going to ask for a seat instead of waiting for someone to be nice. 

whoa, that is a dangerous game to play with a pregnant mama!  af.gif

i am sorry you're feeling dizzy so much...  is there anything you can do about it?  eat lots of fried foods or something? 

 

i had a checkup a week and a half ago.. my next appointment will be to drink the gluecose crud and get a rhogam shot.  i can't believe we're that far already. 

 


 

 


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whoa, that is a dangerous game to play with a pregnant mama!  af.gif

i am sorry you're feeling dizzy so much...  is there anything you can do about it?  eat lots of fried foods or something? 

 

i had a checkup a week and a half ago.. my next appointment will be to drink the gluecose crud and get a rhogam shot.  i can't believe we're that far already. 

 

 


Yeah people are jerks sometimes. 

 

The lightheadedness really isn't so bad - it's infrequent and generally pretty mild.  I can just sit down and feel normal again immediately.  When I felt like I was going to pass out yesterday I think the fact that I was sardined in a crowded, hot train was what made it worse.  My doctor just told me to just make sure I am always eating (which I enjoy doing, heh), drinking lots of water and to sit if I feel faint.  I looked it up afterwards and apparently increasing your salt intake can help as well - I am taking that as a fee ticket to indulge in salty treats when I feel like it!

 

Besides the low blood pressure, I am generally feeling pretty good at this stage in the pregnancy!  I don't even seem to be getting many backaches or anything, so I am actually enjoying it.

 

I am supposed to do the gestational diabetes test next week, and got some infromation on prenatal classes which will start soonish.  It does seem like time is going by pretty quickley at this stage!

 

 

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I sympathize atomicrocket. I have postural hypotension(when I stand up, I get dizzy and lightheaded, at it's worst everything goes black and I collapse). Take care of yourself.

As for me. I'm dealing with some wicked prenatal depression. The big kids have croup and I seem to have some sort of ear infection. So, not much for me to talk about unless everyone wants to listen to a pity party.


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I've got low BP too. I have not had much dizziness since the temps have gone down, but when it was hotter I had several I've got to sit down now incidents. I passed out at the docs and stopped acupuncture because of the hotheadedness. I don't think I could make it standing up on a train, especially since crowded places seem to make the dizziness worse.

 

I got to do the glucose test next week too. I would be surprised if anything was up and I'm not looking forward to it. I seem to have moved into a grumpy, I don't want no more stinking tests phase.

 

Sorry about your depression Passage. I don't have kids to worry about, but it's moving into that time of year when my seasonal affective disorder starts to creep up. I'm trying to stay on top of it now because I don't think postpartum in the middle of the winter is going to help.


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Right of Passage - we are definitely listening!  Hope things look up for you soon.

 

Ramzubo - I think I've been really lucky so far with just one "nearly passing out" episode and the occasional bout of dizzyness.  Actually passing out must have been scary!  

 

DP and I have been talking about getting a second vehicle so I can use it (he needs our car for work), meaning I could avoid transit and not worry about carting a small baby around on a crowded train when I return to work in the summer, but it seems like such a huge expense.  Worrying about the cost of childcare on top of a second vehicle seems like a lot of stress, but so does being squished on a train with a baby in tow.  

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Yeah, I'm in a complaining and cranky mood these days too.  I'm hating having to go to work, I find getting dressed depressing, and I'm feeling sort of bored with pregnancy right now.  It's just that everything is sort of wait and see at this point...  see if my placenta moves, see if the baby positions well, wait to make concrete childcare or birth plans, wait to rearrange DD's room and make it the kids' room.  It wouldn't be so bad if I wasn't hating work so much right now but the combination just leaves me impatient and irritable.  I've also had a recurring UTI that has had me on antibiotics 3x this pregnancy.  I hate antibiotics and I'm starting to feel pretty defensive about my ability to pee and wipe myself. 

 

I have my appt next week.  I think at that point I'll get a rx for another u/s to see if my placenta has moved and it will be the appt after that when I do the GD test (which I am dreading though I have no reason to suspect I have GD, I just don't like being tested and last time I was 131-- 1 point over-- on the 1 hour test because I ate a bagel and cream cheese on the car ride there not knowing that was stupid, and then I had to do the 3 hour test which was stressful and upsetting and gross!). 

 

RightofPassage, Rambuzo and anyone else, sorry to hear you are struggling too. 

 

Hildare, thanks for starting the thread... it has been really boring around here!


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I'm cranky TOO!  Last night I really let loose on dh (dd was in her room) about not wanting to clean the kitchen, it makes my back hurt to wash dishes (my belly so big, my shorty arms too short) and he needs to clean more, and i was mean, mean mean... and i felt so much better.  and then, he opened the door and came back in from outside (and i had been addressing an empty room).  lol. 

 

parsley, i've been reading not just about vbacs, but about all this wonderful stuff about skin to skin with c-births that seems to be a new and up and coming (and fortunately timely) practice-- have you seen any of that stuff?  this article..  and this video (though it made me cry and cry).. so i'm feeling better.  i am going to demand that we get this, if we end up with a c-birth... maybe it will make you feel better too?


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Sorry to hear that people are struggling and hope things get easier.  (Right of Passage hug2.gif

 

I'm just trying to work out the work/life issues that I know are coming, combined with being on the academic job market, which is a super super stressful situation.  I'm enjoying having a bump and feeling movement regularly, but am starting to feel like my butt and legs are getting too fat.  Not that I can exercize regularly enough to get them back to normal size, so I guess I will just have to wait until Feb and then get back on the hard core cardio wagon. 

 

Otherwise, I am starting to fear gestational diabetes.  I am a real sugar hound normally, and while I was good during the early part of the pregnancy, I've been terrible for the last month or so... and then this past weekend I was at a conference, which is always a time for over eating and over "treating" myself.  And it was bad.  Up all night with heartburn, blood pressure rushing, and pounding in my head and heart.  So, I'm trying now to cut out sugar.  Which is super difficult, I crave it all so much.  I guess I will have to wait for the glucose test to find out if I've done any damage to myself- does anyone have any experience with this?  I've never had any hint of diabetes, I'm totally in the normal weight range, etc. 

 

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I'm 23 weeks and my midwife wants to the gd testing at 28 weeks, so its coming up for me as well. Definitely been thinking about my sugar intake, especially since I'm on the tail end of another yeast infection (2nd one this pregnancy, 3rd in my life). Baby has been moving around lots too.

My big complaint is sleep, I wake at 3am to pee and DH snores so bad I can't go back to sleep or have to move to the couch. Lack of sleep makes work and keep up with housework so hard for me.

My DH got an offer for a job in LA, but the originial offer was too low so they're negotiating right now. I'm anxious and want to know NOW if we're moving, but I'm trying not to nag him about it. I'm not going back to work after baby, except to start my doula business at the earliest 6 months post partum, and that will start off slow. Plus his daughter is moving in with us after baby is born, so making sure his salary is high enough to support a larger household in a more expensive area.

Lots of family drama going on right now - my 19 year old sister lots guardianship of her 3 month old and her dad is fostering. My DH and I keep getting comments about us potentially adopting, which is a HUGE decision, so we're not making any sort of decision right now. Who knows how all this is going to play out. Definitely stressful.


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TeamGR and Kaydove - good luck with the job stuff and potential moving.  It's really hard to have a new baby and other major changes at the same time.  I got a new job, had a baby, and moved to a new city when DD was 5 months old.  I was reeling!    Sounds too like you must be under a lot of family pressure, Kaydove, with regard to your sister and her baby.  I can't imagine having to make that decision, especially with my own infant on the way. 

 

Hildare, thanks for the links on the more natural, gentler and woman centered c-sections.  I've seen some of those discussions on the VBAC board and I'm planning to write up a c-section birth plan as things get closer.  Another nice thing is that the hospital I'll deliver at has a formal "meet with an anestheseologist" program where you can go in way before your due date and work out a plan for meds and pain management that will be added to your file.  Still, I want a VBAC...

 

I know time seems to fly for some but for me, pregnancy seems to last a VERY long time. 

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Otherwise, I am starting to fear gestational diabetes.  I am a real sugar hound normally, and while I was good during the early part of the pregnancy, I've been terrible for the last month or so... and then this past weekend I was at a conference, which is always a time for over eating and over "treating" myself.  And it was bad.  Up all night with heartburn, blood pressure rushing, and pounding in my head and heart.  So, I'm trying now to cut out sugar.  Which is super difficult, I crave it all so much.  I guess I will have to wait for the glucose test to find out if I've done any damage to myself- does anyone have any experience with this?  I've never had any hint of diabetes, I'm totally in the normal weight range, etc. 

 

i honestly think you're worrying yourself too much; i don't think you can eat your way into GD.  It's a chemical malfunction.  granted too much sugar isn't good for anybody, and even without gd you can make a big baby if you eat too much (ask me how i know that) but the condition itself seems to have other factors... it's a hormonal problem rather than something you can cause!  link


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Thanks, @hildare, I really appreciate the link.... 

 

I should probably cut down on the sugar anyway for general health reasons, but won't freak out too much about the other stuff thumb.gif


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Yea, I agree, it was a real snoozefest around here. And WOW, it sounds like some of you have a lot going on! 

 

Atomicrocket - people can be such b*tches. I can't believe no one is offering you a spot on the train. As for a second car, I can't blame you for wanting one. I would imagine that would cut out a lot of the stress associated with your commute. 

 

Right of Passage - big (((HUGS))) to you. My daughter has been needing me extra as she has a cold right now, but I couldn't imagine three older children with croup plus an infection of my own. Ugh. If you need to unload, this is certainly an acceptable place to do so. 

 

Parsley - sorry to hear that you're struggling with work and fighting an infection. That sucks big time. 

 

Kaydove - that IS some major drama. Sounds like you've got a lot of possible changes coming soon. I'm glad to hear that you will at least be able to take some time off after the baby comes. I had 6 months off after DD1 was born, and it was so wonderful.

 

As for me, I'm 21.5 weeks, and am just trying to stay positive and trust my body. I'm the one with the "incompetent cervix" issue and the cervical cerclage, so on days when I'm up on my feet too much, or when I start to feel extra pressure, I begin to panic, imagining that my bag of waters is sitting right on top of the stitch and is about to rupture or something awful. At my 19 week scan, my cervix was still measuring over 3cm and my OB was very pleased with my progress, so that was good, but I know things can change fast and this is the point in my pregnancy last time where I had pretty much no cervix left. My MW encouraged me to just trust my body and use affirmations to help keep my mind and body calm and to pretty much treat myself like a "normal" pregnant woman, so I've been trying to keep a positive attitude and repeat affirmations when I start to freak out. I also borrowed the "baby stay in" disc of hypnobabies (although i'll admit, I STILL haven't listened to it...) so I need to take advantage of that. 

 

I'm very blessed to be off work during this pregnancy, but still have my 2.5 year old to look after which keeps me very busy. She has been pretty good about the limitations I've set (i.e., no lifting/picking her up, no jumping/running/wrestling with her, less walks and more driving to parks, etc.) so that's been helpful. I'm just anxious to get through the rest of the second trimester and into the third when viability is less of an issue... so I guess this pregnancy starting to creep by for me as well. 

 

 


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TeamGR - I too was worried initially about GD because I have a ridiculous sweet tooth.  It is comforting to know that it won't cause GD, but I still need to work on avoiding sweets.  A few days ago DP came home with a huge bag of gummy candies as a treat, and I nearly ate the whole bag.  I have a hard time when it comes to sweets, so I think I am just going to make sure we don't have any on the house from now on so I don't feel tempted to eat them.  

 

MamaShannon - good news that your cervix has been behaving so far.  Hopefully you can continue to take it easy and enjoy the pregnancy, even if it is creeping by!

 

As for me: Just popping in to say that, uh, my nipples are leaking.  Already.  Does that seem too soon?  It's both fascinating and kind of weird.  

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i honestly think you're worrying yourself too much; i don't think you can eat your way into GD.  It's a chemical malfunction.  granted too much sugar isn't good for anybody, and even without gd you can make a big baby if you eat too much (ask me how i know that) but the condition itself seems to have other factors... it's a hormonal problem rather than something you can cause!  link


 

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Parsley - have you tried cranberry for the UTIs?  I had several when I was pg with DD and had to take 2 or 3 rounds of antibiotics.  I started taking cranberry capsules every day, and then at the first signs of infection I would take about 3 capsules and drink a huge glass and water and it always cleared right up.

 

This pg, I have had the beginning signs of a UTI a couple times and the cranberry and water takes care of it right away.

 

 


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I'm really enjoying the update ladies - keep it coming!

 

I have come to terms with the fact that I am wonderful at giving birth, I'm a great mom, but I'm not so good at being pregnant.  It really does make me self-centered (which is understandable, I suppose) but I am lucky to have a DH who will give more, and more and then even more to support and take care of me (and our little guys).  For some reason, fatigue doesn't seem like a good enough excuse to let things slide.  I really have never been so tired in all of my life.  I've been getting by just making sure the boys are entertained without being in front of the tv all day (some days the tv is my best friend) and are getting enough outside time.  We've been going outside regularily and mommy will 'chase' them while they run around for an hour.  I shudder to think of what winter will be like.  Then DH will come home to a messy house, sometimes supper, and a wife who just wants to go lie down and read a book.  He is fantastic about it though - doesn't complain, just does what needs to be done and allows me to rest.  Then the crippling guilt sets in.  The hormone ridden me who is secretly sobbing on the inside, "I don't deserve you, but don't you dare trying changing anything." 

 

And then a burst of energy comes along - the house is clean, the bread is baked, laundry is put away and DH comes home to a wonderful supper where the kids don't need any encouragement to eat everything on their plates, the conversation is stimulating and our evening is spent relaxing in each other's company.  My only consolation at this point is that at least the boys get consistent care - healthy meals (even if they are just thrown together), an attentive mama, and plenty of running around.


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Yeah, I agree with Zakdat, it's  great to hear how everyone is doing.  Terrific to know that everyone is basically fine even as we deal with exhaustion (I'm there too Zakdat!), complications, and family stresses.  And, frankly, it's also kind of nice to hear I'm not the only grump!

 

Bluedaisy- I did start taking cranberry capsules each morning.  I bought a type with probiotics too so I'm hoping this will make a difference.  I'm also *trying* to be careful to pee when I feel the urge rather than hold it in forever in order to allow less time for bacteria to grow.  But, it's so annoying to interrupt what I'm doing once and hour to walk all the way to the bathroom at work or go up the stairs (and get distracted too) at home.  Lazy, much?  I know...  In fact, I should probably go pee now but instead I'll finish my post and check out some other threads too shrug.gif.

 

MamaShannon - so glad to hear that your sticthes seem to be holding.  I have my eye on the viability mark as well so I totally understand how that can make time start to drag. 

 

I do want to share one especially nice thing. So, DH is always very kind and supportive of me.  Even when I'm a stressed out monster.  A big surprise in all this is how kind and sweet DD is.  It's not like I'm being distant or (especially) grouchy she just seems to understand that things are hard for me and wants to make me feel better. 

 

For example, a few times when I've come home and my belly feels like it weighs a million pounds and I collapse on the couch, DD has said, "Mommy, how about I take half of the baby, daddy takes half of the baby and you only have to take half too.  We should share since she's going to be all of our baby."  How incredible, no?  (And, I didn't even correct her math/language ;). 

 

And, yesterday, DH and DD were picking me up after teaching an evening class (that is a major source of my stress) and DD had convinced (cheapskate) DH to buy flowers.  She reminded me how on Mother's Day I had bought her flowers when she bought me flowers (my idea was that it has to be a happy kid's day in order to be a happy mother's day) and she announced that she thought we needed another "Happy Kid's Day and Happy Mother's Day" so she bought us two types of flowers (both pink) to put in vases next to each other and put in the living room. 

 

Sorry if this sounds like bragging, I don't mean it to be I'm really amazed by what a kind kid she is.  And, this sweet stuff helps to mitigate the miserable stuff and also helps to remind me why I'm pregnant... it's definitely not for the sake of pregnancy... it's for the sake of having another kid. 

 

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For example, a few times when I've come home and my belly feels like it weighs a million pounds and I collapse on the couch, DD has said, "Mommy, how about I take half of the baby, daddy takes half of the baby and you only have to take half too.  We should share since she's going to be all of our baby."  How incredible, no?  (And, I didn't even correct her math/language ;). 

 

And, yesterday, DH and DD were picking me up after teaching an evening class (that is a major source of my stress) and DD had convinced (cheapskate) DH to buy flowers.  She reminded me how on Mother's Day I had bought her flowers when she bought me flowers (my idea was that it has to be a happy kid's day in order to be a happy mother's day) and she announced that she thought we needed another "Happy Kid's Day and Happy Mother's Day" so she bought us two types of flowers (both pink) to put in vases next to each other and put in the living room. 

 

That is so sweet! 

 

Kids are so great.  The other day we were explaining to my 4 year old niece that there is a baby in my belly and she put her hands on it and said "It must be a pretty big baby!" It was pretty funny.
 

 

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parsley, what a sweet little girl you have. I loved the story. Thanks for sharing.

 

I have been so MIA around here, but only when it comes to posting. I lurk all the time, but just find a hard time posting. I think I always have so much to say, and don't want to get myself started.

It's nice keeping up with everyone, and I'm sorry for those of you ladies who are having some tuff times. Hopefully having a place to vent helps some.

 

Things are moving along on my end pretty nicely. Sometimes I can't believe how far along we are, but yet, I'm feeling ready (though I am not actually prepared at all) and feel like everything is happening at the right pace. I like having a real belly now, and not something that is in between. I had my 24 week appt. today, and all is well. I went ahead and reserved my midwife's birthing tub. It's $100 to rent (don't feel like buying one) and she already has the pump and all the stuff. I told my DH, and he said that if I don't use it, him and our son will. I guess that is his way of making use of the money spent. I didn't put any expectations on my birth last time, and don't want to this time, but feel that I would like to try harder and make a waterbirth happen. We shall see. :)

And my mom has been amazingly supportive even though I know this wouldn't be her preferred way for my to birth. I think she trusts our decision, and that makes me really happy. I don't think my inlaws know, though, and hope my DH tells them without me around. ;)


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slimkins, that's got to be exciting....

 

holy cow, ya'll.. a mama in the january ddc had her baby already.  (so far everyone's ok, of course baby is in nicu but good.) 

 


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I read lots of post back in the summer but was just keeping this pregnancy between DH and I.  Sorry for the delay in joining but I have so enjoyed my DDCs in the past with my two precious ones. 

 

slimkins- sometimes, mamas will get in the tub AFTER the babe is born just to rinse off and snuggle.  maybe that would work for you all to get your money's worth and all?  ;) 

 

i am currently in bali, indonesia volunteering at a birth center here.  i am a student midwife and their volunteer coordinator for a season while we are in between coordinators.  this is our family's third trip in the past 5 years. 

 

otherwise, we live in north carolina.  this is our third babe and we are super stoked about him/her coming to us.  both of my girls were born into the hands of a midwife in NC at our house.  we've got crazy politics there so forgive me if i don't talk about them or ramble on- it's a hot button issue for me.

 

we're Waldorf inspired homeschoolers and do all that AP, CD, co-sleeping kind of business.  happy to be among good company.  i know i am kinda late to join but hope to be welcomed and contribute as i can.  thanks!

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holy cow, ya'll.. a mama in the january ddc had her baby already.  (so far everyone's ok, of course baby is in nicu but good.) 

 

Thanks for posting this Hildare.  It totally freaked me out though.  I just had my midwife appointment and I asked about traveling at 34 and 35 weeks if my placenta doesn't move (checking on 11/21!).  Her first question was what's in the town we'd be travelling to.  When I mentioned friends and family as one answer she said "OK.  I just don't want you to travel anywhere where you won't have a support system in case you have to go on emergency bed rest and/or have an emergency c-section" (from bleeding due to placenta).  She then suggested that she's want to work out a map with me so we always knew the closest hospital along my driving route so I would know where to go if an emergency happened.  Yikes!  I can't imagine already having a baby at that point...  30 weeks is so early (which is around where I think the mom in the Jan DDC was). 
 

ETA: Turns out she was 27w5d.  That is so soon.  Sounds like she and the babe are doing fine...

 

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Ummm... embarrassing question..... 

 

is anyone else leaking?  After I pee, for a few minutes afterwards, it feels like I'm leaking.  It doesn't really happen if I laugh or jump up and down or anything like that. But, it's annoying of course.  I've been doing my kegels (never as much as I should, but that's how it goes). 

 

Is this normal?  A sign that something else might be going on?  Should I be concerned, or is this just a joy of 6 months pregnant? 

 

Thanks   innocent.gif

 

 


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i did more so last time than this time... somebody here on mdc gave me awesome advice, which was to pee it all out, then kind of rotate your body all the way around a circle (like middle school exercises, kind of) and more will come out.  getting it super empty helps.

it also might come and go based on where the babe is in relation to your bladder.  i've been using cloth pads (small ones) and just washing them with the underwear.  it's really annoying and horrible but there isn't much you can do and you certainly don't want to under hydrate.

 

and parsley, i would just fall down freaking out if someone said that to me.  i hope she told you that in a way that didn't make you anxious.  yipes.


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TeamGR, unfortunately the same thing is happening to me this pregnancy. It really does stink. I had to wear a panty liner last time, but not cause of pee. ughh!

I wasn't sure what was going on at first, until I realized my underwear were smelling like pee.

 

hildare, I am going to try that. Makes since considering that I get more leakage if I am out and squat to pee at the restrooms vs. sitting at home. I think the squatting alone doesn't allow me to fully empty, so, that could help. I've given up, and decided it's time to just sit.


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Thanks Hildare and Slimkins, glad to know I'm not the only one.  The twisting thing has helped this afternoon so far, so I retain hope :)

 

 


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