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#1 of 101 Old 04-11-2012, 08:40 AM - Thread Starter
 
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I lost my sweet baby boy yesterday morning. He wasnt breathing when we woke up in the morning. Autopsy has been completed (not my choice, they do it on all infants), and we have no answers as to why this has happened to us. I never quite knew what pain was until now. It feels like my insides are being ripped open every moment. The images wont leave my head. I feel like Ive been punished for something, but Im not sure what it could be. This is so unfair.

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candle.gif sweet baby Charles you are loved beyond measure. I am so sorry for your loss, I can only imagine how deep your heartache is


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I just saw this pop up in the Recent Discussions and I wanted to take a moment to say I'm so so sorry. I will be praying for you and yours. candle.gif


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oh mama... my heart is breaking for you.  your sweet babe had a special mission on this earth- to fill your body with life, and to fill your heart with love.  i'm sorry for the emptiness that can only come after such fullness. all my love, mama...

 


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I am so very sorry. hug.gif

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 i'm here if it helps to talk about it.

i cannot tell you how sorry i am.  no words.  your sweet strong dh & little A will help you get through this.

 


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Take heart I am so very sorry for your little angel.gif May the yopu find the comfort and peace you need . Big hugs candle.gif


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I am so very sorry. I will be keeping your family in my thoughts.


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I'm so, so sorry .There are no words. Keeping you and your family in my thoughts. hug2.gif


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I'm so sorry for your loss. Do everything you can to be kind and gentle to yourself right now. Accept as much support as you can. You are not being punished for anything. You did nothing wrong. Take it one day at a time. You are in my thoughts. I wish you peace and strength during this unimaginably painful time in your life.

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I am so, so terribly sorry for your loss and your family's loss.  There is no greater pain.

 

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 sleepytime.gif I got tired of my signature, but I still love my children and husband and miss my little brotherkid.gif

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There are no words. I am so very sorry for your loss.


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Adaline'sMama I'm so very sorry.

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Oh My.....I am so very sorry. here are no words and I can't imagine the depth of pain you must feel. My heart goes out to you and your family and I'm praying for all of you candle.gif


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I'm so sorry. 


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Oh my dear. That's the most awful thing I have heard in a long time. I can't imagine much more horror as a mother. Saying I'm so sorry won't even cut it. Will keep you and your family in my prayers for strength and healing.. that you will find what you need to get through this. 


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candle.gif  thinking of you.  i'm so sorry for your loss.  


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I am so, so very sorry for your loss, Adelinesmama.
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I am so sorry for your loss. candle.gif


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I am so, so sorry. Sending you love and peace.

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I'm so very sorry for the loss of your little boy.  You and your family will be in my thoughts.  


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There are no words, mama.  I am so very, very sorry for your loss.

 

I wish you much peace.

 

candle.gif  Sweet, sweet baby boy.


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Mama, hugs to you I am so very very sorry.

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I am so, so sorry for your loss.  I can't even imagine the pain you must be going through.  Sending you peace and strength.


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I'm so sorry for your loss. hug.gif: It's a rough initiation into a club nobody wants to join, but you're not alone. Nobody will share the exact thoughts and feelings that you do, but others (myself included) have walked this path, too, and are willing to lend an ear when/if you are ready at some point to talk.

Grief is messy. The five or six or however many stages make a nice sitcom plot to have a character go through them linearly, but it's not like that in real life. Phases can be skipped, visited out of order, visited more than once, visited months later out of the blue.

I pray for peace for you and your DH and your DD during this time. hug.gif: candle.gif:

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I am so sorry. greensad.gif

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i am so sorry to read this. holding you in my heart right now!

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Oh, Adalinesmama, my heart breaks for you. I hope you recognize you're not being punished; you are a fantastic mom. I'm so sorry you and your family are hurting so deeply. I'm keeping you in my thoughts and holding you in the light. 

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Oh mama, I am so very sorry.  Keeping you and yours in my thoughts.  


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