I'm sure this is way early in a pregnancy to be thinking about it, but I guess it's important to come to terms that there will hopefully be another birth for me down the line. My last one ended in a c/s, which I am fine with, kinda stalled out at 9cm w pitocin after 48 hours. Found out he was sunny side and a little crooked. But I guess the part that kinda freaks me out is that he was 9 1/2 pounds. with a big old head (I want to way 12cm diameter?). I'm not that big of a person, I guess I'm average but my hip area etc seems smaller to me than someone who could get a baby out like that. And his head seems bigger than the cervix. how does that work exactly? The idea of pushing till he gets a big enough conehead to fit through. ugh ugh ugh. I don't know. I think I'm kinda freaked out about the part I never made it to last time. And I guess it would be nice to hear other ladies stories about it, or there concerns, or positive outcomes, etc. I want to give it a shot, my hospital allows it, but I just wonder if I already see how it's going to turn out. Though I don't want to create a self fulfilling prophecy....
I believe that God made us to be able to push out our babies we grow and that lots of times if we were left along to labor and deliver we would be able to do it just fine. I do feel that there are places for interventions but I think they use them too much and like to try to speed us up too much. I found lots of support for my vbac from ICAN! I hope you get the birth you want congrats on your pg...
DD was large, I was exhausted, and I honestly felt that with that doctor and hospital, I would not have been allowed to push long enough to get her out. I was offered a c-section or cytotec and pitocin, and chose the c-section. I feel more empowered this time around, and I chose a better health care provider. I'm working on stretching, kegels, and squatting to loosen myself up and strengthen the muscles in that area. Wish me luck.
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Just wanted to jump in here and add a link to the International Cesarean Awareness Network (ICAN) and their VBAC info, down the left side of the page. I have friends who had successful VBACs and HBACs and have spoken very highly of the support they received from their local ICAN groups. Maybe there is a group in your area where you can find the information and support you need :)
Best of luck to you Mamas!!!
“He allowed himself to be swayed by his conviction that human beings are not born once and for all on the day their mothers give birth to them, but that life obliges them over and over again to give birth to themselves.”
- Gabriel García Márquez
To the OP - I'm a small-ish sized person and easily delivered a 9#3 baby without ANY pushing at all - he just appeared (the nurse caught him). Granted it was baby #5.
I'm considering a VBAC... not super getting my hopes up at this point because I do think I have a few things working against me (a stretched out uterus from many/close pregnancies - let my babe go transverse last time, my tendency to need augmentation, etc.) but at my initial intake appointment they didn't flat rule it out. I have a real appointment with an OB on the 17th and will discuss it more in detail then.
I don't think it's too early to decide. I hope to have a rough plan of action worked out soon - I don't want the stress at the end of pregnancy as to which way will I deliver (though as i know very well - things can change at the last second!)
I do wonder - the reason for my c/s last time was because baby went transverse in active labor. Assuming I am term and in labor all on my own, what's to stop that from happening again? Pretty much nothing... so not to be negative, but I'm trying to keep my hopes grounded. :)