BRU - the worst. Sometimes it is nice to get some ideas, but it usually gives me a panic attack that I don't have the things that I need, which is totally untrue. I breastfed both my kids for 15 months and 22months and used cds. Breastfeeding really helped me to take time to relax and just sit with my babies and I loved it. It also made those night feedings so much easier for a heavy sleeper like me. The hormones also made me so laid back and relaxed and I think it really helped my parenting style to be the same. I was fairly isolated with my first because I didn't know a lot of people with kids, so I just did what I thought was right for me. Honestly, after my oldest started school and I saw how so many of the other kids behaved, I was so happy that I danced to my own tune when it came to parenting. I am not saying that my children are little angels because I breastfed, but I do think that not trying to do what all the other parents and children do benefited my family and has made for a nice calm environment within my family. Trusting your instincts and doing what feels right is so important and when you do that I think that everything else will follow.
I breastfed all three of my children and will nurse this baby as well. I started with formula for DD though. She was vomiting blood and SOOOOO fussy. So I would take her to the DR and he would change her formula. She was on 5 different kinds in five weeks. Some causing clay like poop and constipation and others causing the vomiting up blood. I was a participant in the wic program. They got me a lactation consultant and she helped me relactate. (Of course it didn't occur to me to nurse her until I was dried up!) By 7 weeks I went back to work and DH was with her. I could pump her ONE bottle a day. (Don't worry DH supplemented her with a formula that didn't make her ill.) By the time she was 12 weeks old we introduced the breast to her and she was able to nurse to satisfaction. I was NEVER able to pump anymore than one bottle a day.
So I say give it a try. Stick with it through the begining where it seems like baby is ALWAYS eating. It will calm down and it becomes so easy and enjoyable. Plus when else is it okay to sit on the couch and watch 50 episodes of your favorite show in one day? You will even lose weight doing it!
Thanks for sharing your experiences with me. I'm now feeling better about paving my own way with this :-)
Getting excited now about my collection of dipes and wraps.
30 years old, part time , Living in Australia with my DH and with IVF bubba #1 after a long long time of ttc. Very grateful we've made it this far. Due March 2012
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Wow, thanks so much everyone for your support. You all make very good points.
Yes, I run (wheel lol) to the store for milk and bread all the time, or often, cat food! Formula I reckon would end up in the same situation.
I bought a really good washing machine a few years ago so washing the nappies is not an issue. I already manage the laundry for DH and I and I'm planning to drypail so there won't be any soaking nappy buckets for me to lift. The breastfeeding itself to me, sounds really convenient, especially when it's difficult for me sometimes to be up and about mixing up formula and washing bottles. That just sounds like work! lol. My body knows what baby needs and will provide it in breastmilk. I have good days and bad days with my legs, so I like the convenience factor.
Yesterday the Dr Sears Baby Book came to me in the mail and I opened it up and then had tears in my eyes. It's exactly what I wanted and expected. The pictures are lovely and the wording, oh boy, sounds like what I've been thinking and saying all along, but never had the confidence to stick with it.
Oh, and, we've got a group in Australia called the Australian Breastfeeding Association, they have meetings of mothers in most if not every town. Must join!!
Yay, mama! Glad you are feeling more confident! You CAN do it! I loved that Sears book, too, btw. It totally solidified my feelings and just "clicked" for me. From then on, I was on Mothering a lot and eventually found people who were like minded and created a little community.