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We want to avoid getting a lot of stuff for babygirl that we don't really need. I would love to hear your advice on absolute must-haves, nice-to-haves, and not-worth-its. Right now on my must have list is: good quality diaper covers, a Beco carrier, a quality pump. Nice to have: an in-bed co-sleeper (so we don't worry so much at the start), bouncy chair or swing and a Woombie. Thoughts?

 

Not worth it? I can thing of a million marketing ploys for baby things, but would love to know what seems like a good idea but is really a waste. :) Please, share your wisdom!


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I would skip the pump unless you know you will need to pump (and I wouldn't do that until your supply is evened out or you return to work)  - plus your insurance company or WIC may cover a pump if you need one. You'd be paying a good amount for a nice pump, but you may never use it. 

 

I wouldn't get the in-bed-cosleeper, personally. 

 

I would get a used Beco  also go to a babywearing meeting, if possible, to try out many kinds of carriers so you can figure out what you really like to use so you can avoid spending a lot on something you won't use much.

 

 

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We loved our in-bed co-sleeper! Also, Mother-Ease One-Size diapers and prefolds in a variety of sizes, Thirsties covers, also fleece covers and wool soakers. Cloth wipes and a wipe warmer (we keep them damp and ready-to-go in the warmer).

 

A woven wrap is great for all kinds of carries and more versatile than other carriers (can be used for a nursing cover as well). However, we also loved and got great use out of our Ergo.

 

A good pump, and I used Avent bottles when I started pumping and going back to work. Get good nursing bras! I didn't use any at first and was amazed at how much they improved my nipple pain, engorgement, etc. They also made NIP much smoother.

 

At first I didn't think I would use my pack-n-play or changing table (both given to us by our parents). However, the changing table was at just the right height for changing and really saved my back. The pack-n-play ended up being handy if I was alone and desperate for a shower, and DS ended up preferring it for naps.

 

Finally, I absolutely loved having a rocking chair and a large exercise ball for bouncing. Some people take care of this need with babywearing, but my DS only liked being worn when he was already content. Hated it right after nursing, or when he was pooping or peeing. I would also bounce and rock with him in the wrap, and it was nice to be able to soothe him with movement while sitting down.

 


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Ditto about the pump, unless you are going back to work full-time and aren't on WIC. I know flex spending plans cover the cost, so you may need to wait until the first of the year if you're doing that. I never used a co-sleeper, but if you feel like it would make you more comfortable, then go for it. As for the carrier, maybe I'm wrong b/c I didn't babywear, but it seems like most people I know use a wrap or sling for newborns. I loved the bouncy seat, I used that a lot when I needed to use the bathroom or cook. The Woombie- I actually had to look that one up. I personally never swaddled. It seemed unnatural to me, and I read an article that said that babies wave their arms to help cool themselves down, and overheating can lead to SIDS. Swing- our babies didn't like the swing until they were older, to me it wasn't worth the space.

 

A lot people say a nursing pillow is a must have. I never cared much for the Boppy though. Other must-haves: cloth nursing pads, plenty of light weight receiving blankets, exersaucer (starting at about 5 months- you can usually get one at a garage sale). Sleepers- that's pretty much all my kids wear when they're little. I was going to say a Nekkie Blankie, but it looks like they aren't in business anymore :(

 

Things I never found a need for (these may vary person to person though):

changing table, pacifiers, teething toys, bumbo seat, any special nursery furniture or decor, baby einstein DVDs, onesies. I'm sure there's more, that's all I can think of.


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DDCC.  The one piece of advice I wish someone had given me is that you can buy just about everything you need when you actually need it, because there's a really good chanc eyou won't need it.  That said,  here are a few things:

 

Bedside cosleeper:  shoulda skiped it.  Baby just wound up in bed next to me.  "Within Arm's Reach" just seemed too far away.  So, the cosleeper is now a very expensive, clunky bedside table.  The in bed ones?  I dunno... I still probably would have wound up sleeping with my little cuddle-monster.

 

Car seat:  We got a Graco 35 and love it so far.  It's good until he's 35 lbs, so it will last a while.   Avoid getting whatever carseat you use used; they aren't supposed to be used again once they've been in a collision, so you dn't know whether yours is 'good' if you get it used.

 

Glider:  No, we didn't really have room for it, but it was awesome.  Yes, it's tucked in a wierd spot and looks out of place.  But I lived on my "throne" for the first month.  Even now, my favorite place to nurse, DH's favorite place to watch the game.

 

Stroller:  Don't have one.  Carriers work for us right now.  As DS breaks the 15 lb mark, we're probably going to get one, but I'm glad we waited.  Now that I have a bunch of "mommy friends" I've gotten to try out a bunch of them, and have a better sense of what features we want.  Also gives me time to look on craigslist.

 

On carriers:  we got a bunch of them.  In retrospect, I wish we had done what the PP said and gone to a baby wearing group.  I went to one recently, and I would have spent a lot less on this had I gotten to try them out and heard what they thought.  That said, my favorite carrier turned out to be a Moby.  Gives you some of the versatility of a woven wrap, but is a lot easier to start out with.  Don't be intimidated by the fancy wrapping as I was.  It took a 10 minute tutorial and I was off to the races.

 

Toys: I woudn't buy a single one right now.  First off, people are probably going to give you some.  Second, it's hard to tell what you're baby will like before you meet him or her.  Once your baby appears, you may find s/he likes loud noisy toys with lots of lights and sounds, or just gets overwhelmed by it all.

 

Diapers:  Depends on if you're starting in disposables (some people do this to avoid investing in cloth for just the newborn stage, others because they don't want meconium stains on their diapers).  We got 3 bummies newborn size and 2 thirsties duo wraps, 24 newborn prefolds and 24 infant prefolds.  And 3 small bummies for when he grew out of the newborn size.  In retrospect, I wish we had just gotten four thirsties duo wraps and the prefolds -- you only need two sizes from birth to potty training, and they really did fit my small newborn.  I've borrowed one size diapers from friends, but they seemed really huge on him when he was a NB.  If you're going with disposables or a diaper service for the first month, though, it might  make sense.

 

Pumps:  Some people say not to get one until you need it and I see where they're coming from, but I got a Medela Pump In Style a few months before I birthed, and I'm glad I did.  I had a clear head as I approached the set up and how to, had time to order a different flange size if I needed to and so on.  If you know you are going back to work, it doesn't hurt to start pumping early on, either, to make yourself a good stash.  I felt really comfortable going to work with 200 oz in my freezer... and I'm not oversupplied.  I just pumped twice per day starting from about 2 weeks until I went back to work.   In that line, I love the Medela storage bottles (they are 2.5 oz each and sell in packs of 12) -- just the right amount of milk to thaw in an emergency.  And you don't have leaky bag problems.  That said, once I went through 3 packs of them, I started using Lanisoh bags, which are also nice, but I have to thaw them in a container so if they leak I don't lose the milk.

 

Nursing clothes:  Skip them.  Just wear two piece outfits so you can hike up your shirt.  With nursing bras, I'd get at least 1 for when you're engorged, but don't go crazy until you actually see how big your nursing boobs will be.  I had a bunch of bras in the wrong size.

 

Other worthwhile things: a bouncy chair or other place to set your baby from time to time is important.  You're a good mom, so you aren't going to leave your baby in it all day, but when you want to take a 30 second shower... you put the baby in it and pop your head out repeatedly.  Would get used if possible.   Clear shower curtains so you can see your baby and your baby can see you when you are trying to take said shower.  Another option is to take baths.  Frozen meals (homemade or bought).


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DDCC.  The one piece of advice I wish someone had given me is that you can buy just about everything you need when you actually need it, because there's a really good chanc eyou won't need it.  

 

If we were on our own, this would be our plan. Craigslist and thrift stores have SO MUCH baby stuff. But we have a TON of family who want to celebrate and expect showers. So, I don't know about molls, but I definitely appreciate this thread! I have been "warned" repeatedly to have plenty of "stuff" on my registry. I'm lucky and feel loved to be in this situation, but I'm sure I'll end up with some things I won't ever really need.


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I would hunt down stuff on freecycle also, if you can :)

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People like to buy stuff for babies.  It's definitely possible to put together an AP-friendly registry that mainstream people can do their normal thing with, thus satisfying their desire to shop for you and take care of the things you actually need, rather than say "we don't need anything" and end up with a bunch of light-up plastic toys when they buy for you anyhow.  :)

 

First off, I'd recommend putting a list together on Amazon... not only is it the cheapest place to get most big necessary stuff, but you can also use it as a universal registry and add stuff from your favorite Etsy shop or cloth diaper store. 

 

As for necessary stuff.... for me, it consists of:

-a highly-rated carseat (suitable for my car, and I skip the bucket seat... my girls hated it)

-breast pump (I work at home, but need to pump sometimes and I am SOOOOO prone to clogged ducts it's ridiculous) and collection bags

-nursing bras (since it's your first, I'd suggest something like a Bravado Bliss or Bravado Body Silk so you don't have to know your exact size to fit it.  You will probably go up in cup size and down in band size shortly after birth, but you can probably figure out basically what size you'll need since their ranges are wide. Get at least one bra to wear while you're waiting for your size to even out those first couple of weeks.)

-cloth diapers (go ahead and ask for all sizes NB-M if you know what you'll use, or for a variety of styles in NB/S if you don't.  They can be pricey, especially if you don't end up liking prefolds, so might as well have others buy them) plus accessories... cloth diaper safe rash cream, pins and/or snappis, wet bags.

-Lansinoh lanolin or natural nipple butter

-nursing pads... I like nice cloth ones and find disposable ones uncomfortable.  Etsy's a good place to get them!

-something to swaddle with (I've heard good things about wombies, but haven't used them.  I like huge swaddling blankets a lot)

-somewhere for baby to sleep... cosleeper or bassinet for us since our bed is too small for full-time bedsharing

-simple, comfortable clothes--sleepers, nightgowns, onesies, cotton pants, socks, no-scratch mittens, t-shirts... you'll get cutesie outfits, no doubt, but most of the time you'll want your baby comfortable and easy to change!

-ring sling for first few months, 2-shoulder support carrier for later.  This is my personal preference.  I used mei-tais before, but I'm going to try a soft structure carrier this time for when I want to go faster.

 

For not-necessary stuff, but I like having it:

-swing--there were plenty of times my girls would sleep no other way. 

-stroller

-nursing pillow

-high chair, travel seat or something like that

-natural toys

-burp cloths

-feeding stuff for when she's starting solids... bibs, utensils, cups, bowls, etc  The good non-toxic stuff is pricey, so also good to plug onto a registry.  She'll be using it before you know it.

 

She'll grow fast, so think ahead to what you'll need when she's crawling, teething, walking, starting explore outside, getting cold next winter, etc.


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Pick out your favorite diapers and baby carrier.  I also wouldn't worry about a pump unless you know you're going back to work.  Babies pretty much want to be with their mommies, and if you need to express some now and then, you may find that you're fine hand expressing or with a cheaper pump.  (I do, however, recommend getting the LLL's flier on the Marmet Technique of hand expression for relieving engorgement.)  I wouldn't recommend a cosleeper of any kind since baby will be most comfortable nestled in the crook of your arm, up against your chest, and with your arm above his/her head and legs curled up underneath, s/he will be well protected.  Look into cosleeping recommendations for setting up your bed.  Swaddling is not recommended for cosleeping babies.  I'm not a big fan of a bouncy chair or swing.  They are overused, and they promote flat heads, and they are really mother-replacements.  I'd rather be the one holding my baby, and in a sling, I'm promoting good head and neck development.

 

I would also not buy bottles, pacifiers, etc.  You may not need them, and they can be a hindrance or a temptation as you are trying to develop your milk supply.  Toys, you can buy later if you need them, and people will give them to you.  People will give you the bath products you need (and you really don't need them at first), and you won't need to buy many clothes for a while.  Something that can be used as burp rags are great.  People will give you most of the receiving blankets you need... like that's the thing you generally get from random people who find out that you had a baby.  Skip the baby bath.  Babies don't like them.  This time, I'm getting a water sling and taking baby in the shower with me.  (It's amazing how difficult it is to shower as a new mom.)

 

I really like the advice to wait until you need it to get it.  Diapers, wipes (I made a solution that I carried around in a peri bottle to spray on wipes rather than keeping a wipes warmer), clothes, a baby carrier, burp rags, blankets, car seat... that's really all you absolutely need at first.  Most other things are mother substitutes, and you may not need them.  If you do find yourself in a place that you do need to have something that allows you to put the baby down from time to time, you have the advantage of knowing the baby you're trying to put down and knowing what s/he might enjoy.

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I agree that if you don't have a lot of resources, freecycle and used clothing and furniture stores are lifesaver. We got a lot of wonderful items from freecycle. However, if you have family and friends who want to buy stuff, give them very detailed registries and wish lists, or you will end up with things you don't want or need, like a diaper genie or a bunch of useless ugly outfits. Also, IF you have the resources, I actually found it easier to have a little too much (even though we live in a tiny cabin) and gradually give stuff away or sell stuff online that we don't need, than wish I had a something with a new baby on-hand and an inability to go shopping. While it's true that many, many wonderful, amazing women on this forum do without any kind of furniture, cribs, strollers, pumps, bottles, etc., every LO and every mother is different.

 

For those with limited resources, I would simply invest in a good wrap (Moby or woven) and a good set of cloth diapers. While both of these items are a bit pricey, they can be found used in good condition. I feel that while cloth diapers cost us a bit upfront (we spent about $200 for our whole stash) we are still using them today, will use them with our second baby, and have we saved thousands of dollars on disposables.

 

ETA: I hear again and again that you don't need to put the baby down and should not have anything on hand for doing so. However, I found that my DS would sometimes prefer to be put down. He would fuss and cry in my arms or in the wrap, but be more content on the floor or in his pack-in-play or car seat. I did babywearing about 50% of the time, but put him down quite a bit as well. I did not think of any of the devices that kept him safe as "mother substitutes." However, EVERY baby and mother is different. I'm just pointing out what did and didn't work for me.


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ETA: I hear again and again that you don't need to put the baby down and should not have anything on hand for doing so. However, I found that my DS would sometimes prefer to be put down. He would fuss and cry in my arms or in the wrap, but be more content on the floor or in his pack-in-play or car seat. I did babywearing about 50% of the time, but put him down quite a bit as well. I did not think of any of the devices that kept him safe as "mother substitutes." However, EVERY baby and mother is different. I'm just pointing out what did and didn't work for me.



To clarify a bit on this.  I also had a baby who loved playing on the floor, etc, and would be happier there than in my arms at times.  It was a big "aha" moment for me when I realized that I could get her to stop fussing by setting her down in a place that she could see me.  I'm not saying that you shouldn't set your baby down or have something to set your baby on (like a receiving blanket).  It's that most of the baby entertainers out there (bouncy seats, swings, etc) are great substitutes for the times when a baby would rather be held because they mimic the motion of a mother's body, and they result in babies being held less.  In some cases, that's exactly what a mother needs to keep her sanity, but they need to be used with care if at all, especially since they can contribute to flat spots on a baby's head.  My point was mainly that not all babies/mothers need them, and I think it's better to wait until you know you do than to have a bunch of stuff that never gets used or gets misused on hand.

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Yeah, I should clarify too -- I use a bouncy seat because it allows my baby to see farther (because he's slightly upright and elevated off the floor a bit).  So, if I'm in the bathtub, he can see me easily the whole time.  I also use it when I'm cooking, because wearing him wouldn't be safe.  Again, it's one of those situations where he can see me a lot easier.  Now that he's enjoying sitting "all by himself with just a little bit of help" I'll often put him in a Bumbo seat for the same purpose.  Most of the time, though, he prefers a blanket on the floor or being carried or worn.

 

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To clarify a bit on this.  I also had a baby who loved playing on the floor, etc, and would be happier there than in my arms at times.  It was a big "aha" moment for me when I realized that I could get her to stop fussing by setting her down in a place that she could see me.  I'm not saying that you shouldn't set your baby down or have something to set your baby on (like a receiving blanket).  It's that most of the baby entertainers out there (bouncy seats, swings, etc) are great substitutes for the times when a baby would rather be held because they mimic the motion of a mother's body, and they result in babies being held less.  In some cases, that's exactly what a mother needs to keep her sanity, but they need to be used with care if at all, especially since they can contribute to flat spots on a baby's head.  My point was mainly that not all babies/mothers need them, and I think it's better to wait until you know you do than to have a bunch of stuff that never gets used or gets misused on hand.


The distinction you make is excellent, and I thank you for the clarification. However, some mothers cannot leave their LO on the floor while going to the bathroom, showering, etc. because of pets, toddlers, general anxiety, or other reasons. I know many AP mamas who have gone a little crazy from not having a secure place to put their LO on those rare occasions when it is necessary. The OP wanted recommendations on things that are "nice to have" and I'm offering up what worked for me, which was having an in-bed co-sleeper as well as a pack-n-play. I was glad I had them ahead of time, even though I though at the time I didn't need them. I can't imagine shopping for such things postpartum and exhausted.

 

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The distinction you make is excellent, and I thank you for the clarification. However, some mothers cannot leave their LO on the floor while going to the bathroom, showering, etc. because of pets, toddlers, general anxiety, or other reasons. I know many AP mamas who have gone a little crazy from not having a secure place to put their LO on those rare occasions when it is necessary. The OP wanted recommendations on things that are "nice to have" and I'm offering up what worked for me, which was having an in-bed co-sleeper as well as a pack-n-play. I was glad I had them ahead of time, even though I though at the time I didn't need them. I can't imagine shopping for such things postpartum and exhausted.

 


Good point about the need to think ahead about having a secure place to set a baby down.  I also think it's good to get some differing perspectives on what to have/not have.

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Wow, thank you all for the many and varied opinions! I know it is really an impossible question to answer since each of our families and children have such a variety of needs. I do appreciate all of your perspectives, however, and have some things to consider. 

For my specific situation: I will definitely be pumping since I will be returning to work part-time at around 3 months. I wish pumping didn't have to be such a necessity for us, but as long as I am not able to breastfeed full-time in person, I am going to try and make my pumping experience as positive as possible. I feel like investing in a good pump will save me many headaches. Also because of a permanent shoulder injury and limited range of motion I have pretty specific needs for a carrier. The SSCs with really good waist belts have been the best for me so far, my faves of the bunch have been the Beco Gemini and the Angelpack LX. I will definitely try to seek out a meet-up in order to peruse more options though. Thanks for the suggestion Jenga!

 

It's funny how our family and friends' desires to be loving and helpful can cost so much more than us just taking care of things ourselves. :) We have created an Amazon registry which emphasizes that we love used things and that they needn't feel pressure to buy new. Since we have found many of the things we will likely need available on Craigslist for cheap, we may go ahead and purchase some items ourselves and leave the registry for just a few specific items plus a link to the diaper service we would love to use. Gift certificates from there will be very exciting and are something that won't run out on the registry. 

We're also trying to buy only things for the house that we can transition over later. A dresser with a changing pad instead of a changing table, a rocker/glider that will fit with our decor afterwards, etc. And we were thrilled to see the carseats that go from newborn to 65 or 70 lbs. Great!

Anyhow, thank you all again...I've got some thinking to do. ;)


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Well, if you know you need a pump, try to see if you can get one for free or at a reduced cost from your insurance company or WIC. Getting one for free would be a lot better than buying an expensive one! :)

 

I would also try a car seat out in your car before you buy it, if you can. Unfortunately no one really carries Radian/Diono (my personal favorite for newborns if you're also going to ERF - if it fits in your car that is) but I'd try a few out (many stores will let you test drive it in your car) to see what you like. I have a Raidan 80 and we used it for our  last newborn until she could fit in the Britax seat we had, then we put our preschooler in there. He was rear facing until 41 months! He's got a long torso, or he'd still be in there I think :) They don't fit in all cars, and have a rather tall shell, but if you can get it to fit I really recommend those seats. Narrow, tall and heavy duty! You'll get your money's worth out of it and use it for a long time, maybe even for more than one kid! 

No, I don't work for SK/Diono, hehe.  It's good to see if you can get a  good install and whether or not a seat really fits before you buy it. 

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I'm re-evaluating for going from 1-2. For ds, it seemed we used the pack n play in the living room with the bassinet insert (nt sure if they all have that?) for naps, diaper changes, and some hands free time, otherwise on the blanketed floor or bouncy chair (used particularly for showers).
I like the pack n pay insert because it was a great height to work from.
Never used crib, or the actual normal pack n play, or the mini bathtub, changing table,
We had way too many clothes I think, particularly because he was9.8 lbs so didn't fit into 0-3 months really. And we didn't hardly ake him out of the house for 3 months so didn't need much for wardrobe til about 6 montg plus size.
I had pump before born.I wanted t work on building up freezer supply before I needed it and I'm glad I did. I didnt have any leftovers.
This time, I'm going to get a swing. I was trying to read around for recommendations for 2nd baby and saw it mentioned a few places as semi effective when in a tight spot.
Some sort of shhhh noise maker we used for helping ds transitionto sleep. Have to find that thing...
Used a boppy but once I got used to nursing I never bothered.
Oh yeah! Most important for first months is comfy nursing spot. We initially had a rocking chair in ds room we never used. Didn't realize it squeaked or kept moving itself to hit the wall with me using it and that it's quite boring sitting by myself every two hours with no radio, tv, etc, just some random sales mags from around the house to look at. So I quickly moved to the living room which didn't have a station so I just made do, but I wish I would have set myself up better to begin with. It's slot of work figuring it all out and you'll appreciate being nice to yourself in advance. I advise having snack storage, bottles of water or brit a or something, better yet mini fridge :P (would be nice though..), magazines or radio that you can reach, footstool or rest, pillows etc you can use to get a system figured out, nipple cream/ointment, towel or tissues for other side leakage, notebook and pen, whatever so you'll be happy spending what feels like slot of your time there.
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Oh yeah ds had no interest in toys for forever so kind of a waste of money for awhile.
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Oh yeah ds had no interest in toys for forever so kind of a waste of money for awhile.


I always wondered why people bought newborns  toys. They don't even know they have hands yet, why get them a toy? For the first few weeks they're finding all of their body parts and really into  Mama and Papa (mostly Mama) still.  It isn't as if they can really use that shape sorter! 


I'd get them if you can find a good sale though. I found stacking cups and a bead maze for super cheap on clearance and I got them for the belly baby, but then I also tend to buy birthday or Christmas gifts when I find awesome deals and I just hoard them in a box until the right time. 

 

Oh but I did get her a Pie Chan, and my toddler has a Sophie. Even my nearly 4 year old likes to play with Sophie. 

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I wish our insurance would cover it! Sadly they only cover pumps due to medical necessity (ha.), ie baby is in the NICU. And we don't qualify for WIC.

Good tip on taking the car seat for a test drive or fitting. Thanks! We will have to trade in DH's car before the babe comes anyways, so when we shop we can keep in mind the additional space we'll need for a transitional carseat.
 

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Well, if you know you need a pump, try to see if you can get one for free or at a reduced cost from your insurance company or WIC. Getting one for free would be a lot better than buying an expensive one! :)

 

I would also try a car seat out in your car before you buy it, if you can. Unfortunately no one really carries Radian/Diono (my personal favorite for newborns if you're also going to ERF - if it fits in your car that is) but I'd try a few out (many stores will let you test drive it in your car) to see what you like. I have a Raidan 80 and we used it for our  last newborn until she could fit in the Britax seat we had, then we put our preschooler in there. He was rear facing until 41 months! He's got a long torso, or he'd still be in there I think :) They don't fit in all cars, and have a rather tall shell, but if you can get it to fit I really recommend those seats. Narrow, tall and heavy duty! You'll get your money's worth out of it and use it for a long time, maybe even for more than one kid! No, I don't work for SK/Diono, hehe.  It's good to see if you can get a  good install and whether or not a seat really fits before you buy it. 



 


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I would definitely take the new car to test out seats. I think Toys R Us will let you "test-drive" seats. We chose a new seat before we got our new car, but we knew it would fit.

 

Carseat.org also has a database that will help you look up seats and cars they fit well or don't fit well in :)


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It depends on your situation.  It seems like everyone and their aunties want to give us stuff when we're having a new baby, but our friends/family aren't really gift givers normally.  Everything after baby is here is entirely from our very tiny budget, sometimes too small to craigslist shop!  It's nice to get some toys, solid-feeding gear, toddler clothes, etc when they're newborn and stash it for when we need it.  :)
 

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I always wondered why people bought newborns  toys. They don't even know they have hands yet, why get them a toy? For the first few weeks they're finding all of their body parts and really into  Mama and Papa (mostly Mama) still.  It isn't as if they can really use that shape sorter! I'd get them if you can find a good sale though. I found stacking cups and a bead maze for super cheap on clearance and I got them for the belly baby, but then I also tend to buy birthday or Christmas gifts when I find awesome deals and I just hoard them in a box until the right time. 

 

Oh but I did get her a Pie Chan, and my toddler has a Sophie. Even my nearly 4 year old likes to play with Sophie. 


 

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And Megame--1-2 is fairly easy I think... you can weed out the stuff you didn't like or use based on your own experience.  If you've changed your mind about some parenting stuff, you can add/subtract based on that (for example, I discovered babywearing between my first two, so purchased a sling and made a mei tai for my second but got rid of the bouncy seat as it never got used), depending on your older child, may or may not need to think about what is safe (does the baby need somewhere to lay out-of-reach when you're cooking, etc?, do you need a gate somewhere?)... in general, you can figure out from experience what worked/didn't work for your family since you've done it before, even though every baby is different.

 

I think the most important thing I learned with #2 was how to nurse while walking and how to nurse in a sling.  That's not really something you can pick up ahead of time, but it's worth the practice.  :)


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You got a lot of advice already but I'll add my list anyway.

 

*carseat - we've had the "bucket" type but we're using a convertible seat this time because that's what we have. 

*carrier - I have big babies so I've been able to make the Ergo work right from the start. But if my babies were small I'd start with a Moby wrap.

*clothes - mostly gowns and wool shirts w/sleep sacks, and some hats.  I really like gowns for little babies, they are easy to put on and baby can curl up his legs, but some people like sleepers with separated legs.  You definitely don't need a bunch of structured outfits.  I hate baby socks so we'll probably just have a couple pairs of booties.  For the summer you don't need much more than a onsie or tee shirts.

*diapering - we're doing cloth so 3 doz. diapers, 3 dozen cloth wipes, maybe around 8 covers, a couple snappis, and water bottle and the changing pad. We have an old table we've repurposed.  I've heard people using the floor or beds or whatever to change but I like having a proper station.  I can't imagine all the bending down doing it on the floor all the time!  You don't need an actually changing table though. 

*sleeping place - we cosleep and since they're so big we don't worry about anything in the bed.  For other times I'm going to get either a moses basket or a hanging hammock.  I think a hammock might last longer....We have hardwood floors over an uninsulated crawl space, and we live in the country with farm animals and such, so I don't feel comfortable putting the baby right on the floor. I like to hold them as much as possible but sometimes you just need to put them down somehwere safe.

*nursing pillow - I prefer the My Brest Friend.  They are really easy to find second hand.  I'd probably just deal with a regular pillow thuogh if I didn't find one used or get one as a gift.

 

Babies do not need toys and they will be more interested in regular objects anyway for, well, years (seriously, my kids play with their toys but give them some kindling and a pack of tape and they're in heaven)!  Once they start teething they will need something to chew on.  We have this little organic cotton knot doll thing - you can get it wet and freeze it - and a wooden rattle.  On the blog Sew Liberated she has a couple of posts about doing treasure baskets for sitting infants - basically a basket with household objects of various taxtures and materials.  So cool and free. Babies do respond to reading pretty very early though so you coiuld ask for some books.  Those are nice and inexpensive for the people who can't spend too much.


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Are you having a shower? If so I'd just register for a bunch of stuff and see what you get. We registered for everything under the sun for the shower (also have a rather large family) and then returned whatever we didn't need. Then we saved the gift cards and used them for the toddler car seat (needed that by 6ish months) and the high chair (we LOVE our Tripp Trapp).

 

That said, def. get what you will need the day you come home from the hospital. You can always send someone out for the other stuff. Side-snapping shirts are good for the beginning too (esp until cord falls off). Research the pump before you buy it, but I'd get that before you come home. A friend of mine ended up needing to pump for the first week or so that they were home. So you never know. Also one or two bottles or one from a couple of different brands. DD hated all but one kind of bottle so we ended up returning quite a few of those too. You can use a regular bed pillow if you don't want a nursing pillow. And I second (third? fourth?) the idea of trying out a couple of carriers. We had a few before we settled on a regular old ring sling by the time DD was about four months. Depending on where you live you could probably wait on the stroller too. If you live in a colder climate you won't need a stroller right away. DD hated (!) the stroller until she was about 6 or so months old. We used a carrier of some kind before that.

 

If you are planning on breast feeding some sort of nursing tank to sleep in is a good investment and good bras (but don't buy too many before you have baby because your size will change). Also Earth Mama Angel Baby makes an EXCELLENT nipple butter and booby tubes (for use if you get engorged). Toss the nipple butter in your hospital bag because you might need it those first few days.


Good Luck. It's overwhelming to know what you need in the beginning.


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My must have list (this is baby #7)

 

-a sling (we use a Kangaroo Korner sling)/baby carrier for an older baby as well - we have an Ergo and while I don't love it as much as some people seem to, it does the job

-a swaddling sleep-sack (I have liked Halo Sleepsacks - they seemed to magically get baby to sleep with my last several)

-we use a swing and a bouncy seat depending on the baby's size. If you have a limited budget a bouncy seat has a shorter lifespan than a swing, but a smaller baby won't necessarily be able to safely be in a swing right away

 

 

I'd skip the in-bed co-sleeper, personally.

 

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-pack-n-play - safe place to put baby if you have other small little ones at home

 


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I borrowed a bouncer from a friend when I had #2, SO great for when I needed to shower. I bought one second hand this time, 10 dollars!! :D

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Previous posters have given good ideas, but I do have a couple comments about breastfeeding supplies.  

 

Since you are working, I'd definitely invest in a good pump before your baby arrives.  BabiesRUs is not my favorite store, but I did use a giftcard to buy mine from there (also used a 20% coupon which they seem to have all the time).  I only rarely work outside the home, but I still was very grateful I had it.  DD had a bumpy 1st week and the pump helped.  And until she was maybe 5-6 months, DD was the type of baby that often wanted to eat every hour, so I didn't feel comfortable leaving her with DH to run a fairly quick errand to the gym or the grocery store unless I left some expressed milk.  

 

I actually wore my nursing tanks a lot more than my nursing bras.  I liked it that they covered my tummy when I lifted my shirt, and I found that they worked well even as my body shape changed significantly over the 18 months I breastfed.  (I was DD cup a few days after birth and A/B cup by her 1st birthday...the Bravado 36D/E ones fit me really well the entire time).

 

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Fantastic everyone, thanks so much for all the great tips!

 

Lizsky, I have hear of these phantom 20% off BRU coupons, but haven't been able to find one. They have the chair I want to buy, but refuse to do so at full price. :) I've already signed up for their email deals, etc. Did you get your coupon in a mail ad or email, out of curiosity?
 

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Since you are working, I'd definitely invest in a good pump before your baby arrives.  BabiesRUs is not my favorite store, but I did use a giftcard to buy mine from there (also used a 20% coupon which they seem to have all the time).  I only rarely work outside the home, but I still was very grateful I had it.  DD had a bumpy 1st week and the pump helped.  And until she was maybe 5-6 months, DD was the type of baby that often wanted to eat every hour, so I didn't feel comfortable leaving her with DH to run a fairly quick errand to the gym or the grocery store unless I left some expressed milk.  

 


 


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I signed up for their rewards program and they mail 20% off coupons just about every month.  I also noticed that they would usually put one in my bag with my receipt when I made a purchase.  I'd be glad to mail you the next one I get, as I only shop there very occasionally.  Although you may receive one soon if you've signed up for the rewards program.  If I recall, 20% off my pump was something like $50 so it was significant!   Best wishes!  


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