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#31 of 46 Old 09-01-2011, 11:56 AM - Thread Starter
 
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Things that are different:  less throwing up but more nausea....until yesterday?  I vaguely remember things getting better around 8 weeks last time too.  Not gone but manageable.  Super bloated/stretchy.  It is like my body is like "you are pg, you should look like it"  but all my clothes fit fine?  I am nursing so that is a whole new world of fatigue and selflessness, no taking a nap or stopping when I want to.

 

Things that are the same:  Emotional/crying because of things like commercials or music montages at the end of a dramatic show.  I even got wispy on a run the other day because of the music I was listening to! Hip pain, I have to have a pillow between my knees already!

 

I am already getting emotional about how our family is changing and how it will impact my son, both positively and negatively.  I am a huge fan of siblings but I have moments of wanting to make my moments last longer with DS right now. I am very aware that I will never have this time back with him...ok stopping now because of the previously mentioned emotional thing...


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I'm much sicker this time around, and definitely more stretchy-bloated feeling.  Much less stressed, though I'm still a food safety freak.  I think, since I had the mcs before dd, with that pg I was wondering if I woud EVER be a mother, etc.  This time, I don't want to sounds heartless, but I am a mother, my family is already amazing and full and complete.  I would be very sad if something went wrong, but I don't think I would have been as devastated as if something had happened with dd.  That said, now that I'm past 9 weeks, seen a heartbeat, etc. I'm allowing myself to feela lot more confident, which means that I'm starting to bond more and getting excited about all the happy changes and new possibilities with this little monkey.  But so much of my focus still is on dd- she's been my constant companion for 6 years now- really, the focus of my life.  She's starting school next week, so that's taking up a lot of attention and energy.  Definitely not sitting around obsessing like I did last time.

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With my first I was a bit in denial until I found out then I was beyond excited.  I was a bit more careful and anxious to make sure I did everything right.  I knew instantly it was a boy and was pretty connected. This pregnancy itself is different though, I don't recall being queasy with my son like I am this time.  It generally hits in the evening, not always though.  I'm already looking like I did around 11 weeks too. 

 

This time, I knew something was up early on.  I'm not anxious, I feel just as connected (I have strong feelings it's a girl).  But since I have a toddler to take care of I don't think about it all of time I guess.  I don't know.  It's just different.  I went through it once already and sort of know what to expect.  Sure somethings will be new and all, but over all I've gone through the labor and delivery once before, I took care of a newborn, etc.  Although, I'm a bit worried about doing it with a nearly 3 year old when the time comes, but I know I can do it.

 

 


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Yeah, I was just thinking how completely different it is to be PG the 2nd time around.  There definitely is a lot less wonder about the process. And like others said, I'm not sitting around stewing about it all day. 

 

I was not emotional last PG really. But this time around, I feel much more hormonal.  Random things make me choked up and there are times when I see DS and cuddle him so hard because my heart is just bursting with love for him.  I have the same thing for DH.

 

Physically, I am not nauseous in the AM, but then I have to hit the ground running with a toddler, ya know?  I notice the queasies more at night when I'm not on the go. I also feel more bloaty and yucky, but I started my first PGcy in literally the best shape of my life and this time, I was comfortably active but not super fit.


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hi mamas, I am preggo with my 5th baby, and it is super early.  But can a mama of 4+ talk some sense into me?  I just feel like we are freaks!  I am afraid of my family's reaction... I just am afraid of being a bad mom to 5 kids.  I am afraid of not being able to do for my kids what I should (provide for them).  O

m just feeling weird, I guess.  I mean I know no one ever says, "we really shouldn't have had that 5th child!" 

 

But I am just all over the place.  I want this baby, and love it, but don't know how to deal with the world and all of its demands.  Thursday girl, I think it is because I have a lot of friends who are parents to onlies.... and something you wrote about not really being able to be around them.  I feel bad admitting that (these are my friends!) but it miht have something to do with that.  My kids are a lot more free, but they make me feel like because I am not constantly taking them to the children's museum or XYZ I am negligent.  I like to just be with my kids... they aren't a life project but people whom I love.  Sorry if that sounds harsh.... I am just feeling kind of wacky. What you wrote kind of stuck a chord with me.


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forestmushroom - I definitely understand how you feel!  This is #5 for us also, very much a surprise, my other kids are 1, 3, 5 and just turned 7.  dizzy.gif I'm not looking forward to telling our families either since we got such bad reactions to the news of #4 coming along.  I'm still a bit panicky when I think of it all (fitting them all in the van, stuffing some bunk beds in a room so it'll accommodate 3 kids, just the sheer amount of stuff in the house. 

 

We definitely don't do as much as smaller families do, just because of the $$$ involved and we're carefully watching our budget.  We took the kids to the zoo yesterday and that was definitely a big outing for us.  At first I was worried that my kids were disappointed because we didn't get any gifts from the gift shop, or because we brought lunch instead of buying lunch there.  Then when I watched the kids running around at lunch, I realized that they were having as much fun with the picnic in the woods by the zoo parking lot as they were in the zoo itself.  I think sometimes I'm projecting what I remember from my childhood onto my kids.  I was a nearly-only child (my half-brother is 11 years younger than I am, so we were both practically raised as only children.)  I need to remember to see things through my KIDS' eyes, and not through my memories from being a kid. 

 

A few weeks ago DS1 was writing the word "rich" on the whiteboard as part of a phrase for spelling and he said "Mommy, rich means people have a lot of money.  We don't have a lot of money, but we have a lot of people in our family.  We're rich in people instead of money, I like that better."  I need to see things through their eyes.


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I am a kid of a family of five kids and I want to just give encouragement that I LOVE it!  I could not imagine a world better.  Seriously, we ate pb and j a lot and had beans and franks and I knew that we didn't get to do all the things that pretty much everyone else did.  BUT, I never felt cheated or like my life wasn't as good.  As a kid, I just knew that my family was different...we didn't get a birthday party every year, etc.  But I also knew that I had parents that really loved me, spent time with me, and my siblings were and still are my best friends.  I cannot stress enough how valuable it was for me to basically just play outside every day with siblings and cousins and use our imaginations.  The older I get the more I realize just how awesome it is to be a part of a big family.  I have four other people that I can talk to about memories and my interpretation of childhood experiences.  It is literally the best gift my parents have given me aside from the values and faith they taught me.  My mom wasn't able to be everything to everyone in the sense of right there with undivided attention but I knew my mom loved us all equally and would do anything for us.  I honestly feel no compromise with having that many kids in my family except for material things and I am glad about that.  I just wanted to encourage moms of many- it is a gift, you may feel crazy a lot of the days but it is a gift to each of your kids.

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Flavorfull1,  and Red Sonja,

 

Thank you for your kind words and camaraderie! I hope I don't sound like too much of a jerk. 

 

I absolutely love watching my kids play together outside.  <3 They have cousins that are very close to them as well.  I hope I can be the best mom to all of my kids I can be! 


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forestmushroom, I think it makes sense what you're saying, and doesn't sound bad at all.  Everyone makes their own choices, right?  And some are blessed with more children, some with challenges.... your family will be perfect, however many people it ultimately includes.  love.gif

 

 

As for me, I really don't remember feeling crappy for this long last pg--but maybe I did.  Maybe that means this is a boy?  Or maybe I'm just getting wimpy with age?


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I am a kid of a family of five kids and I want to just give encouragement that I LOVE it!  I could not imagine a world better.  Seriously, we ate pb and j a lot and had beans and franks and I knew that we didn't get to do all the things that pretty much everyone else did.  BUT, I never felt cheated or like my life wasn't as good.  As a kid, I just knew that my family was different...we didn't get a birthday party every year, etc.  But I also knew that I had parents that really loved me, spent time with me, and my siblings were and still are my best friends.  I cannot stress enough how valuable it was for me to basically just play outside every day with siblings and cousins and use our imaginations.  The older I get the more I realize just how awesome it is to be a part of a big family.  I have four other people that I can talk to about memories and my interpretation of childhood experiences.  It is literally the best gift my parents have given me aside from the values and faith they taught me.  My mom wasn't able to be everything to everyone in the sense of right there with undivided attention but I knew my mom loved us all equally and would do anything for us.  I honestly feel no compromise with having that many kids in my family except for material things and I am glad about that.  I just wanted to encourage moms of many- it is a gift, you may feel crazy a lot of the days but it is a gift to each of your kids.


That is lovely!

 

I have six kids (this is #7) and my older kids feel the same way. In fact, my 19yos moved back to TX at the beginning of summer. All year long he talked about how he couldn't wait to get away from us - the little boys always in his stuff, the dog hair in his clean clothes, always budgeting every purchase and sometimes putting things off for a long while. You know what, he lasted all of six weeks before he called and asked if he could come back. Of course he could. He missed his huge family, little brothers and even the dog! So, he moved back, applied to the local state university, lives in the dorm (for a little independence and privacy) and has come home every weekend because he misses us! Hah!

 

When he was in TX he stayed with a friend. He thought this friend was so cool. When he came back he said, "That's not a family, I feel sorry for him." He learned a lot of lessons this summer.

 

Now, it's true that as they go through their teen years and see their friends with so much more disposable income, nicer clothes, cars and shoes, they may resent being in a large family, but they come around. My 14yo is going through that stage now. And by they way, homeschoolers go through the same emotions (we homeschooled our oldest dd through graduation and our 19yos through 11th grade).

 

 

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I hope my kiddos want to hang around with us, too!  I do think having more kids, rather then taking my attention away from my older kids, helps keep me focused on *all* of my children.  If I were to say okay no more in a drastic way (DH getting the big snip, etc.) I think I would feel like I had to move one and work , etc.  But this keeps me grounded.  And my kids do love each other--and are good friends. 


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I'm on #3, but I hope to be where so many of you are in the future.  There are 8 kids in my family and 6 in my husband's, and we'd love at least 6.  I have always loved being part of a big family, even if I haven't always gotten along with every one of my siblings ;)  There are always a few more to get along with!  


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Does anyone want to kick their DP in the teeth right now?  I feel like I'm getting so much less sympathy this time around.  It sucks, because I know DH will be great in labor and he's a great dad, but geez, right now I could stand for him to cut me some slack.  Like just because last pg was easy this one should be too...and it is, mostly, but geez. 

 

Maybe its just hormones.


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I just think we should get a little pass to take it easy because we know the road ahead!  You have to take it easy, so you don't get burnt out and totally fried.  ((hugs)).  My DH is kind of the same way.... he doesn't like to listen to me whine ;) 
 

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Does anyone want to kick their DP in the teeth right now?  I feel like I'm getting so much less sympathy this time around.  It sucks, because I know DH will be great in labor and he's a great dad, but geez, right now I could stand for him to cut me some slack.  Like just because last pg was easy this one should be too...and it is, mostly, but geez. 

 

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Does anyone want to kick their DP in the teeth right now?  I feel like I'm getting so much less sympathy this time around.  It sucks, because I know DH will be great in labor and he's a great dad, but geez, right now I could stand for him to cut me some slack.  Like just because last pg was easy this one should be too...and it is, mostly, but geez. 

 

Maybe its just hormones.



Bwahahaha! I know just how you feel! My dh is really doing well this time, but he hasn't always. I think he finally realized how draining pregnancy is on me with #5. He was very helpful last time and is doing everything I don't this time (instead of letting it all pile up until I feel better or get mad and do it).

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I am so moody!  It is driving me nuts.  Everything is making me mad or cry.  ugh.  I am still not "out" with this pregnancy so my friends just think I am nutz-o!  Hope all the mamas are doing well.  I am so loving my kids though.  They could do anything and I still am just so in love with them all.... strange these hormones! 


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