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#1 of 2 Old 08-22-2011, 08:04 PM - Thread Starter
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We were so excited to be pregnant at the same time, she was due in Feb. and I am in April.  We also both have 3 year olds, so we get together at least every two weeks, sometimes more.  She went in for a check up today and although she had already heard the heartbeat, today they couldn't find one...They did an ultrasound to confirm.  We both were going in for apts today, and were even texting each other while she was in the waiting room.  I called her to find out about her apt. and she didn't call me back until this evening to tell me what had happened.  I feel so bad right now.  I don't what to say to her and I am feeling kinda guilty or less excited that I am pregnant now.  I also have a fear that we won't be as close now or that it will be awkward between us, I don't want that, but I will have to respect what she wants I guess.  Has anyone ever been in a similar situation?  Any words of advice?

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I'm in a sort of similiar situation. My BFF has been trying for a year and hasn't had luck. We thought for sure this would be her month too after i found out I was pregnant. It wasn't. I've just tried to give her some space (we text daily, but live a few state apart) and share my excitment with other friends while she deals with her emotions right now. I've told her that I'm still here for her if she needs anything or wants to to talk but right now I don't think talking to me is helping her. 

Be excited about your pregnancy, maybe just tone it down around her for awhile. At the same time I wouldn't completely ignore her either, just make sure she knows your there if she needs you and let her process it at her own pace. 

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