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Hey everyone-

 

I hate writing these as much as I hate reading them. Needless to say, I didn't get good news at my appointment today. The doppler couldn't find a heartbeat and the ultrasound showed a baby that stopped growing around 7 1/2 weeks, which is when I lost my first babe. I plan on having a D&C on Wednesday since my body is obviously not good at letting go of pregnancies. 

 

At the moment I'm crying a lot, but I don't feel overly sad. I've been through this twice before, so it isn't a new pain, just another disappointment. I guess it's just weird in that I wasn't even sure if I wanted another baby and we weren't trying to have this one. I guess this pregnancy showed me that I actually want another baby, which is good. When I say good, I mean that it's good that I was able to come to a conclusion. I'm sure that my SO and I will start actually trying after all of this passes, so I'm sure I'll be back on these boards someday.

 

I wish all of you luck on your pregnancies!

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i am so sorry. no words, just sorryhug2.gif

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No! I was just thinking about you hoping your appointment today went well, this is just ... I'm so sorry. Lots of hugs.


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I'm so so sorry for your loss. take very good care of yourself.

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I'm not even sure what words can convey the sadness I feel for you. This must be so hard. Hugs to you, and I hope you find comfort, in some way, in your new realization that you would be happy growing your family. I wish you all the luck in the world with your next attempt.


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I am so very sorry for you. candle.gifgrouphug.gif


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I'm so sorry mama.  Peace and healing to you and your family.  candle.gif


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Oh how heart breaking for you and your family. Take good care of yourself and I wish you the best on your future family.


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Oh mama I am so sorry. Many hugs. I am glad that you were able to come to a decision but sorry that it will not be this little one. So sorry.


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I'm so very very sorry.


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im so sorry :(


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I'm so sorry.


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Sallierae - so, so sorry to hear it. I hope you hang in there.Hugs.


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I'm so very sorry.

Glad to hear that you've come to a decision to keep trying after your D&C; that's when I got successfully pregnant with DS, so best wishes to you!


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I'm so very sorry for your loss.


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I'm so sorry for your loss :(


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So sorry!!!greensad.gif


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sallyrae17, I'm so sorry you're going through this.  Peace to you and your family.


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So sorry! hugs.


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Thanks everyone. I appreciate your sentiments. I had the D&C yesterday and everything seemed to go well. 

 

ASusan- I also became successfully pregnant after a D&C. I've never been able to have a natural miscarriage (my body won't let go), so maybe I just need to get everything cleaned out and start from scratch. I definitely don't have a problem getting pregnant, just keeping it in there. I'm not discouraged, though, since my DS is proof that I can successfully carry a babe beyond full term. :)

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I don't know if many of you remember me, but I just wanted to post an update. I just had a positive pregnancy test this morning! I'm only 4 weeks, but I'm hopeful that this one will stick! I can't believe I got pregnant again so quickly. I had one period and then bam! :) I hope that all of you are growing beautifully and I'm excited to be back on the forums again (albeit the August one). 

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Comgrats! I was thinking about you the other day. Good luck and have a great 9 months!


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That is such good news. Sticky baby vibes coming your way

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Congratulations!!!!  That is what happened when I miscarried in May and can't believe that I am now 21wks.  Good luck this time around and sending you tons of sticky vibes.


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Congrats!!! I hope you have a happy healthy nine months!!!


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Congrats sweetie! Goodluck and I wish you the best! Yay!


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Yay! So happy for you sallyrae!! Congrats!


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Congratulations!!  joy.gif  Wishing you a healthy and happy pregnancy! :)

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