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Old 06-29-2012, 05:30 PM - Thread Starter
 
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I'll try not to make this too long...I just had a DaVinci Myomectomy to remove a 12 cm fibroid.  My RE told me I will definitely have to have a C-section and "not even go near going into labor".  I knew this as soon as I found out about the fibroid, but after they realized how big it was (I am 29, healthy, no children, losing weight instead of gaining,so it confused them) after removing it, there is no question that I will have to have a C-section.

 

I'm just very upset/disappointed about this.  I feel it's not natural to schedule a date, the baby should arrive naturally, not when my husband, doctor, and I decide.


Has anyone ever gone through this?  And as for the C-section itself, I'm scared out of my mind just thinking about it.  I was scared out of my mind about the DaVinci Myomectomy, but that turned out great.

 

Thanks for your time and responses, I appreciate it :)

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It is hard when you realize your birth is not going to be the way you imagined it.  I was also told to go nowhere near labor due to an emergency classical incision at 25 weeks.  I did mourn the loss of the birth I had dreamed of.  In fact I still do sometimes.  BUt after a while,once my son was born, I realized that the last six years of caring for my child, far outweigh and sadness and disappointment I had about the birth.  It is ok to be sad.  You are mourning the loss of a dream.  Just don't drown in it.  Your feelings are valid, you are not alone and you will eventually find peace.

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Thanks, gossamer.  I've been through so much in the last year with a miscarriage, the myomectomy, and the reality of the c-section.  But your thoughts are helpful, and I appreciate it.smile.gif

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Originally Posted by gossamer View Post  It is ok to be sad.  You are mourning the loss of a dream.  Just don't drown in it. 

 


What a great way to describe it!!  I think it is a realistic outlook, I would like to use that phase myself in the future!


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I am sorry your year is so rough right now. I had a horrible year the year I had my first c section. My daughter was delivered via c section at 25 weeks due to pre eclampsia and HELLP. She survived for an hour and died before I woke up from the anesthesia. I am telling you my story to reassure you that although you never get over it, you learn to live with it and incorporate the loss into your life. I wish you peace.
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Gossamer, I am so sorry for your loss.  Thank you for sharing and for your perspective, it is appreciated and very helpful.

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Yours is very similar to my situation. I had 2 surgeries to remove Fibroids, hystroscopic & laproscopic. I knew they would result it it being very likely I'd need a c-section.

 

Thanks to the Firbroids being removed I'm now 37 weeks pregnant.  When I got pregnant my OBGYN reviewed the OR reports to make a determiniation & came up with the same decision as the doctor in your case - c-section needed, uterus shouldn't labour. My c-section is scheduled next week & while I'm disappointed I couldn't have a natural birth, I also know I wouldn't be pregnant without the surgeries.

 

Unfortunately, a lot of reading about c-sections is written from the perspective of people who had unscheduled, emergency, traumatic experiences. The one book I found most helpful is "The Essential C-Section Guide: Pain Control, Healing at Home, Getting Your Body Back, and Everything Else You Need to Know About a Cesarean Birth" by Maureen Connolly and Dana Sullivan. It is very factual and not 'political'.

 

Take the time you need to mourn the loss of the expereince you had wanted & adjust to the idea of needing a c-section. I hope in the end you are able to be as comfortable with it as I have become.


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Hi prairie girl,

 

You are so right, most of the c-section material out there is related to emergencies, so not helpful in easing my mind.

 

Congratulations on your pregnancy!  Did you have to have two surgeries because the fibroid(s) grew back?  Did you have any trouble conceiving?

If you don't mind me asking, sorry for all the questions...I just feel like there is no one out there that can relate to me.  The fibroid came as such a total shock, then having to go to a fertility specialist, all total shock.  

 

Thanks for your time and congrats again :)

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No worries about the questions. I also had a lot of difficulty finding others 'like me'. Fibroids usually/typically are not a problem with fertility, but for me they were. 

 

I had 2 m/c's and then 1.5 years of not being able to concieve. I didn't know I had fibroids until the first m/c. Eventually, it was decided that removing the fibroids was the best plan to find out if they might be the problem. I had 2 surgeries to remove 3 fibroids. There were 2 different surgeries because one was hystroscopic & the other was laproscopic, not becasue they grew back. Four cycles after resuming TTCing after the last surgery, I got my 3rd & sticky BFP.

 

My c-section is scheduled very very soon (keeping the date secret), so stay tuned and I'll post my birth & recovery story once I'm up to it.


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No worries about the questions. I also had a lot of difficulty finding others 'like me'. Fibroids usually/typically are not a problem with fertility, but for me they were. 

 

I had 2 m/c's and then 1.5 years of not being able to concieve. I didn't know I had fibroids until the first m/c. Eventually, it was decided that removing the fibroids was the best plan to find out if they might be the problem. I had 2 surgeries to remove 3 fibroids. There were 2 different surgeries because one was hystroscopic & the other was laproscopic, not becasue they grew back. Four cycles after resuming TTCing after the last surgery, I got my 3rd & sticky BFP.

 

My c-section is scheduled very very soon (keeping the date secret), so stay tuned and I'll post my birth & recovery story once I'm up to it.


Thanks for taking time to respond, I appreciate it.  I look forward to your birth & recovery story, best wishes and congrats to you :)

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