I have twins, but I did not carry them. My partner did. I have been living the experience of a non-bio mama who raises these kids like they are my own, because they truly are in my heart and commitment! Then, five years later, I really want to carry. I wanted to experience pregnancy and had my hopes set on a water birth. Turns out, due to a previous surgery, that I was not cleared for a natural delivery. I mourned. I tried to be positive, but I was sad to have labor taken off of my bucket list with this one and only pregnancy. And then....I had coffee with a friend. I kept referring to the arrival as "the surgery", "her due date", or other terms. Never did I say "birth". My good friend stopped me and said, "you mean, the birth..?" It was powerful for me. It affirmed that I was indeed having a birth. And when I heard her first cry, it took my breath away and brought a tear to my eye like every other woman who has given birth.
What did you mourn, experience, or learn during your unexpected c-section..?
What did you mourn, experience, or learn during your unexpected c-section..?