So my husband, son and I were planning on going to my father's lake house for Thanksgiving and spending it with that side of my family. My dad called me yesterday to work out which sides we were planning on bringing, what time we were coming etc and then at the end of the conversation he says " Oh, I forgot to tell you that your sister has mono. She is feeling much better so it should be fine, just thought I would let you know."
So now I am kind of stressing out about this! I have three sisters still in high school so I guess it's not so unexpected that this would happen at some point. I honestly don't know very much about mono, but googling online it said that it can be contagious for up to a year or two? Does anyone know if that is true? I had a friend come down with mono when I was in high school and she was miserable and missed three months of school. Obviously I am not going to let him drink or eat after her, or let her kiss him on the cheeks or anything but we are all going to be in close proximity hanging out, eating and all that kind of stuff. He is 18 months old so he still puts stuff in his mouth constantly which has me worried.
So if you guys were in my situation what would you do? Am I completely worrying over nothing?
As long as responses are polite, I actually don't mind if NVers respond to this thread too. Any advice would be great!
Mono isn't as contagious as a lot of other things, which is why only one of your sisters has it. One of my friends recently had it, and his toddlers didn't catch it (or didn't show any symptoms). It's an annoying illness, but mostly because it gets really frustrating having so little energy for so long. Personally, as long as everybody is on board with making an effort to avoid sharing spit, etc... it's not something I'd worry a lot about. And if your sister has the "jungle breath" symptom, nobody will have a problem remembering not to kiss her.
Difficult situation as most people will contract EBV (the virus that causes mono) at some point in their lives, anyway.
I got it at 18, at the start of my summer holidays. Was sick for six weeks, feverish and with huge glands. Nothing dangerous or anything, but I did feel rotten and it took ages to recover properly. I would think I was on the mend, then the fever came back. Ruined my summer holidays completely and left me slightly anaemic afterwards, but that all got better, I recovered fully.
My son contracted EBV as a baby (before ever been vaxed, btw, I didn't get any shots in pregnancy either). For him, it was devastating. Meningitis, encephalitis, ADEM, MDEM and we are still facing a 30% chance of him developing MS at some point in his life. Oligoclonal bands, a blood-brain-barrier disruption, seizures, coma. EBV is not to be underestimated, but it is also not really avoidable.
If I was you, I wouldn't go, just because of the risk, IF something happened, it could have been prevented because you KNEW beforehand.
EBV is the reason why I distrust mother nature's kindness considering viruses and the theory of our immune systems somehow being strengthened through them. His wasn't. Viruses don't make you stronger, they weaken your immune system. I wish there was a vaccination for EBV and right now, I wouldn't have to go downstairs and do DS' special needs homework with him.
I'm moving this post to the Teen Health forum where it's better hosted. OP, I hope hearing from others about their experiences will be helpful to you.
Mono is more infectious than contagious. I think it will be okay as long as you keep him from putting things in his mouth that have been in hers which assuming she is well beyond the age where she randomly sucks on things and leaves them around shouldn't be a problem.