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My son will turn three next week. We were going to start the Oh Crap! Potty training today. (http://www.jamieglowacki.com/)  It begins with the child spending a few days naked and whenever they start to pee or poo putting them on the potty.

 

Well, we have already failed. It is not even 8am and my son is screaming and crying that he wants pants. I had a feeling about this. He doesn't want to be nekkie, or even pantsless.

 

We are going on a big trip in four weeks and I'd love for him to be potty trained by then. We have been talking it up. It wouldn't be too good to then not do it after all we've said about it.

 

You can pay for access to a forum on the Oh Crap! site, but it is full now and they're not accepting new registrations (not to mention we can't really afford it right now, it's not cheap).

 

Does anyone have any advice? I was so excited to find a potty training method that didn't use rewards, but we have reached our first major stumbling block just minutes in.

 

If I put pants on him he's just gonna pee and poo in them. Plus with pants on, by the time you notice they're peeing it's too late.

 

Please help!  Thanks

 

ETA: I just dug out his old leg warmers (which he never wanted to wear as a baby) and he has them on now. That has helped. Whew! Still....I am taking other suggestions as he will most likely at some point want to put on real pants in the next few days. Thanks again!


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That is asking a lot of a little boy to potty train in 4 weeks.
 

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According to that book and website, most children get it within 3-4 weeks, some sooner. That doesnt mean 100% accident free necessarily, but that they get the gist and most of the pee and poop lands in the toilet. She has helped thousands of parents so I trust what she says. I don't expect he'll be perfect in four weeks, but I would really like him to be only in night diapers by then. If not then so be it ~we can only try. 😊
We aren't doing night training til later, and I plan on putting a diaper on him for the flight.
Other than that it seems reasonable to me.

BTW so far so good! He is well aware how it all works, it was just a matter of putting it into practice.

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We have been using the same book, keep going, because it is amazing!  We will be 3 wks on Tuesday and my little one is doing great.  If we were going on vacation in a week I would feel confident in her ability to be successful.  And she was pretty clueless about the whole process when we started. 

 

It sounds like you are doing great just wanted to add my YEAH it works! :)

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Never heard of the book but that is exactly how we did it. Whenever he was watching a show or just hanging out during the day he usually didn't wear pants. We did put a diaper on him for trips, though. At first, anyway.

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Oh, and I don't think you had a "fail" LOL! A potty training fail would in my mind involve poop being thrown at someone or something like that LOL.

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My son didn't like to wear anything on the bottom, so he actually potty trained himself in the way you're describing. My daughter, 3.5, also loves to run around "nekkie" during the day, and it's a struggle to keep her in clothes! Every time I turn around, the clothes are off. She is also potty trained (day only) and I think it might also be because of the naked bottom! Who knew this is actually a potty training method, but hey, if it works, go for it!

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Thanks for the replies. The legwarmers saved the day and he's had them on the whole time.

 

My hubby was eager to take him out in the neighborhood so he's had pants on today (no underwear, which is also recommended in the Oh Crap! book) and so far had one accident as they didn't make it home in time (he now took the potty to the playground so I hope that helps!). Other than that and a few dribbles he's been right on track and "getting it".

 

The nekkie thing is crucial, so you can watch them and make sure they get to a potty as soon as they start going. With clothes on, by the time you notice it's too late. I have heard of lots of kids training this way,  just getting naked and becoming aware of when they go and getting it in the toilet. It works!

 

And thanks for the confirmation that Oh Crap! works. She has helped thousands of parents and makes her living on it, so I figure it must be good stuff. Unlike other methods, it's not a reward system and she is clearly an AP / positive discipline type of mama herself.


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My son didn't like to wear anything on the bottom, so he actually potty trained himself in the way you're describing. My daughter, 3.5, also loves to run around "nekkie" during the day, and it's a struggle to keep her in clothes! Every time I turn around, the clothes are off. She is also potty trained (day only) and I think it might also be because of the naked bottom! Who knew this is actually a potty training method, but hey, if it works, go for it!

Haha my daughter is also a lover of being "nekik" as she calls it.  We've only just begun some potty work, she's 18mos and has pooped and peed a few times, had a minor set back/potty aversion after she pooped on the floor and cried (we laughed!) but is back to being interested so I often let her roam naked with the potty nearby.  It's just like housebreaking a puppy - try to find out their schedule and if you catch them in the act grab and run!

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Haha my daughter is also a lover of being "nekik" as she calls it.  We've only just begun some potty work, she's 18mos and has pooped and peed a few times, had a minor set back/potty aversion after she pooped on the floor and cried (we laughed!) but is back to being interested so I often let her roam naked with the potty nearby.  It's just like housebreaking a puppy - try to find out their schedule and if you catch them in the act grab and run!

LOL. My son was so proud of his first poop in the potty that he FREAKED when we flushed it and wouldn't do it again for almost a year!!! Poor thing. :-(
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Maybe next time let *him* flush it? Our 26-m.o. loves to flush the toilet, has loved doing it since he was 10 months old. Pantsless totally works, but our experience is not to expect to be accident-free in any particular time frame. I'd love for him to take full responsibility for making sure everything goes in the potty, but practice non-attachment to time frames. Could put unnecessary pressure on yourself and the baby.

And ultimately, accidents are no biggie. You just bring extra pants and it's no harder than changing a diaper (yet less frequent, and kinder to the environment).
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