IdentityCrisisMama, thanks for the long post! I don't think I need an EC-specific perspective at this point, the only difference is that if we'd never tried EC I would just assume he isnt' ready- but I know that he used to be willing to use the potty and now won't so I'm very confused.
Right now, I think the biggest issue has nothing to do with EC/not, and it's this:
I have a toddler who has full control over his elimination, but either doesn't understand "pee/poo goes on the potty" or just doesn't want to.
We've changed up the diapers a few times, he can leak through any brand we've tried. We even tried the night time dry disposable diapers, but apparently whatever chemicals they use really aggravate his skin and he screamed bloody murder as soon as they got wet. We do change before bed, he doesn't like getting his diaper changed at any itme of day. He doesn't mind it getting taken off, but really hates them being put on.
He's only done the crying thing once, we weren't sure if he did need to go until he did. Before that, he'd just try to go somewhere private and pee without much fanfare. It turns out he's likely sick, which may've been the problem.
The autonomy may be the issue, he does sometimes enjoy playing the game of figuring out how to stand up from and sit back down on the potty. I also think he just may not realize that we want him to go in the potty and I'm not sure how to get that across. The last time he peed on the potty was probably 6 months ago, at this age he may not remember that he's supposed to. I've been trying to teach him the words 'pee' and 'poo', but I'm not sure if he's getting it.
Originally Posted by OrmEmbar
Bumping and following along! I have a 15 month old who did great early on. I was not surprised when he stopped signaling when he started to walk, but now he signals and wants to sit on the potty but won't pee in it. He will pee outside and sometimes when held over the sink. He will also sometimes tell me or take his diaper off when he is wet. Mostly he just wants to tell us then go on playing without interruption.
I'm glad to hear someone else has a similar problem! He definitely says when he wants his diaper off- he'll walk over and hand us a diaper.
I'm not sure if it would help to teach him another place that's acceptable to pee, or where to choose. I'm actually considering, if this keeps up for a few more months, putting the potties we've used away and bringing in a completely different one and only putting him on it when he's signaling or right after he's peed (hopefully getting him to go on it in the process). :/