My toddler has defeated me - Mothering Forums

 3Likes
  • 2 Post By evmadi
  • 1 Post By itzj
 
Thread Tools
#1 of 7 Old 03-22-2015, 05:15 PM - Thread Starter
 
evmadi's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2012
Posts: 41
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 2 Post(s)
My toddler has defeated me

My little girl is almost 3, she showed signs of toilet training readiness at 18 months. I did nothing, I wasn't ready. Now, she is messing with me. We started a reward system for using the potty. She will go a tiny bit in the potty, get her toy or treat, one minute later go again and ask for another treat. After numerous trips to the potty she asks for a diaper and unloads. She also hates a dirty diaper and takes it off wherever she is and leaves it for the dogs. Sometimes she insists on underwear, sometimes she insists on diapers. Sometimes she askes me to change her, but mostly she removes her diaper and leaves it on my bed. One minute she "goes in potty" the next she "no like potty"
Just venting, I know she will get it eventually.
evmadi is offline  
Sponsored Links
Advertisement
 
#2 of 7 Old 03-23-2015, 01:21 PM
 
Viola P's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2013
Location: Canada
Posts: 1,090
Mentioned: 4 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 68 Post(s)
Have you tried taking away the diapers all together and letting her go naked from the waist down for a week or so? We did this with ds and he was "trained" in a week. We warned him before we were going to do it, to be fair to him. Also, if you do try it, be warned that she may get angry with you. Ds got mad that we took away his precious diapers and threw the potty!! We stuck with it though and he only did a few pee accidents and before we knew it he was on the potty all the time. We went from naked waist down to loose pants after about 10 days then to underwear after another week. It worked very well. Some people said it sounds a little harsh but i don't understand how they think that. We were obviously v nice to ds throughout it and encouraged him. Now he loves his potty and takes it with him everywhere (in the house).!!
Viola P is offline  
#3 of 7 Old 04-11-2015, 05:08 PM
 
sillysapling's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2013
Posts: 1,700
Mentioned: 31 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 241 Post(s)
Consider raising the bar. The treats were there to master "pee goes in the potty". She's got that. Awesome. Start raising the bar a little more. So instead of a treat every time she goes in the potty- she gets a treat for every [time period] that she only uses the potty and doesn't go in the diaper. Then as that goes on, increase until she gets a treat for every day she only uses the potty. You can make the treats a little bigger as the time periods get bigger as well, just to help her with the transition, but that's really your call.

I have a toddler who prefers pooping on the floor (whywhywhywhywhy) and isn't bothered about peeing there, either. So, just a warning that going diaper free may not fix the problem. Worth a try if she's still asking for a diaper to go in, though.

My almost-2 year old has defeated me as well. Not in exactly the same way. I take solace in the fact (hope) that as soon as he actually knows what the potty's for, I'm pretty sure he'll have no problems potty training. He just doesn't get the idea of what he's supposed to do in the potty and just wants to play with it. :|

Two proud daddies and our little monster
To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
4/13
To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 10 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
1/15
this is just a moment in time, step aside and let it happen

Last edited by sillysapling; 04-11-2015 at 05:11 PM.
sillysapling is offline  
 
#4 of 7 Old 04-15-2015, 08:09 PM - Thread Starter
 
evmadi's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2012
Posts: 41
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 2 Post(s)
We do have diaper free days and I have told her that when the current pack of diapers is gone the world is out of diapers. I like the idea of upping the ante for rewards, she may respond, I'm going to do it tomorrow. I had a real heart to heart... with begging, she agreed to use the potty but only did it once. It's actually getting funny now.
sillysapling and 4GreenBabies like this.
evmadi is offline  
#5 of 7 Old 04-15-2015, 09:31 PM
 
Viola P's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2013
Location: Canada
Posts: 1,090
Mentioned: 4 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 68 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by evmadi View Post
We do have diaper free days and I have told her that when the current pack of diapers is gone the world is out of diapers. I like the idea of upping the ante for rewards, she may respond, I'm going to do it tomorrow. I had a real heart to heart... with begging, she agreed to use the potty but only did it once. It's actually getting funny now.
We used rewards too. After each potty he got two M&Ms. That was very motivating for him, especially at the beginning. But then the problem was that he started staying up late, waiting to pee, so he could get those last M&Ms of the day. So we started phasing them out, first the night ones, then the day ones. He doesn't care at this point, just likes the added cleanliness that using a potty brings.

I try not to negotiate important decisions with my toddlers. They remind me of ducks, no matter what you say or how you say it they just quack and waddle, like this:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MtN1YnoL46Q

We waited until ds was 2.5, i wonder if it would have worked so well if we tried earlier. We are planning on trying earlier with dd so i guess we'll see.
Viola P is offline  
#6 of 7 Old 04-16-2015, 01:43 PM
 
itzj's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2008
Posts: 30
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 2 Post(s)
With dd she saw a doll she really wanted. So I started giving coins if she used the potty and didn't make a big deal if she didn't. It was enough motivation for her. By the time she had enough coins she was totally learned. She got the doll, the coins ended and all was good.
Viola P likes this.
itzj is offline  
#7 of 7 Old 04-16-2015, 05:14 PM
 
Viola P's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2013
Location: Canada
Posts: 1,090
Mentioned: 4 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 68 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by itzj View Post
With dd she saw a doll she really wanted. So I started giving coins if she used the potty and didn't make a big deal if she didn't. It was enough motivation for her. By the time she had enough coins she was totally learned. She got the doll, the coins ended and all was good.
What a great idea!
Viola P is offline  
Reply


User Tag List

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page



Posting Rules  
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off

Online Users: 9,992

15 members and 9,977 guests
angelacrowd2017 , babydoulajo , Deborah , iceface , IsaFrench , Katherine73 , Lucee , manyhatsmom , mirrormus4 , moominmamma , philomom , RollerCoasterMama , thefragile7393 , zebra15
Most users ever online was 449,755, 06-25-2014 at 12:21 PM.