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Old 05-15-2014, 07:20 AM
 
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Thanks MrsKatie! I think you are right! Away with you darned digital scale that tells me to the 1/2 pound how much I weigh, BEGONE! Hahah its tyrany!
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I am starting to get freaked out about weight gain.  I started at 176 and today at 22 weeks, I was 196. something.  Dear God!! I am sure some of it is water as my feet are swollen all day and even in the morning when I wake up.  And really, I am not eating more than normal.  I tried yesterday to cut salt out and see what happened and drink tons and my scale was up 2.5 lbs this morning from 2 days ago. I did however eat cheese, salami and oops whoopie pies.  :)   My last pregnancy I was at 220 and it was HARD to move.  I worked then too, but I remember my back killing me so bad, I could hardly walk around the block and my midwife telling me I needed to walk more.  I really wanted to keep it under 200 or 205 a best, but I don't see how that is going to happen at the rate I am gaining.  Ugh!  Oh and I am headed back to the place I grew up and lived the first 26 years of my life.  I live in mortal fear of running into people I know.  Last year, at 162, I couldn't wait to run into people I knew.  It is amazing how things change in a year. 

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I don't think that sounds too bad, Daisygrrl. If you gain a pound a week from now on that's only about 38 pounds total, and a lot of your current gain is probably from all the "extra" stuff your body makes right at the start - fluids and boob and whatnot. Have you tried tracking your food for a few days? It may be reassuring to see that you're not really eating poorly in terms of calories and nutrients. Or you may find some major junk source that you've been deliberately ignoring smile.gif
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I just started a food journal yesterday.  It really helped me a lot when I was trying to loose weight last year.  Thanks for the nice words.  I think it is just extra hard since I was down about 30 lbs last year from what I am now.  That and my mom keeps asking me about how much weight I have gained. 

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Awwww hugs daisygrrrl. What is it about moms and weight.

I have real triggers with my mom and weight. I try to weigh my girls as little as possible because of it and while they know we have a scale it's never really used unless I need to know weights for car seats or medication.

But on Mother's Day I called and she asks "why have you been so sick? Is it because you aren't eating the right things? Not moving enough? Not getting out enough? "

And it really pissed me off. First off I haven't gained anything, I'm down 5 pounds from when I first got pregnant, and I was down ten pounds from a month before that. My smaller pants are all falling off me, I need more maternity shirts yes but that's because my uterus is growing as it should in pregnancy... Gah! And she doesn't even live near me. The only time she's seen me this pregnancy was on vacation and I was in the middle of MS and on Diclectin. I was eating what I could to get through and still eating well/healthy. I'm sorry I don't chose salads and low fat stupidness at every meal like she does. She has huge body image and food issues and doesn't realize it or won't admit it. It's frustrating. But because I'm so "fat" I must not have a clue what I'm doing. And quite frankly I'm tired of that attitude. No my diet isn't always perfect. But I've been to see nutritionists who have very little clue about celiac. And they are the "celiac specialists". It's frustrating getting told to eat yougurt and oats when you are a new celiac and know that you shouldn't even touch "GF oats" for the first year of diagnosis and even after you may not react well. Or that low fat yougurt is a perfect snack without believing that yougurt upsets my stomach.

I'm sorry you are being asked that daisygrrrl it doesn't matter. I agree with the others who say your weight sounds great! I understand the frustration you must feel having lost weight before and feeling like it's all coming back greensad.gif just think of how much better you probably feel for having lost that weight and working on getting healthier before starting pregnancy! You rock mama and I bet you are absolutely beautiful!

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Delighted.  Thank you!  Your mom sounds a lot like my mom.  She has been a lifetime dieter, always making rude comments about larger people.  She was on weight watchers for eons and now does Curves all the time with an annual Curves diet before they head to FL for the winter.  I can't even think of counting calories, my whole being just rejects that.  After my mom got breast cancer, she seemed to ease up on what she perceives to be others'  faults.  Trying to get right with God, I guess.  :)  She knows we eat mostly a whole foods diet and she is the processed food queen (aspartame is her greatest friend) .  I do the best I can, but this pregnancy makes me not want to eat veggies and crave sweets. 

 

It must be really hard with the celiac's.  We do alright with gluten here, but it would be hard to restrict a whole mass of food.  I know it is in everything.  And i forget if you live near where health food can be accessed.  I am lucky enough to have Azure Standard on my doorstep (practically)  Because I am out in nowhere's ville. 

 

I am glad you don't have to see your mom much.  Mine lives 2,000 miles away and that used to make me sad, but we all make our choices and I know I was meant to raise my family away from her, because if I did live closer, I probably would not parent the way I do or homeschool.  She makes me question everything I do and second guess myself...well used to more so, but the minute she asks me about my 6 year olds reading (she sent him magic tree house books-which I hate) when he is barely reading "Pat has a can",   I go and buy him a reading curriculum, just so I don't have to second guess myself. :)

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Uh huh... Mom has done all the diets... WW (she's a lifetime member!), Jenny Craig, Dr Bernstein <-- which was the biggest crock to date.

Seriously egg whites and slice of processed cheese was her breakfast. She was eating 700 calories a day and didn't understand why I was upset.

And she won't work out to save her life. It's all about the food... Oh an aspertame... I hear you on that. The only aspertame in my diet is the odd piece of gum. I don't know how many times I've argued with her about diet soda and sugar replacers and no fat this or that... Fat and real sugar isn't always evil!!!!

And yes the fact that I let my children decide when they are hungry and snack/graze through the day bugs her. But they eat and make incredible choices...

But yeah it's all about the fat on a body. And for years she was wearing bad bras and never has worn a stick of makeup (not saying make up is good or bad, simply the outer appearance thing). And she rarely wears anything "in style" so it's quite the oddity... I've slowly broken some of those trends but I wish I could break the food one...

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Oh and no our food selection isn't the greatest. I make it work but it is a downfall to living here.

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I was at the doctor yesterday and she said 20 pounds up! You are right on track. She said you can expect to put on about a pound a week from here on out. I gasped. FOURTY pounds heavier! She said thats average! Some women less some women more but you are right where you should be. I actually felt my shoulders relax and breathed a deep sigh of relief. Lol. I'm accepting, not rejecting! 

I will continue to be good about what I eat overall but I am still going to enjoy following my cravings. Why not. If I wand a greasy burger and fries IMA gettin' it! IF I want ice cream, INHALING IT. Just not every day all day long ya know? I was craving avocados all last week. I would get home from work and walk the dog dreaming about my upcoming guacamole fest. I would squeeze out the yummies, add onion, garlic, siracha, cayenne, s&p, a tsp of greek yogurt, and squeeze of lemon. Add non-gmo corn chips...SLAM DUNK BABY! 

Later my friend said ohhh the baby's brain wanted avocados! Appently this is right about the time for avocados and brain development and I had no idea. So way I figure it, if I want avocados, I'm going big or going home. If its cheeseburgers with fries I'll indulge but go home, in the un-big kinda way lol.

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I'm just going to let all you mamas know how to feel less guilty ;-) lol, ALL the burger places I've been, and there have been several because, FRIES!, WILL make your burger "protein style" which means they swap out the bun/bread for a lettuce wrap!!!!  For me, personally, this is HUGE, as I can't eat grains/seeds/nuts of most kinds and don't get full term bloated when I eat a lettuce wrapped burger and fries, vs. eating the bun and all...... HTH, Danielle


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Is there a guilt-free version of Microwave Annie's pouches cooked up with Trader Joe's veg chili?  Because my new late night "snack" is now the biggest meal I eat all day.  Especially when I make myself a second bowl. 

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LOL,  yeah, those second bowls DO make great snacks! I don't know about your TJ's but ours carries a few brands of canned chili, and if I remember correctly NONE of them are "clean" ei, msg/yeast extract  or "natural flavors" or textured soy protein, ect ect ect.... I can't eat these things so I avoid it like the plague, but if you can then I'd suggest looking for the lesser of evils OR making your own, boy how YUMMY does THAT sound!?!?!? Mm, chili, think I've found my next pot o' goodness!


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I'm 23 weeks and haven't gained a pound since my first prenatal, but then, I'm also (EeeeK!) 40 lbs heavier than I was starting out with the last pregnancy! I know the conventional wisdom has seesawed on whether pregnant women should gain regardless of their initial weight, but my midwife isn't the least bit alarmed that I'm not gaining weight this time, simply because she has had plenty of experience over her decades, of women who were larger to begin with, not gaining, or in some cases losing, while pregnant, without harm to their babies, and everything looks good according to the ultrasound I had at 20 weeks, as well as the measurements each visit.

 

If I had known I was going to be pg this time, I would have tried to shed at least 20 of those 40 lbs, first, anyway.


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I think by the time I have my appointment on Wed I may have finally gained a pound or two! I don't know how to feel about it though. I'm scared to gain, since I already weigh so much, but I'm not going to diet either. I simply am going about life eating as good as I can, following my food restrictions and moving as much as I can. If I get sick again I'll lose again. I haven't really kept off the dehydration losses (not going to lie, that would have been awesome) but I haven't managed to really gain anything.

I'm just scared of MEGA gaining greensad.gif But I still barely want to eat so I don't know...

Weight is so hard regardless of were you start your pregnancy, I just know it's messing with my mind in many many ways this time. But baby is definitely getting bigger and stronger! That I can tell!joy.gif

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I have an appt with my midwife today! Someone who (sort of) knows me asked my mil if I was pregnant yesterday! It's the first time anyone has guessed it, so I'm excited to see how much I've gained. I know my belly has gotten bigger! I still have to wear close fitting shirts to see a belly but at least it's visible!
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Yeah I'm polar opposite end of spectrum mommy,delighted, and goingonfour! People on the street are constantly assuming I'm right around the corner from giving birth! Umm nope! 23 weeks kids! Hopefully the little cookie will bake in there as long as he needs to so we got months of these questions ahead! Twins? Wow healthy baby in there, are you SURE its just one? These types of comments and a solid 20 lbs gain! Can I get a woo woooooo. Lol.

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You look amazing crickets!

I am HUGE lol or at least I feel like I am at the end of the day. People who know me say I've popped but I'm sure others just think I'm getting more fat.

But I really do feel like I'm allllllllll uterus except for a couple spots lol.gif

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The end of the day does crazy things doesn't it? I get heartburn after 5pm and more bloated! 

I just think no matter small/big, carrying high/low, swollen ankles or face, that seriously all pregnant women are beauties to behold. There is LIFE inside, precious life and you are the keeper of the treasure until its time for presenting them to the world. I mean how hot is THAT?!

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Thanks cricket, I needed that. For some reason I'm feeling extra self conscious right now, and my husband just made a very ill timed insensitive remark. We're all very lucky to have a new life right there inside of us, and there are many women out there who would give anything to shove swollen feet into our shoes.

10 lbs overall! This is definitely the most I've gained this early, so that's partly why I feel self conscious. I don't have great genes for bouncing back after babies, but I've been very lucky with the first two. My shape changed but I still liked it, I still had energy to take care of myself...I'm a little scared that my age and luck are going to make this time harder and it's not the end of the world but I'm feeling weird about it. I put such little stock in appearances, so it's strange that I feel focused on it now. I love my husband but he is sooooo insensitive to women. He grew up with boys boys boys (FIL has a brother, MIL has 4 brothers, DH has a brother, and he has 10/12 cousins were boys.) He's a big blundering puppy who means well but steps all over your feet. He has no idea why I'm so sensitive, and he tries, but sometimes he just can't figure it out.
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24 weeks and up about 22 lbs. By far the most I have ever gained.
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I am close to 15 at 23 weeks... That is normal for me. Have I mentioned how big I get? Really big! Gravitational pull type big...

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Mommy - my husband can get like that too.

He shows me his love rather than speaks it. I like to HEAR it and know that despite my growing stature he still thinks I'm beautiful right? Yeah, FAT chance! lol.

Last night when I was feeling out of ordinary glowy and pretty (trust me this is rare!) I was putting on my ski hat like I always do to use as a shower cap, lol and he looked at me with electronic toothbrush vibrating, foam dripping out - ooo rook funny. Wow, what a sweet talker. I just said if thats toothpaste-slang for adorable I'll take it and winked, got into the shower. Before he left he poked his head in and said, it is. I said what is? He said YOU know - the slang. He COULDN'T even say it! I said thanks, and he kissed me and left.

Some dudes are just NOT wired apparently for compliments or knowing how to make a woman feel beautiful and desired verbally. I constantly have to remind myself that the flowers he picks for me in the yard every few days, washing my car, lifting the heavier things right now, telling me to remember to not do too much, are his way. Do I love it? No I could use a compliment from him like a dying plant thirsting for water - HELL YES but do I know he loves me without a doubt? Also, Yes. So I try to take solace in that.

One time when the skirts that sort of poofed out and then sort of sinched back to your thighs were in style (for a SHORT time) I put a super cute one on for his family cookout. He walked in and said it looks like you are wearing a saggy diaper. My mouth fell open, I started crying and he just stood there befuddled and said what? I thought you might want to change?

I gathered myself and grabbed some mag that showed this type of thing  on the runway to him and thrust it in his face and said THIS is in style. Grabbed his dirty old teeshirt and said THIS is not! I'm wearing this! We drove over to his sisters in silence. Thankfully, mercifully his sister who lives in NY was the first to greet us and the door and said OHHH Cara - skirt - LOVE! I said thanks! Beamed and then turned and gave him the stink eye. A SAGGY DIAPER? LOL

Now I can laugh but he just says stupid and insensitive things all the time when it comes to my looks. 

 

Ambivilent, well then you and I are in good company! I'm right there with ya! Rollin' home on 22's baby!

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::deep breath:: I can't believe I'm sharing this, but I love you girls.

I've gained the most. Me, little old 5 foot tiny framed me has gained the most weight.

I started at 97, and at 26 weeks, I am 122 lbs...25 lb weight gain. ::gasp::

I am HUGE. I had the ER doctor ask me multiple times if I was sure about my due date, and then he proceeded to look for multiples with the ultrasound. I had a woman make sure I wasn't going to give birth in her store. A man last week said I was close to dropping because my waddle was so intense. I don't think my stomach could possibly stretch any more. And somehow I still fit into size 1/0 maternity wear for the rest of my body.

Apparently because I have no shame, I will share my growth chart with you kind, beautiful, fabulous ladies. Try not to laugh and point.


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I'm still dropping weight, but I will put it on again breastfeeding.  However, I have totally lost any pretense of having a waist- and much earlier than usual.  I usually have a fairly extreme hourglass shape, so pregnancies are camouflaged for a long time, but this baby is just popping out all over the place. 

My husband keeps telling me that he is attracted to me and I am even more beautiful with the pregnancy and so on and I SHOULD love hearing that, but it makes me more self-conscious.  Weird.

Our bodies change so quickly right now that it seems to mess with our minds no matter what is happening.

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Sweetest fragolina! I would never laugh/point! From the pictures you have posted, I think you look amazingly perfectly beatuifully pregnant! That is all that matters! Its hard on a tiny frame too to hold it! I am 5'3" and even I feel so disproportionate not to mention I keep banging into things (not hard) with my belly. My center of gravity is all sorts of off too. I stumble, tip, trip...yeah. We are lower to the ground and have more power packed zone of baby! But I think you look awesome and don't you forget it!

The unsolicited waddle advisor was just that unsolicited and judgy. These people think they know everything. Oh to have the perfect quip back for everything no? How bout hey Mr.Know it all - How about I DROP-kick you right here in the store!? Sigh.

Just remember how beautiful you are carrying this precious sweet life around!

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Rainbow! I'll trade you that part of your hubs for mine, how's that! LOL!

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I love my husband, but I am really really bad at any sort of verbal expression of love or attraction.  I was raised in a family that was not at all expressive or touchy feely (though good at yelling when frustrated or angry)  and we all use sarcasm as our first language.  So meaningful compliments make me feel weird, but cutting criticism and slightly mean jokes make me feel safe.  It's a healthy dynamic. Really.

Luckily my husband is patient about it. I know he'd like me to be more expressive, but all I can usually manage is to change the topic if he's mushy.  "Sure, I love you too.  By the way, what color do you think we should paint the trim on the house?"

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Rainbow! We are the same couple - reversed!

That was exactly how his upbringing was and mine was more complimenting, and my dad was soo in love with my mom.

He was always telling her she looked beautiful etc. In fact in middle school I had some girls sleep over and the next morning, my mom was in the kitchen making pancakes while we all sat around the breakfast table. My dad came in and said smells good! Must be if this pretty lady is cooking and proceeded to swiftly smack her rump! I was MORTIFIED. LOL but now looking back I think it was so great and cute! 

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That is sweet!  My husband and I are more demonstrative than my parents were (I don't think I ever saw them hold hands or even kiss goodbye more than a couple times) because I would like my kids to have a healthier idea about relationships than I have, but it's taken ages for me to get there.

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It's actually good for me to hear what you are saying from a female perspective. To hear another woman share she feels as my man does. I often generalize it to him just being a guy or what have you and forget that for some it actually makes them uncomfortable to hear what to others feels like warm shower of flower petals nourishing the soul! I assume if it makes me feel that way, that he would want to say it but the fact is it makes HIM feel weird etc. So though I still need/desire it, it helps me take it less personally to read and hear this. Thank you Rainbow!

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