So, I've got two munchkins already, one who is 6.5 and one who is 4.5. Since we own a smaller livestock farm, they have always been rather familiar with the whole biological concept of procreation though we do try and keep at least the human part of actually making the baby to just the biological facts and functions. (I actually had to draw diagrams like some of the basic ones from the first sessions of sex ed from elementary school this time!)
Anyhow, the main question is this: will you allow your baby's older siblings to be present?
how old are your kiddos and does that or will that change your answer in the future?
what are you planning to provide for your older children's needs?
Personally, I'm torn. We are planning on a hospital but all natural birth(same place and all as #2
's birth so no worries there) We are planning on having my hubby there, just like always and he's my main support figure. (no doula). I'd love my children to have the option to be there but I'm not sure how best to support them without making myself feel uncomfortable. We live with my in-laws and they often care for our girls but I definitely don't want them there for the birth. (my mother in law has a tendency to hover and it would drive me battier than usual here) My own mother might be fine but she's 5 hours away so it simply may not be practical. we have a close friend who is aunty to our girls and that'd be fine but she also has a farm to manage and run, thus perhaps also not practical. My sister lives in town but her work may not be flexible (but it might) but I'm not sure how comfortable SHE would be being present.
any other suggestions? at 4.5 and 6.5 yo, I don't want to offer something that may not work out and have them bummed out. i also don't want to make tentative plans and then surprise them with the option without being able to prepare them for what they may witness. While sheep just tend to get it over with quietly here, I know it's not as quick and clean and quiet with me...
any suggestions? I'd love to be able to offer them the option with preparation but just haven't found the "right" way for us yet... any suggestions and/or opinions would be helpful!