I find the whole pregnancy and birth thing fascinating because of how it varies so greatly from experience to experience and woman to woman.
Blessed#7 - hmm, maybe there's something to your long labor theory. I did have a very long labor. I was a home birth to hospital transfer. I wasn't having many cervical checks during labor. Once I was fully dilated, we discovered that I had a pesky lip that we couldn't push back so we tried to push past it - no luck. My cervix swelled closed and we couldn't slow my contractions or do anything that was beneficial to reduce the swelling. Finally it was conceded that I should go to the hospital, get an epidural to intentionally stall labor so my cervix would hopefully open up again, which it did - thankfully. I've always been adamant that I don't want a c-section. Anyhow, it was well over 24 hours since my water had broke.
I didn't experience the "ring of fire" because I did have an epidural at the hospital, but my midwives and doulas all said that I went through everything but so I'm thinking that I felt the majority of the pain part. I am still currently a bit worried about how much the ring of fire will hurt, but...it will be as it will be either way so????
I will be 40 on my EDD. I have decided, along with my OB team, not to go past 39 weeks because recent studies have indicated that induction at 39 weeks significantly lowers the rate of still birth, which is of great concern to me. I also decided not to even try a home birth this time due to my age and the fact that I now live quite a distance from a hospital that I feel is competent.
I am not exactly thrilled to learn that each birth, like each pregnancy is different, lol. I like to know what to expect so I can prepare for it. I'm a planner
This pregnancy certainly has been different than my with my son so...I guess that's how this all goes!