We have several months together ahead of us, so let's get acquainted!
I'm Molly, 25, wife to Zach and mom to Lotus,4, and Phoenix, 2. Our EDD is early January. We're crunchy, AP friendly, atheists. I'm a Harry Potter and Doctor Who nerd and I love reading. We're minimalists except for when it comes to books.. We "need" them all! ;p My first two births didn't go great, so third time's a charm! I already have my doula booked (priorities!) and as I type this I'm browsing "big brother" shirts on Amazon.
Hi!!! I am Danica- I am wife to Bryce and mama to 3 lovely beautiful children Bella 11, Arydona 6, and Kai 4. We are crunchy christian farmers in Northern Arizona- soon to be back to homeschooling. I love crochet, gardening, and reading/researching. We have dogs, chickens, rabbits, turkeys and sheep. Hoping for a cow soon also. We grow gardens as well as wheat and rye and our own animal feed. We love living naturally and sustainable. I am due on January 12!
I'm liz. Mom to an almost 4 year old who i birthed at home and stepmom to a 14 year old boy. We live, along with dh, outside of cleveland. I took a test just for the heck of it, before i even missed my period last weekend. This pregnancy is a huge surprise, as i was still trying to get dh on board with another. He is still in shock and very stressed out, but hopefully will come around. I am excited, nervous & a bit overwhelmed with both the financial obligations of another, mostly childcare as i am a nurse, & the emotional aspect with parenting a 3rd. The 14 year old has recently hit a very rough patch & the younger is quite headstrong, impulsive & aggressive. We have our hands full and wallets strapped. Oh wait. This was supposed to be an intro not a heartfelt confession. Overall, i am looking forward to having another and hope dh & i get a better grip on things in the next 8 months before this baby comes in early january.
I'm Jessica, mom to a 6 1/2 year old girl and a nearly 4 year old boy. We have been TTC for a couple of months. I charted this time because I was worried that since I'm older this time (37) it would be hard, but it only took 3 months. Yay! I'm a doula and my partner doula will be my doula for this birth. She's a charting and fertility expert and I've been calling her my fertility doula for the last few months. She's been following my chart on fertility friend and encouraging me and it's been nice to have the support!
I just started a new job in January and it's only part-time, 2 days a week, so I'm hoping they'll give me some maternity leave and my job back afterwards...they don't have to though, I won't have been there long enough or worked enough hours. Fingers crossed for that! I'm a lactation consultant and so is my boss, so I'm sure she'll be sympathetic and do the best she can! Worst case I'll have to just rely on my private practice and get really thrifty for a while...
I had a cesarean with my first and a VBAC with my second and I'm hoping for a VBAC this time around. I went to LA (~100 miles) for my VBAC because my local hospital has a ban. I'm thinking I'll probably go the same place this time, but I may check out some options north of here. But I figure I might as well wait until we see a heartbeat on that first scan before I get too involved in my research!
Count me in! My name is Sara. I have two girls, almost 4 and 2. We got our BFP on the 22nd, only 7 dpo, and I think we might be due around the 5th of January. This pregnancy was not planned; we were on the fence about a third and did a big oopsie, mistaking my ovulation for my period. We are excited, though, and definitely warming up to the idea. I want to be in the DDC because I think it could be a great support for me. First, with the unexpected pregnancy. Second, with telling friends/family that will be less than thrilled. Our girls are fairly close together, as will be this baby and we have some that didn't think we were going to have a third and some that are trying to get pregnant. And third, I had an unplanned c-section with my last (missed breech during a homebirth, transferred during pushing stage) and would like to try for a VBAC. I live in an area where it's not exactly progressive. Here's to a happy, healthy 9 months!
Hiya! I'm Carrie, and my kids are 4 and 1. This pregnancy was a surprise, but DH and I are excited! We're waiting until after my first midwife appt at the end of the month to tell extended family. It's killing me! Lol! And I can't wait to hear that heart beat. EDD is 1/2/14, but both my other kids were late, so I'm gonna tell people the 8th.
My first birth was non-medicated and my second was a water birth at a hospital. Hoping for another water birth with this one!
I'm Jennifer, and I have a 4 year old son and a 15 month old daughter. I'm due mid-January, around the 12 or 13. My daughter's birthday is January 15, so there is a chance we could hit her birthday! This is a planned pregnancy but it happened a little sooner than I thought it would, as my daughter is still nursing frequently! I'm a little nervous about how it will affect her when/if my milk dries up soon. My son nursed through pregnancy, but he didn't nurse too often at that point, and was happy just for a bit of comfort. She's younger than he was and I think she still drinks a fair amount.
My first was an unmedicated hospital birth with a midwife - labour was only about 5 hours, and just about 3 hours were painful. Unfortunately, I hemorrhaged after the birth. My second was born unassisted at home - the midwives had determined I wasn't in labour, left, and didn't come back in time. I caught my daughter in the presence of my husband and doula. It was a water birth and about 8.5 hours. I very much loved my doula and she will be with me again, but I'm having trouble with deciding on a midwife. I wasn't impressed with my midwives for either birth. I'll need to decide quickly, as the practices fill up quickly where I am. I am contemplating calling my midwife only after the baby is born, but perhaps I will find one who I have a good rapport with and who I will want with me.
I'm a 33-yo urban mama. I had my first, now 4 years old, in a freestanding birth center. We are still loving breastfeeding.
I have a week left or so before it makes sense for me to take a test, but I know the signs very well after having several pregnancies that ended between 4-10 weeks. I'm mostly posting here because I can't bear knowing and having no one to tell about it. I have told my two best friends, but not my husband, and am thinking about fun ways to break the news.
I have lots of health issues I've been working on over the past few years, and right now I'm mostly consumed with trying to figure some of those out.
Hi! This is my fourth little one, and I'm so excited! I was hesitant to join because I'm not really ready to tell people yet, but I am dying to talk about it! I'm a doula who has been exceptionally not busy this last year and I'm looking forward to another homebirth. Looking forward to getting to know all of you!
Hi everyone! I'm technically due 30 Dec but 2 out of 3 babies were 41 weekers so I'm expecting this around 6 January. This is my fourth baby although I have only one DD of my own (who'll be 10 in 10 days!) Babies 2 & 3 were surrogate babies. All three were born at home, one of them unassisted which is what I'm leaning towards this time. This pregnancy wasn't planned but my BF and I are so excited about it already. He has an almost 7-year-old DD as well.
I'm a 32 year old APish mama who works F/T out of the home. My DD is 22 months old, still really into nursing. EDD for this little one is Jan 11, 2014. I was 16 days late with DD though so I'll probably tell people I'm due at least a week later just so everyone around me will relax!
We were trying for this one, but I'm very nervous and not really able to get excited yet as I had a m/c in early Feb. Though that pregnancy was a surprise, and I wasn't ready to be PG again, it was still heartbreaking, and has made me a total nervous nellie about being PG again. I don't have any symptoms at all yet, which is worrisome, but I also don't have any spotting like the pregnancy where I miscarried. I had all the usual symptoms w/ my DD but I really can't remember when they kicked in.
If this one is for keeps I plan on trying for a VBAC - any other VBAC mamas here? I had a planned homebirth, even though DD was frank breech, but after a number of hours of pushing transferred to hospital and had a c-section. I NEVER thought I would have a surgical birth - I was SO natural all the way - including no ultrasounds/doppler. My MW said if she had been the right way around it likely would have been a smooth, fast birth. So I'm going to do everything in my power to get that homebirth the next time around.
Anyway as I'm so worried about this PG I'm going to get blood drawn today and every couple of days from now to check HCG. Other than bloodwork, will likely go for a close to 100% medical intervention free PG and hopefully birth.
Hi, I am brand new to this group as well. Wait a sec, back up...I'm brand new to this entire thing. I'm a professional writer, so I have a feeling you'll find me here a lot. Add to that the little detail of me not being able to talk with or share this with anyone outside of my boyfriend, and yeah, you'll be seeing a lot of me in the coming months.
I'm 40 years old and I have NEVER been pregnant before. Fun fact #1: I managed to conceive while on birth control pills, despite the odds, despite the stats about fertility and my age, yadda yadda yadda. I just found out last Thursday and have been in a state of shock, disbelief, euphoria, fear, elation, and just about everything else imaginable. Even my OB doctor and her staff were so shocked by the odds that I'm pretty sure they may throw a parade in my honor.
Questions bouncing around my head since Thursday:
Is this really happening? Can this be happening to me? How is this possible? No way this is happening.
Am I okay? Will the baby survive given I'm an old fart getting knocked up for the first time? Please God, let it be yes. This could be my only chance.
Fun fact #2: My boyfriend and I are not married yet. We were planning a Fall wedding, but yeah, that's kinda gotten shaken up a bit now. It looks like Vegas will have to wait.
Fun fact #3: My parents are staunch fundamentalist Christians who still believe sex before marriage is wrong. It doesn't matter that I'm 40 and have been married before. In their eyes, I'm apparently still 14. (lol...sigh)
And yes, I kid a lot and I'm sarcastic at times, but it's all in a desperate attempt to maintain sanity most of the time. I'm actually one of the nicest people out there.
Looking forward to sharing this experience with y'all. Anyone else scared sh**less?
I am 29 and my partner and I have a 2.5 year old little girl who is still a very enthusiastic nurser, and we co-sleep. I would say that we are very crunchy. We had an early miscarriage this past January, so I am very nervous about this pregnancy but I am trying to stay positive! I had two blood tests this past weekend to check my hCG and progesterone, and the nurse told me today things were looking good. My last cycle started on March 30, so I my EDD would be around January 4. However, we had our daughter two weeks early, so we shall see! We are very excited about conceiving! We had a homebirth last time and we would love to work with our beloved midwife again--she is so special to us. I also would love for our daughter to be present--last week, the night before my positive pregnancy test, she looked in my eyes and told me, "Mama, there is a baby in your belly" and it almost made me cry.
Sending you all good thoughts and looking forward to getting to know you over the upcoming months!
Littlestarlet - My aunt was near 50 when she had my cousin and I know a few moms who had their firsts at 40+. You can do it!
Also, if/when you and your boyfriend visit your family overnight, do you have to sleep in separate rooms? I always wondered if couples age out of that eventually if they're adults and live together, or if the separate room thing sticks until marriage.
Hi everyone! I'm 30yo, have been married to my husband for 7.5 years and together for 12 (since high school). We have two boys, ages 5 and 2, and I had two miscarriages between them.
This babe was conceived our first month TTC and I'm still in shock that it worked the first time. DS #2 took three tries and I was afraid that trend would continue as I get older. I am due January 17th, but like many have mentioned, will be padding my due date so friends and family don't freak out if I go late. DS #1 was 10 days late and DS #2 was 4 days late, but thus far I've been following my mom's pattern and she had her third on his due date, so we shall see!
Our life over the past two years has been crazy, including losing our house, moving twice, living with friends for 6 months, and DH being unemployed/finishing his bachelor's degree. It has just been in the past 2 months that DH got a stable job and things have started to look up. Kind of a coincidence that it happened to line up with when we were going to TTC anyway, but really perfect timing.
I love to read and write, trained as a postpartum doula last fall, and also did a stint working from home as a transcriptionist while my husband finished his degree. I much prefer SAH with the kids, though, and am homeschooling my 5yo, though in a fairly relaxed way so far.
I forgot to mention Fun Fact #4: My boyfriend and I live together and I've managed (and believe me, it has been no small feat) to keep my folks from knowing this. His things are carefully hidden when my parents come to my house to visit (which is probably every other week or so) and he either works late or will kill a few hours before coming home if my folks are here. Crazy, yes...but necessary for my own sanity and to be able to avoid their subsequent judgement/disappointment/shame if they knew their only daughter was knocked up and 'living in sin.'
It has nothing to do with them not liking my boyfriend either. They think he's great and are truly happy I've finally found a 'good guy' after a string of truly awful ones. It's a question of morality. He could be a saint and they would still feel the same way without us being legally married in the eyes of God.
So given all this craziness, we've decided not to tell my parents until I'm through the first trimester. From what I've read, it seems a majority of possible problems happen during this time and you reach safer waters after the first 3 months. That would put us around the end of June or early July to spill the beans. Also, given my mom is in the top 5 of all-time overreacting drama queens, I'm inherently saving myself a lot of strife and stress during the first three months as well. If she knew, I'd be on a non-stop roller coaster and I'm not going to subject myself to that. This miracle baby is far too important to us to jeopardize it by allowing silly and insane drama into what should be an exciting time in our lives.
Fun fact #5: We plan on getting married before we tell them. I've created a story and timeline which would mean I conceived after we were married so they won't throw me under the bus with the rest of the sinners. I'm going to tell them we were married in April, right before my 40th birthday and conceived miraculously in the coming weeks. Will they buy it? Who knows. By then, it will be irrelevant. I'll be in my 4th month, we will be married and exactly where we planned on being in the first place.
I will say, however, that fateful day in June when I do tell them.....it will be something that would earn the highest ratings in reality TV ever. lol
Hi! I am Annabelle, 39 years. My dh, Jeff and I have been married 21 years. We have 11 children and expecting our 12th w/ one very early loss between 8th and 9th. Our first born twins were born by c/s and the rest have been home VBACs w/ the last 8 UC. We plan on the same w/ this baby, including unassisted pregnancy. Our oldest two are in college and one is going away for an internship in June and won't return until October. We homeschool and also have a fledgling farm in WI which we moved to almost two years ago when I was 36 weeks along w/ my last baby. We are beyond thrilled and everyone has been praying we would be blessed w/ another baby. My mom is coming the end of May to visit, we are having a big party celebrating the sacraments the children have received this month and I pray I feel well enough. I usually feel rather poorly the first trimester and get pregnancy insomnia quite early.
I started a job two months ago, one day a week, to put money in savings and I hope I can continue that.
Hi, I'm Marika. My husband and I have one son who is almost 2.5. I had him naturally in the hospital (I couldn't get a midwife since they are funded by the health care system and in really high demand) We are a pretty crunchy AP family. I am a WAHM, but I have shut it down until after the baby is born (I needed to put in another supplies order then got pregnant and pretty sick, so I took it as a sign) This time around, I peed on the stick, told my husband, then called the midwives. Since it was so early we got in I actually got calls back from THREE practices this time around to offer me a spot! Last pregnancy I had HG so this time I am doing everything I can to try to not get it so badly, I'm already vomiting once a day and am lucky if I don't more, so far I have been using an assortment of homeopathics, a hazelwood necklace (Which I noticed has helped) B6, eating often. According to the charts baby should be here around Jan 1st, though I have a feeling he will be here a little earlier. My son was born on his due date, my husband predicted the time and date pretty much exactly (there was a full lunar eclipse with a full moon at the time)
Originally Posted by littlestarlet
I forgot to mention Fun Fact #4: My boyfriend and I live together and I've managed (and believe me, it has been no small feat) to keep my folks from knowing this.
This made me laugh. It's not necessarily funny, it's just that I understand it so well. After you get married, be sure to stage photos of your boyfriend moving in. And have him prepare some bits of conversation about what the transition to living together has been like. But oh, it's so nice to be together now!
--- Fibbing on the due date. I like that idea. My first two came at 37 weeks and at 43+3 weeks, so I have nooo idea when this one will come. :x
I just found out I am due January 8th 2014 with baby #2. My DH & I have been married for 6 years in June and live on a small farm. We lso have a family business he runs & I work 2 days a week. DS will be 2 next month and although this was a planned pregnancy I am extremely anxious about turning my DS's perfect little world upside down!! I really want him to have a sibling but am worried at the same time!! I am 38 and will be 39 when this baby is born and also wonder If I will have the energy it takes for an infant & a toddler. I guess a part of me thought I wouldn't get pregnant but after just 3mos of trying here we are. Anyone else feel this way before #2 arrived??
This made me laugh. It's not necessarily funny, it's just that I understand it so well. After you get married, be sure to stage photos of your boyfriend moving in. And have him prepare some bits of conversation about what the transition to living together has been like. But oh, it's so nice to be together now!
--- Fibbing on the due date. I like that idea. My first two came at 37 weeks and at 43+3 weeks, so I have nooo idea when this one will come. :x
Staged photos! Omg....you're brilliant and my new BFF. Lol
Don't you usually deliver within a week or so of your due date? Wow, I am so clueless about this. If nothing else, I'm sure I'll keep this group entertained by asking all the dumb questions!
Hi everybody! I'm 33 and pregnant with #1 after more than three years of trying...actually we had pretty much given up a year ago and it happened out of the blue with no intervention or even trying to time things right. We're crunchy Christian RVers (DH's job requires extended travel at certain times of the year and I'd rather go with than not see him for a month or two. We live in our 5th wheel full time but stay based in the Houston metro area when we can.) Still super nervous this babe isn't going to stick but trying to be hopeful! Hoping for a homebirth but I'm significantly overweight right now so I'm going to really have to buckle down and do my part for a healthy pregnancy. Nice to meet all of you!
UPDATE: Unfortunately it looks like this one is not going to stick for us. Good luck to all you ladies!
Hi,
I just found out I am due January 8th 2014 with baby #2. My DH & I have been married for 6 years in June and live on a small farm. We lso have a family business he runs & I work 2 days a week. DS will be 2 next month and although this was a planned pregnancy I am extremely anxious about turning my DS's perfect little world upside down!! I really want him to have a sibling but am worried at the same time!! I am 38 and will be 39 when this baby is born and also wonder If I will have the energy it takes for an infant & a toddler. I guess a part of me thought I wouldn't get pregnant but after just 3mos of trying here we are. Anyone else feel this way before #2 arrived??
My DD will be 2 next month too and I have the very same concerns - life w a toddler and newborn (yipes!), trying to fathom loving another LO as much as my daughter, and her feeling displaced, abandoned, etc. she's a real mama's girl. I get the feeling that these are very common concerns though, and that it can be done thoughtfully and well
Hi everyone! I'm 36 and pregnant with #2 which is a pleasant surprise for us...DD is 4 yrs old and we maybe thought she would be an only. We live in very expensive SF bay area and housing is $$crazy expensive.. Both of us work fulltime, though i think DH would love to stay home we just couldn't afford to stay here. Daycare/preschool - sooo much! we don't have family nearby to help out, but i am excited to have a sibling for DD, and only a few months after the new baby comes she'll start kindergarten! My due date is january 7th which is actually very cool because in our extended family everyone's bday is in september or march- it's a nice change. We haven't told any of our family yet though...just waiting until the 12th week. Glad to meet you all.
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