Join Date: Oct 2013
Location: Northern California
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I, like EmeraldTrees, will be having my first and his third. His kids are great – 9 and 11 – and sadly live 500 miles away from us with their mom (We are in NorCal, they are in Southern California). The kids are great – excited and involved via FaceTime – but I have a feeling that the youngest (a girl) will have a hard time adjusting to no longer being the baby. She loves her daddy a whole lot, and expects 100% of his attention when she is around. Lots of transitions all around.
The divorce is relatively new for them – in the past two years, their parents have split, dad and I got married (we met about 5 months after they split), and now a baby is on the way. Their mom is in a new relationship also and is recently engaged, so there are lots of changes happening all around.
Personally, I have had some selfish struggles thinking that my husband has already experienced all of these exciting "firsts" and that he isn't going to be experiencing it all as a new parent like me (totally irrational, I know...). For him, my parenting hopes and dreams are VERY different than his first marriage. For example, he bottle-fed his two kids (they were formula fed from day 1) and I am hoping to breast feed. He looks back on feeding his kids as a really special time, and I think he is nervous that he won't have that experience with our children.
I am nervous about the change in our family dynamics, but I am certain that we will all love this baby!
Farmer, Teacher, and Soon-to-be Mama!