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#1 of 8 Old 07-21-2014, 09:41 AM - Thread Starter
 
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Baby's Room - DD sad

We cleaned up the baby's room and set up his crib yesterday. We haven't decorated yet, this is just the bare room. We had DD (9) go through her things as we are going to have a sale (she wants to make $). She was having a hard time getting rid of anything saying that he was going to get all the new stuff... so she will just watch him play. While I know she was having her own little pity party, I can only imagine how much her world is changing. She has been our only child for 9 years and now she will have to share are love, time and space. I know she will be an amazing big sister (she reads to him daily now and kisses him good night every night). However, I expect that she will have her moments. I just hope that I have the patience and understanding to help her through them.
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Aww, the room looks sweet already. Maybe you could make a few decorative adjustments to big sister's room to help make her feel special, and while doing so a nice long talk about being a big sister and about how she is feeling?

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Maybe do a project with her for her little brother. I think getting her more involved in the process might help.
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When my daughter was little and I was pregnant for my son, I cried because it wasn't going to be just her anymore. I just wanted to spend as much quality time just her and I before there was a new baby. She wanted a sibling SO bad that she was never worried about sharing her mom and dad. When my son was born, I didn't want her to resent him or have a hard time adjusting. We were extra careful when we were talking about the baby, to say something about/to her (how sweet she was, pretty she looked, how we love her so much, how well behaved she was today... etc). I read allot about bringing in a new baby, and I read books to her about having a new sibling. I would suggest getting her a book about having a new sibling or reading one with her. IDK about your daughter, but my eight yr old plays with baby dolls still. Maybe get her her own "baby" and let her play mom?
I'm SURE as soon as she holds her new brother she'll have NO problems!
BTW the baby room looks great
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I think you are both right. We added a blackboard to her room (she loves toplay school and draw) and bought a new picture that we hung too. I think maybethey forget (as do I) the little things. In retrospect, maybe having her cleanout her things while we focused on his room made her feel forgotten about. Mytiming was not the best! I am just going to have to be extra diligent in makingher feel as special as she is to me.

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Also, if she was selling some of her old stuff, won't she be able to use the money on something new for herself? So, she is getting new stuff too.
But I agree with the PPs, try to get her involved in decorating the baby's room, and do something special with her that's about her too...
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We redid DS's room (very cost effectively) before we started working on the nursery. We did a Captain America theme with an American flag over his bed, some comic book metal posters, I bought a cheapo lamp and painted the shade blue with white stars and the base is red, painted his furniture blue, made a curtain to hang under his loft bed to create a hideout (it is red and white stripes) and all of this cost very little since it was DIY. He feels like he has his special space and he is overjoyed to help create a special space for his little sis...Maybe something like this would work for you?
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That sounds so cool. We are doing something similar for my son and daughter. Both of the kids are getting room makeovers, but it will be very cost effective and DIY.

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