One thing I read recently that really resonated with me was to focus on releasing tension, rather than trying to relax during contractions. So how you release tension is up to you- it might be yelling, hitting a pillow, a rhythmic movement, counting your breath, etc. I was not able to relax during tough contractions with my daughter- the hypnobirthing thing just did not wrk for me, so the idea of doing what I need to to release tension during contractions, and focusing on relaxing between them, was really helpful for me.
Mama to a DD, born 5.20.2012
Expecting #2 in Early November 2014!