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#31 of 49 Old 07-06-2014, 09:17 PM
 
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My very impressive bloating has forced me to start telling people-- before they start asking me if I've been enjoying more beer!
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Well, we're back from our trip so I can update you on how the announcing went:

Thursday night we executed the plan I posted here. My sister was unexpectedly the most excited--so weird. Dad seemed happy. Mom was, um...freaked out. She's going to need a little time to come to terms with this. Hopefully she will.

Saturday DH told his parents. His mom was over the moon excited to be a grandma, but his dad was super weirded out and pulled the "I'm too young to be a grandpa" card and kept telling us how much work kids are and how he's not good with kids (!). Ugh.

Sunday we were with my extended family (I'm super close with all of them) to take family pictures out on my grandparents' farm. I took the opportunity to surprise them right before a picture--"On the count of 3, everybody say baby!" and THAT got a hugely positive reaction, especially from my aunts. It was so nice to end the trip with a reaction that didn't have any baggage attached!

So, whew. This weekend was an emotional roller coaster!
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knittygritty, how exciting to share with such good sounding people.
Your folks and his will get over it once they meet their grandchild... and then a few years down the road, you'll kinda wish they didn't know they had a grandkid!! lol... I told my partner that this time around, this child will keep a safe distance for a little while... my parents and his both had a hard time grandparenting by our parenting styles. So much love, but also so much sugar, and plastic toys and television, etc etc etc.

Of course, I'm only half joking. As teenagers now my kids have a tremendous relationship with their Grampy, and I'm thankful for their role.

Glad it went well! They've got time to settle into the idea... <3

P.S... That last one ought to make a GREAT photograph!!!

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That sounds so fun seems like it went well
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"Everybody say baby!" is so cute--what a sweet way to surprise them. I'm so glad the reaction was largely positive! That's wonderful!

See, BABIES. They are great! Naysayers can shove it!

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So glad it went well for the most part!

I randomly told some aunts and uncles on the 4th. My dad's older brother was THRILLED. He practically shouted "That's my girl!!" and squeezed me. My dad's little sister thought I was kidding at first and didn't believe me for a few minutes until everyone confirmed that it was true. She seemed happy though and told her young kids they were going to have a second cousin. I was really happy about it all and I left feeling so good about the future, I know this baby will be SO loved. My aunt now affectionately refers to me as "preggy". Gotta love family

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I am about to go tell my pastor's wife. I know that she will be sweet about it, but I almost feel like I am going to tell my mommy that I have been a naughty girl. Speaking of moms, I haven't told either set of parents yet. How bad would it be to wait until they figure it out on their own? My mom is supposed to be coming for Thanksgiving. I figured that she could guess then.
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Glad everyones announcements are going well!

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I am about to go tell my pastor's wife. I know that she will be sweet about it, but I almost feel like I am going to tell my mommy that I have been a naughty girl. Speaking of moms, I haven't told either set of parents yet. How bad would it be to wait until they figure it out on their own? My mom is supposed to be coming for Thanksgiving. I figured that she could guess then.
I was cracking up at this, dentonmidwife! You are a naughty girl! I always feel weird when I think about telling some certain people. OMGosh! They know that I have had sex at least like 6 times. When it was just once or twice, it was no big deal... but 6!?!?! That's A LOT!

By Thanksgiving, your mom would be able to guess for sure. You'll be 6 or so months by then! You can tell her you wanted to give her something to be thankful for! Or, if you want to wait even longer, you can just tell her you are hiding the turkey under your shirt!
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Lol! It's that whole being pregnant without being married thing. Last time people tried to punish me and say hurtful things about. Yeah, it is not what I planned, but my pregnancies are so bad with the nausea almost borderline HG that I feel like that is punishment enough sometimes.
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Such great stories!

Not to hijack the thread, but I'm wondering ... mamas of more than one, when do you tell DC#1 that a new baby's on the way?
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Such great stories!

Not to hijack the thread, but I'm wondering ... mamas of more than one, when do you tell DC#1 that a new baby's on the way?
I think it depends pretty heavily upon the child, and upon the family. We're sharers--all of us!--so we knew that a) we would want to tell our older kids pretty quickly, b) we'd want to tell *everyone* pretty quickly, and c) the moment we shared with our kids, we would have as good as told the world. We waited until we saw a strong heartbeat on the dating ultrasound at 8 weeks, and told them literally in the car on the way home that afternoon. Sure enough, since then they have told just about everyone they've seen. We're talking random strangers on the street. "Hi! See my mommy? She has a BABY IN THERE!" So... yeah. That being said, though, they are also a bit older than some--three and five--and have been enthused about adding another baby to our family for a while now, so we had a pretty good sense that the news would be received well.

TL;DR... Point is that our decision was pretty heavily individuated, and I think you'll find that holds true for many people. Lots of different children, lots of different families, lots of different ways and moments to let them in on the big news!

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Same here. We waited until after the ultrasound and then told our kids (7,5,3,1) on the way home. The oldest two were very excited, the three year didn't really show any reaction (and neither did the 1 year old of course).

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The last two times, I told the others pretty quickly. This time I am waiting to talk to a urologist about my kidneys and some testing. I want to have a game plan lined up, so that the kids don't freak out that I am going to die, since that is what the last urologist said could happen with the next pregnancy.
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Everybody around me knows except for our families. This is number five for us and I'm anticipating some less-than-ideal reactions. I know I'm going to be very defensive for my baby and I don't feel up to dealing with it right now. Sad, but true!
Well, my family knows. Our local friends know (and are all super-excited, we run with a lot of larger families) - and pretty much anyone who asks or hears a conversation I'm involved in!

This is #6 for us. DH's family is big into 'get on the v-train' hassling, so he doesn't want them to know yet. SO, no FB announcement for me yet. My grandmother actually told me, "Oh no!" I didn't expect that from her. The rest of my side has been getting better with their reactions, thankfully.
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I tell them all right away, waving the pee stick around and all . I can't keep it a secret, never! It's way too exciting! Of course, this time my 3-yo drew some lines on a stick, dipped it into some wet mud outside and proudly proclaimed she was 'pegant' a week after my announcement. "See my pegancy test!" LOL!

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Such great stories!

Not to hijack the thread, but I'm wondering ... mamas of more than one, when do you tell DC#1 that a new baby's on the way?
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We told our moms; DH and I told a few close friends, and someone guessed when I wasn't drinking at a 4th of July party. I'm off for the summer, so no one at work knows, and probably won't until school starts again.

DD is 4 and has been telling us for the past 2 months that she's ready to be a big sister and making tearful requests for us to have a second. Since I'm a little more nervous this time around, I think I may wait for the first ultrasound and hearing the heartbeat to tell her.
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I told my boys after a few weeks of my knowing last time. After we miscarried I decided to wait until the first trimester was over this time around. Though at 13, I now realize they pick up on this stuff on their own. Mine ds2 called me out on it at around 9 weeks.
The urgency to share with anybody has been much less with this one... Come July 29th, though... I'll be ready to take the congratulations!

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Such great stories!

Not to hijack the thread, but I'm wondering ... mamas of more than one, when do you tell DC#1 that a new baby's on the way?
We are waiting for the u/s tomorrow to give us the "all is well". Our 7yr DD is highly emotional and we decided it would be better to make sure the baby is doing well before giving her or our other DD the news. Also, they are the biggest mouths in the land, as soon as they know, the universe will know.

We have told some friends and family. My coworkers were asking a week before we found out! Gotta love working in nursing with lots of women/mothers.

Holding off on telling my parents. I'm not sure what their reaction is going to be and could definitely wait awhile for any negative feedback. My MIL, however, is thrilled and I am eternally grateful for her support!

This is our first baby together and we are SO excited!
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