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Unassisted Birth

I was speaking with my prospective home birth midwife yesterday, and she planted the seed on having an unassisted birth. My husband had mentioned it before, but I blew it off... Hearing it from this woman I trust and admire and hearing of her support of me during the pregnancy to make sure that I would be a good "candidate" for an unassisted birth gives me a new confidence about it.

The more I sit with the idea, the more empowered and "right" it/I feel.

Have any of you had, are thinking of having an unassisted birth?
Reading recommendations? I would clearly not want to go into this decision without feeling a healthy amount of understanding of the process and potential problems to pay very serious attention to...

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I had an unassisted last time with my fifth. I received care from an ob the entire time, but intended and prepared for an unassisted water birth. Then my son came in an hour, so it's a good thing we were prepared! My husband doesn't want to do it again because he doesn't want the responsibility of everything on his shoulders for the after care and cleanup. I'm pretty sure all the reading and research I did was here on the forums and at that freebirth web site, if I remember it correctly. It's all about confidence in yourself and your own body. I felt very confident since it was my fourth natural childbirth.

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There is a group on facebook called "exploring family birth" lots of knowledgeable women and resources on there.
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I have an aunt who is a doula and she keeps me informed of birth matters. We are not allowed to home birth in Nebraska, or at least, I think we may be allowed to unassisted, but no professional is allowed to assist without losing their license or credentials. So I guess it's not a choice unless I want to drive across a border, which I don't.

My last birth was in a hospital, they were very accommodating to my birth plan and the baby never left me, except to go to the nursery for a hearing test and I went with him. The only thing I didn't like was that they would come in every 2-3 hours asking would I please pump and feed, which I think is ridiculous. If the baby is hungry, he will wake up and cry. And also they wouldn't discharge me until I made an appointment with a pediatrician, which they had to confirm. But other than that, it was very non-intrusive.

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I have an aunt who is a doula and she keeps me informed of birth matters. We are not allowed to home birth in Nebraska, or at least, I think we may be allowed to unassisted, but no professional is allowed to assist without losing their license or credentials. So I guess it's not a choice unless I want to drive across a border, which I don't.

My last birth was in a hospital, they were very accommodating to my birth plan and the baby never left me, except to go to the nursery for a hearing test and I went with him. The only thing I didn't like was that they would come in every 2-3 hours asking would I please pump and feed, which I think is ridiculous. If the baby is hungry, he will wake up and cry. And also they wouldn't discharge me until I made an appointment with a pediatrician, which they had to confirm. But other than that, it was very non-intrusive.
I am glad that you have a pretty good hospital option. I just wanted to mention... It is legal in every state to give birth at home. Unfortunately, in some states (like yours), it is illegal for a Certified Nurse Midwife to attend a home birth. There are other midwives that are not CNMs, but direct entry midwives or non-nurse midwives, that work within Nebraska's borders. I don't know if you are wanting to explore homebirth as an option or if you are content with the hospital you had your last at... But here is a really good site that explains the home birth climate in NE and some links leading to ways to find practicing hb mw's there. I am really passionate about pregnant women and new moms having access to all of the options that they would like to explore. (I am a doula... so, occupational hazard? )If you are happy with your hospital, please disregard my input.
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I do have the option of traveling just over an hour to a midwife center, but this being my fourth I'm afraid I would have it in the car on the way over, so I will stick with the hospital in our town. But thank you for the info, jodieanneanton!

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With my last, my midwife was worried about me overlapping with a client that was 3 hours away from me. I told her to worry about her client and I would birth unassisted if necessary. While I would prefer my midwife to be there both last time and this time, I could handle unassisted if necessary.
There is also a Facebook group called something like unassisted reading room with suggestions on what to read.
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Yup. First was midwife-assisted homebirth. Second was a planned UC, after 31 hours of active labor (wasn't worried a bit) and he's a perfectly healthy 3 year old

Expecting Feb 2015 sometime and expecting another UC, God willing!

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This is #3 for me. 1 & 2 were w MW. Now for my UA! I'm stoked! Although today has been a rollercoaster of weeping...totally unprovoked anxiety and lows. What the hay?!??! Popped on here for the .first time in years...just needing some community I guess. I need to redirect my focus. What to do when ya feeling soooo blue? Lovin you mommas...
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I think it's common (#3 babe for me too). I have been very weepy/emotional lately -- not so much blue but emotional. With regard to anxiety, I feel a bit of it too in early pregnancy because I like all my "ducks in a row". Once I've made solid decisions and have made peace with them, it fades. Just have to work through all the emotions and stuff.

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Hey mamas, I too am having #3 and thinking about unassisted after 2 homebirths. It's pretty exciting! Sorry you're feeling blue Ommamma. Hope you're feeling better today!
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I just got finished emailing a prospective midwife. I don't know if I'll tell her or not that I'm thinking about unassisted. I am really not into debating, or defending my choice....if that's what I choose, an unassisted birth that is. I just want to meet with a couple of midwives to see if they 'click', and I'll take that into all my consideration.

We just moved to a new town 6 months ago, and don't know anyone...and I guess that's my biggest hurdle. I know we will need help.....setting things up, breaking them down, help with the kids, etc. I am pretty comfortable about getting along with the birth itself, it's just all the little things I don't want my husband to be overwhelmed with.

I'd love to have a doula to just generally help with it all, someone who understands the homebirth atmosphere....but, it seems most are worried about liability in an unassisted birth, and tend to disagree with it in general. I don't know.....I'm hoping to find a solution, even if it's just in my head some time soon, for peace of mind.

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