Not unpopular, murrelet. I was just talking with my husband about this today. We both agreed to do an ultrasound as our only medical check-in. For both of us, if we saw some life debilitating abnormality it would be unquestionable about our course of action. I know it sounds selfish, but that's not the role I want to sign up for.
I began taking it even further, and began thinking about what would happen if our baby developed, say, a brain tumor at a year and a half (a friend of mine had this happen... he is now permanently disabled, and at 14 has the mentality of a 4 year old...). It was a surprise to him to hear that I would consider not intervening medically at that point, and letting nature play it out. It would be hard, but so is having to take care of a 4 year old for the rest of your life. Then I began wondering if it would even be legal for me to decline medical intervention... and I got myself all worked up, so decided to change the subject.
I admire all those on here who expressed that this is it, whatever showed on tests, or in real life. I began to feel like I was already a bad mother. Then I realized how much worse of a mom I would be to have a constant feeling that my child was a burden. I believe the souls who come through us know how we'd react, and come through us each individually to experience either the releasing of the possibility, or the coming to fruition with a disability. Neither is right or wrong. It's just our paths.
Thank you for sharing, murrelet. Your honesty allowed my own.
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Last edited by happyday8598; 07-13-2014 at 01:20 PM.